Ways to Easily Evolve when Facing Life Transitions

You may find yourself going through some sort of transition in life. If so, this is normally not an easy process as you may be facing the challenge of being in the ‘muddle’ of life. One moment feeling like you have it all handled, and the next, wondering what happened!

Who am I now? You may be asking! What are my next steps? What happened to the clarity of direction you may have had in the past? I have often felt like I have hit a brick wall with clarity turning into a haze of uncertainty. On many an occasion when facing transitions in life, I have often caught myself asking these very profound questions.

The most challenging and rewarding path is our evolving transitions in life. Some of the many evolving paths I have personally witnessed is the transition of being married to then going through divorce, from being employed in a large organization to starting my own business, from health and wellbeing challenges to guilt-free self care, from financial security to financial uncertainty and many more.


The Power of Uncertainty and Vulnerability

During these transitional times, my clarity of direction in life always went through a dark tunnel of uncertainty and vulnerability. The truth is, I never made it easy on myself because I would always resist the change. This would cause greater stress, anxiety and overwhelm in my mind and body, which never made it a quicker journey towards reaching a new normal.

I always found that there was light at the end of this dark tunnel when allowing myself to be patient inside of the feelings of uncertainty. As I would continue to focus on what I was certain about inside my life right here and now, this would help me to stay present to what was already working in my life.

I knew my habitual personality was to create strategies and work it all out.  I was committed to doing things differently without the push, strive and drive. To allow new insight and awareness to come to me at the time it is meant to. To trust that there is a powerful learning lesson inside this transition and if I push it, I will only make it harder to learn the lesson.

To remind myself that there is light inside this dark tunnel and not to push for results.

I would remind myself of the saying…

“You may not always get what you think you want,
but you will always get what you need for your highest evolution.”

I always found myself peacefully coming out the other end with greater awareness and insight into the next phase of life with a deeper knowing of what was right for me at that stage of my life.

We know that change and transitioning is a part of life, so why do we sometimes hang on to the same old story keeping us from living a successful and fulfilling life?

If you are hanging on to a story of what success is meant to look like, like I did, then it will take a very long time to see the learning lessons and ways to create a new life with this new awareness, knowledge and insightful wisdom.

When going through the muddle of a life changing transition, it can cause many fearful feelings of self-doubt, overwhelm, disappointment, uncertainty and vulnerability. If you are use to having success in your life, without the challenges that will cause you to gain new insight about yourself, then you may get stuck in your thinking and automatic action processes, limiting your full potential.
 

Are You Really Living your Purposeful Path?

The natural evolution of transitioning is important for the exponential growth of your purpose. You may be on the wrong track and something will interrupt your habitual path in order for you to gain greater insight into your real self. To create the space and time needed, to allow yourself to develop new ways of creating a life and business you love to live from inside out.

For many years, I followed a path of what I thought success looked like. I realized that I had developed this picture due to unmet needs of being liked, accepted, loved, respected, acknowledged, valued etc. When I met those needs intrinsically, that is when I was able to clearly see and feel my purposeful path of inspiring others to tune into being an expression of their real self.

I needed to clean up my own needs to get myself out of the way. In other words, I was able to hear my calling instead of what I thought I needed to do to be successful. This came in the way of clear next steps, one step at a time.


Become Your Own Best Friend

So if you are going through a transition as we speak, allow yourself to feel the space of vulnerability and uncertainty. Become your own best friend inside this space and make sure you do not try to fill the space up with old habits. Feel the space and acknowledge every single feeling coming up inside of you (yes, be with your feelings and do not squash them down or push them aside).

Speak kindly and gently to your fears and doubts with support and guidance just like you would a scared child. This is exactly what I did. Instead of making my feelings wrong and burying them by pushing harder, I decided to become my own best friend and speak to myself with a supportive, kind and loving voice.

If you continue to beat yourself up with the old theory of ‘no pain – no gain’ (like I use to), then you will find yourself trying harder and harder in life to achieve. This will keep you on the treadmill of continually hitting the glass ceiling and feeling exhausted each day. Your health and wellbeing will definitely suffer. This will affect the quality of your relationships at home and at work.

As I mentioned to a colleague this week, who is going through a transition
at this time in her life, to make sure she ‘feels the space’ – ‘not fill the space’.

 

Myth:  Busy is the New Black

Too often I have felt lazy if I was not keeping busy or feeling like I was not being productive. When in actual fact I was living a false sense of productivity. This was my ego habitual self and not the truth to getting to know my whole self.

We are too quick to get on the busy path, instead of allowing the space to guide us one step at a time. Your inspiring vision will come to you when you stay in a state of ease, flow and stillness.

Ask yourself these 5 questions if feeling challenged right now:

  1. What meaning am I making from this event/change?
  2. What am I learning about myself in who I am being and how I am acting or reacting?
  3. Why am I acting this way and what new insight have I gained?
  4. Who do I choose to become now that I know this about myself?
  5. What new actions am I going to take to support my new commitment?
Visioning: The Power of Living and Working in the Zone

In the fast pace of life and business today, it is easy to get caught up in reaction mode with a false sense of productivity. This makes getting into their zone quite challenging for best results. Clients are always pleasantly surprised just how much more they can achieve, in less time and with less effort, when they are working and living in the zone.

As a champion sportswoman many years ago, peak performance and full potential were evident when ‘playing in the zone’.

Are you being productive utilizing your full potential in the zone?

Do you actually know what your zone is and how to get into the zone?

I remember having a ritual in preparation for game day. This ritual consisted of listening to upbeat music, I would prepare my gear the night before, I did not go out the night before, I would speak positive to myself, I would eat certain foods before the game, I would do deep breathing exercises, I would warm up my body and my mind before the official warm up. Doing these helped me to get into the zone before stepping on the field.

I was always researching ways to improve my standard to move beyond peak performance in the zone. The most powerful tool I have ever used which I learnt over 30 years ago was visioning.

My national trainer told me the story about where Olympic athletes had used visual rehearsal in their mind of the event using all their senses as a part of their training. Evidence had revealed that every muscle in their body was activated to the same degree of exertion as though they were running the event. I then decided to use this tool everyday for my national training.

I would visualize my performance on the field, the team plays I wanted to run, I would see myself scoring touchdowns in my mind, I saw myself winning fairest and best, being in the zone, playing with confidence and leading the team to win.

My trainer also suggested that I record my voice saying positive performance statements and to listen to them every night as I was going to sleep. This would program my belief system to support my mind and body to perform at peak level. I developed persistence and a greater sense of self-belief, which kept me in the zone and focused for the whole game.

I am clear that these tools were a major part of my winning formula that supported me physically, mentally and emotionally. I was able to keep moving forward, to say focused on the game, to support and back up team members, to get on with the game if a play did not come off the first time, to continue to get back up if I took a hit.

I have been using this same winning formula, which has contributed to my extraordinary professional and personal success.

Just like in sport, it is very powerful to live and work in the zone. It is important to get to know the best way for you to put yourself into the zone for greater focus. Knowing when you are in action, there is a particular zone that you need to be in to perform at peak level continually. You need to know how to set up the environment in a way where there are no distractions. Your mindset needs to be in a state of laser like focus and the energy you bring forth into every action your take needs to be grounded and clear.

When living and working in the zone there is a flow that occurs which I call the ‘free-flow zone’. The more you practice being in your zone you will notice a presence that is much more powerful because of who you are being, not just by what you are doing or saying.

There is a deeper level to that, but mainly it is all about really staying connected from within. Leading and living from the heart, trust your gut, that instinctual part of you, then taking action that connects with the whole you.

 

 

Design your Life and Business Success for 2019

Happy New Year. Welcome to 2019. I am really looking forward to sharing a truly inspiring year together filled with purpose and presence.

It’s that time of the year where my husband, Mark, and I sit by the pool with our favourite bottle of champagne and cheese platter, taking time out to reflect on our year. We find this helps us to gain clarity of our direction for this coming year. Especially clarifying our evolving next steps in alignment with our vision, goals and values.

Throughout the year, we write on post-it notes our acknowledgements for the day, expressing gratitude for new experiences we have had, humbled by the people we meet and share time with, quality time with our family, grateful for current and new work contracts, financial growth, new business opportunities, time-out for self, health and fitness, events we have attended, and anything else we feel most grateful for.

We have a very large vase sitting in the corner of our kitchen to remind us of the importance of reflection each day. It certainly does not take long for the jar to fill up. Take a look at it this year.

One by one we reminisce on events, places, people, challenges, opportunities, we have experienced. We share our realisations and insights of where we are today, new insights we have gained and what new learnings we want to expand on this year.

With a big ‘cheers’ and the sound of the clinging of the champagne glasses, we celebrate those special moments all over again.

As we remember events we totally forgot about attending, reminisce about the places we visited on our holiday in Singapore, thankful for the contracts that came out of the blue, humbled by the quality of time we spent with our family and friends, surprised about the number of movies we saw (definitely movie buffs) and much more.

I mentioned to Mark that I see a pattern in our acknowledgements and how the actions we take truly indicates what is most important to us. For example, we noticed our love for events and movies, dinner dates together, time with family and friends, loving our work life, enjoying time in our garden, love my writing time at cafes close to the beach, our walks along the beach, making time to exercise, breath meditation, walking our dog in nature etc.

We notice our life theme running throughout every reflection. It was very obvious to us, as to what is most important in our lives, in looking at specifically where we are spending our time.

Our values stood out very clearly and we were very excited to confirm our commitment in the way we lived our everyday way of life and business correlating with our core values.

The theme running through our values is:

  • Loving Marriage
  • Connection with Family and Friends
  • Energising Health, Fitness and Well-Being
  • Fulfilling Business Life
  • Harmonious Home Life
  • Balancing Time for Self

The benefits we both notice and shared with each other is that we never realize just how much we already live a full life. We often find ourselves so busy getting caught up in where we are heading and not stopping to fully take in the fullness of the simple steps we take each day. We also noticed what we take for granted at times, looking at what we don’t have or still have not achieved.

What’s most important to us both is to consciously design a life and business we love to live each day. What we recognise is the areas that we are living our core values and where we may need to place our focus on this year.

The next step we take is to identify the specific areas we want to focus on.

Mark mentioned that he wants to create more time for himself outside of business. Because he works in the events industry, this means his hours vary. This also means that his working week varies and a routine can only be scheduled placed around the event bookings.

My coaching business model is very different as I choose to set my week up with a routine that accommodates my personal and business energy cycles. In other words, I know what time of day works best for me to make appointments with clients, business management time, marketing time, my personal appointments for self-time etc.

I share with Mark that I would like to invite family and friends over for dinner on a regular basis. We often speak about it, yet time gets gobbled up with other areas that are important to us.

We then wrote out our personal and business goals for the next 12 months.

I always find our goals are the obvious next steps we need to focus on. In other words, the areas that we know we have dropped the ball and now is the time to pick it up and create new habits that support our growth, happiness and fulfilment.

I hope this gives you the inspiration to make time to reflect on where you are spending your time, energy and money. These are all indicators to gain consciousness as to whether you are living your values each day or living into a hopeful future.

If you would like to gain greater clarity, focus and confidence in achieving your personal and business goals in 2019 and beyond, contact me today to discuss your requirements.

Feeling Exhausted! Trying to be someone who you are not?

This is a conversation which came up this morning with a client who is working really hard on being confident, on being resilient and being ‘out there’ meeting new people in the business world, putting her hand up to be on Boards; and she is now exhausted. 

She is finding herself not really enjoying it at all. Her hope is to make new connections with the intention of business growth in the long run. This is what we are mostly told to do and this is what she thought she had to do to get ahead and succeed. 

She kept telling me that she was really trying to be confident. Noticing slight changes, yet always felt she had a long way to go in order to become really confident. 

Confidence comes from knowing who you are and being that person naturally.  Being a real person, not someone you think you should be. 

So how do you go about doing that?  

It certainly takes a lot of patience in getting to know your real self. Personally, I was challenged with this one because of my impatient nature. 

This is where the statement “Progress – not Perfection – with Patience” was a reminder I had in my office which supported me each day.  

One of the things that she realized is that she is a natural introvert and was trying to become an extrovert in one swoop. She was being really hard on herself as a high achiever. She was not being a witness to her own natural confidence shining through because her focus was on what was not happening yet, instead of focusing on what was working for her. 

I shared the story about myself as an introvert with my biggest realization being: 

Introverts are very good at being observers and listeners. I use to tell myself things like I am shy, I’m not confident, and that’s who I truly believed that was who I was. When in actual fact the strength of an introvert is to observe, is to listen deeply with all your senses. Your listening to what people are saying and what they are not saying. So you can actually read the play very well and you can intuit people very quickly.  

I soon realized that these are the core essentials of being a natural coach. 

If you are not owning yourself as an introvert and making that wrong by telling yourself that you should be in the extrovert category (as I use to do), then pushing yourself into different environments out there, this creates exhaustion being someone who you are not.  

Whether you a natural introvert or extrovert, what is most important is knowing who you naturally are and what works best for you and the environment that you choose to be in. 

What she recognized was that she did not own her natural strengths as an introvert. She was putting so much pressure on herself to become someone that she wasn’t when being around other people, and no matter how hard she tried to be different, she was still feeling lost without a true sense of belonging. 

I challenged her to own her natural introvert self. To allow herself to show up with full presence and just be – be the listener – be the observer – be the natural responder – instead of losing her way pushing herself to being someone else.

The evolution of your natural self will shine throughwhen you allow yourself to be your true self.

The moral of the story today is to own whom you really are – be your own best friend. Life is so much easier when you are being your natural and real self.  

You will know exactly what to say that will naturally inspire others. You will live and work in your free-flow zone tuning into your senses. Your inner self-talk will be clear on what your next steps are and what’s important to you.  

You will know how you want to set up your personal and professional life that works for you in harmony with the essence of who you truly are. This makes up the whole you. 

Procrastination! What’s Blocking you?

Have you ever wanted to take action on something specific in your life, but felt as though your feet were stuck in concrete, with no way to move forward?

Many know this as procrastination. You may think you just need the motivation to achieve your goal, so you push through – only to find yourself back in that same stuck place once the motivation has diminished, feeling low in energy and focus. What happened to the motivation you had?

The only thing that causes procrastination is your own limiting belief system. You are made up of many beliefs and to take charge of any procrastination you may be experiencing, you will need to become aware of the beliefs that are holding you back from achieving your goals.

However, this is not as easy as it sounds. The first area you will automatically go to look for answers on how to unlock your procrastination is the conscious mind. Yet you cannot consistently move out of your procrastinating state of mind by using willpower. This is not sustainable.

If you are already in a blocked state of mind, the key to moving forward will come only from the subconscious, which functions at a subliminal level. The Oxford Dictionary defines ‘subconscious’ as that part of the mind that is ‘considered to be not fully conscious but able to influence actions’.

Your damaging beliefs are locked into your subconscious and you will need to explore what those beliefs are so that you can create new beliefs through the conscious mind.

Let’s take a closer look at what is ruling your actions or inactions:

  1. The Conscious Mind
  2. The Subconscious Mind
  3. The Physical Body

The Conscious Mind

  • Thinks and reasons
  • Has free will to choose
  • Is where your imagination resides
  • Is where pain and pleasure are perceived
  • Is where your Will resides
  • Is where thoughts originate

The Subconscious Mind

  • Does not think or reason
  • Has no free will to choose
  • Can only accept, never reject
  • Is where your feelings reside
  • Knows NO limit

The Physical Body

  • Is an instrument of the mind
  • Moves into action as instructed

If you are ready to breakthrough any procrastination habits and move forward with momentum much faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Reaction Mode: Are you Meeting your Needs?

It can be very frustrating going through life trying to get your Needs met by others without satisfaction. This can feel like an emotional roller coaster at times if you are continually expecting others to meet your Needs.

Notice whether you have ever communicated your Needs to the people important in your life because it is easy to assume they should know what your Needs are if they care and love you. Everyone has different Needs and it is imperative that you communicate these to stop any unfulfilled expectations you may have.

The first step to getting your Needs met is to become aware about what they are. The next step is to take responsibility in meeting your own Needs and also to communicate these with the people you feel safe with, who will help you get them met.

Once you begin to get your Needs met on a regular basis, there will come a time when you will notice your Needs will automatically be met because you have set up your life in a way that you, and the people around you, will support, encourage and believe in you and your goals.

Between your Stimulus and your Response

YOU have the power to CHOOSE.

I would like to take you through the journey I took when first identifying my Needs. This was at the time in my life when I was going through a divorce and recreating my own vision as a single woman taking a good look at what was truly important to me. I was also in transition of setting up my international coaching business with the intention of getting off to a strong start according to my life and business vision, values and passion to create a sustainable business.

In answering the Getting your Needs Met questions, I must say that I did find this quite a challenge because I had to get honest with myself about what I truly needed in my life, to be my best. As I became more aware of what my Needs were, I then took responsibility in communicating what I needed and set up my life automatically for these to be met.

List of Needs

Approval
Being valued
Fulfillment
Love
Security
Respect
Sincerity
Recognition
Communication
Comfort
Being taken care of
Honesty
Inclusion
Accomplishment
Listened to
Feeling worthy
Clarity
Peace
Being needed
Control
Affecting others
Being cared about
Prosperity
Balance
Consistency
Luxury
Power
Safety
Acknowledgement
Compliments
Being busy
Pleasing others
Performance

A need is not a want, a wish or a should. It is something you need in order to be your best and to live your life to your fullest potential.

A tip on how to identify your needs is to look into your life and notice where you may react, for example, turn away from people, get angry, gossip, withhold love, not communicate something that is bothering you, not being totally honest, feel disrespected etc.

Getting your Needs Met

List your top 4 Needs and answer the following questions.

  • Why is this Need important for it to be my personal Need?
  • When I get this Need met, who do I become and how do I act?
  • How do I feel about myself, about others and about life when I do not get this Need met?
  • Where am I getting this Need met and where am I not getting this need met?
  • What 3 changes am I willing to make to get this Need fully met?

It is important to know that we all have Needs at different times in our lives. Every 12 months I redo the Needs questions to see if there are any Needs I feel I want to focus on to be at my best consistently. So if you find yourself reacting to a situation in your life, there will always be an unmet Need just under the surface screaming to be met. This is a great time to sit down and identify what that need is and answer the questions on Getting your Needs Met.

Summary in Getting your Needs Met

  1. List your top 4 Needs.
  2. Answer the 5 questions outlined in Getting your Needs Met section.
  3. Design an automatic reminder based on Question 5: actions on getting your Needs met with support of a trusted friend, family member or coach.

If you are ready to breakthrough reaction mode and get your needs met faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Annette Stanton 
With over 35 years experience being on the leading edge, Master Coach, Transformational Leader, Speaker, Author of The Power of Vision – I am passionate about coaching you to gain clarity of vision, develop confidence to unleash your full potential and live with freedom in your personal and business life.

7 Compelling Reasons why working with a Coach is Highly Beneficial

Coaching is fast becoming a recognised profession worldwide, having emerged from a range of fields and disciplines, such as sports, business, leadership and management, psychology and counselling, creative arts, financial planning and management, human growth and potential movements, interpersonal and communication skills training.

The basic philosophy of coaching is that you can have what you most want in life and achieve your potential without the struggle and ‘hard work’ of doing it all alone. Coaching also works on the principal of synergy; that the energy (ideas, focus, clarity) arising from the coach-client partnership is greater than the individual energy brought by the two individuals alone.

What is Professional Coaching?

Professional coaching is an ongoing partnership that helps clients to produce fulfilling and effective results in their professional and personal life. Through the process of coaching, clients improve their performance, deepen their learning and enhance their quality of life.

Why Does Coaching Work?

Coaching works best because of 3 unique feature :

  1. Synergy:The client and coach become a team, focussing on specific goals and needs to accomplish more than you would alone.
  2. Structure:With a coach, the client takes more action, thinks bigger and gets the job done, thanks to the accountability that the coach provides.
  3. Expertise:The coach knows how to help the client to make better decisions, set the best goals, and integrate your professional and personal life for maximum productivity.

 7 compelling reasons why working with a coach is beneficial

  • A coach provides a sounding board for new ideas and better decisions.
  • A coach gives honest feedback and unconditional support.
  • A coach will help set clear goals and help you achieve them.
  • A coach integrates your professional and personal life and makes sure that the goals are balanced for sustainable success.
  • A coach helps you gain greater clarity of vision than you can’t alone.
  • A coach focuses on the big picture – not just part of it. Coaching is holistic.
  • A coach helps make sure you are taking smart actions and being as effective as possible.

Who works with a Coach?

Leaders, Small Business Owners, Professionals, Corporate Employees, Entrepreneurs and Individuals in transition use a coach to fix, solve, create or plan something, professionally and/or personally.

What is worked on?

  • Clarifying Vision, Mission and Values of the Business
  • Business Strategic Planning
  • Management and Leadership Skills
  • Making Key Decisions and Designing Strategies
  • Systems and Organisational Strategies
  • Catching up and Getting ahead of the Business
  • Turning Around a Difficult Situation
  • Start up and Business Growth
  • Personal Planning and Work/Life Balance
  • Business and Personal Budgeting
  • Being More Effective with your Time and Resources
  • Prioritising Actions and Projects
  • Simplifying Life

 What do People use Coaching for?

The scope of what can be covered in a coaching relationship extends to almost anything in the realm of personal growth, achievement and success, including: finances; health; business; relationships; career or work; community, and; creative, emotional and spiritual expression.

For example, coaches work with clients to help them develop their management or leadership skills; to start a new business or take it to the next level; to accelerate their careers, including through enhancing their promotional possibilities; to clarify their personal vision, to pursue the vocations they’ve always dreamed of, to maintain work/life balance and to retain focus on important quality-of-life goals, or; to improve personal or professional relationships so they are more effective and fulfilling.

In circumstances where people don’t know precisely where they would like to set a goal, a coach can also assist to clarify priorities and directions and to plan with them, strategies for change and achievement.

What does a Professional Coach do?

Coaches offer a structure of regular, focussed sessions – usually ranging from once per week to once per fortnight – which lead to their client’s goals being more conscious and focused, and to increased momentum for action. Coaches are trained to listen, to observe, and to elicit from their clients, solutions and strategies to support client progress and results achievement.

A coach does not regard themselves as the expert. They believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful and it is their job to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has. The coach does not take responsibility for client action and results. Rather, a coach encourages their client to be fully responsible for their own decisions and actions, to acknowledge the importance of their personal aspirations and to encourage them to be accountable for their actions and the results they achieve.

How do I Know Who is the Best Coach for Me?

  1. Be clear on your reasons for hiring a coach. If you’re clear in what you want, prospective coaches can support your search by indicating if and how they can help you.
  1. Look for a coach you can collaboratively work and create with, not simply someone who gives you advice or who appears to be the most experienced.
  2. If you want further information, ask the coach for references from current or past clients, who are similar to yourself.

If you are looking for a professional coach to partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/or mobile 0413 949 554.

Looking for Better Ways to Manage your Time!

One of the challenges I often hear inside of coaching conversations is ‘how do I fit it all in?’ They are looking for better ways to manage their time.

Time management challenges often arise when you:

  • Over commit yourself to take actions in an underestimated time frame and with an unrealistic ‘to do list’.
  • Say ‘yes’ to everyone and everything, not wanting to let people down.
  • Do not take time out for yourself, feelings of guilt if you do have 5 minutes to spare.

There is no such thing as time management because no one can manage time. What you can manage is the choice of actions you take during your day. This is the distinction between time management and self-management.

When you manage what is most important to you, based on your values first, this will always give you space, time and energy to achieve the other important things to you.

The three most common areas we let go of when the ‘busy cycle’ appears are

  1. Exercise
  2. Quality time with loved ones
  3. Time-out for self

Imagine if you looked after all these first as a priority. Think how great you would feel with more energy and focus to take care of new habits you would like to create. I notice that whenever the higher percentage of my focus is on my business projects, my exercise routine gets pushed to one side. As soon as I become conscious about this and start to pick up the exercise routine, my business projects become more creative, with a natural flow about them.

With this awareness of what it brings me, I make sure that I maintain an exercise routine that suits me, my schedule, quality time with loved ones and make time for my self-care. I am a much better person to be around when I do this and life seems to flow with ease.

The 3 Steps to Self Management: Breaking it down

  • Personal Foundations
  • Business Foundations
  • Time Out for Self

Planning your time is often a combination of tasks scheduled in your diary and a to-do list for you to get around to when you have spare time. The more you can schedule the most important things, as well as your daily tasks, into your diary, with a time and date set against each one, the more likely it is that you’ll achieve them.

A big tip is to leave plenty of white space scheduled in your diary, to manage the unexpected, or things you may have forgotten about in your day. This is normally a challenge for most people, as you are trying to fit so much into your day and invariably wonder how you can ever leave ‘white space’ in between scheduling.

“My challenge to you is to ‘give it a go’ for at least 30 days
and notice what happens. Do the important things first aligning
your actions with your vision and values.”

Every Friday afternoon I sit down with my weekly schedule list and place every activity into my diary against an allocated time. This also includes the inspired action steps for my committed goals. Create your own self-management plan by filling out the weekly schedule below, using the 3 breakdown steps.

Personal Foundations covers all areas that are important to you for developing a healthy and happy foundation, e.g. quality time in relationships, exercise, shopping, family time etc.

Business Foundations covers all roles and responsibilities, required to be completed on a weekly and monthly basis, e.g. weekly meetings, accounts, client contact calls etc.

Time Out for Self covers what is important to you based on personal development and time-out for yourself to recharge your batteries, e.g. reading personal and professional development books, meditation, journal writing etc.

Coaching Challenge

Write down where you are currently spending your time. Then make a list of the things you always say you would like to be doing that you don’t get around to. It could be something that you have always wanted to Be, Do or Have, e.g. learn to dance, more time with family, socialise with friends, begin a sustainable exercise program you enjoy.

Fill out your weekly schedule, including all the areas in your life where you spend your time and what you would like to spend more time doing. Then place these in your diary with an allocated time and date. All you need to do is follow your diary knowing that every action you take is in direct alignment with your vision and values.

Remember to leave plenty of white space for creativity and spontaneity.

If you are looking for a professional coach as your sounding board to clarify your direction and partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Mindful Living: Connecting with your Authentic Self

Most people live life purely in the physical body pushing and driving their actions every day feeling exhausted hoping they will achieve their vision and goals.

Whilst this is happening, they allow their mind to be scattered on everything that either needs to be done, or what they truly would rather be doing, or what hasn’t been done yet. In other words, your thoughts are all over the place causing you to easily lose focus and energy (as well as the illusion that you do not have enough time) with life passing by, not living in the present moment at all. 

Generally, your real self doesn’t get a look in at all because your body and mind are flat out running the show and way too busy to hear what your inner voice is trying to tell you. Not ever giving you a chance to feel what your body is guiding you to do, which is always giving you your right actions to take.

Your Body   – the physical actions in alignment with your values
Your Mind  
 – directs your thinking to support your vision
Your Spirit 
 – the heart of who you are and how you want to live your life

All 3 areas are important for you to live a fulfilling life as your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking
inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

 Most of the time you will hear yourself saying things like, “I’m too busy”, or “I don’t have enough time for that”, or “I wish I could do this”, or “I need a break from all of this”.

There is a total disconnection from your true self that is screaming at you to listen. Then you may go on a holiday hoping to release the pressure valve for a while, and then what do you do when you return from holidays? Yes, that’s right, you find yourself jumping right back on the busy cycle without changing your priorities.

It takes a conscious reminder to tune into what your spirit is screaming at your to make time for, which is normally indicating for you to set up new systems, habits and routines to maintain your natural energy flow for you to live your full potential.

3 easy steps to connect with your body – mind – spirit each day.

  1. Take a deep breathe and focus on your breath – this will help to slow your mind down.
  2. Tune into what your heart (spirit) is telling you are your most inspired actions today in alignment with your vision and values.
  3. Take physical action (body) in accordance with what your spirit is telling you.

By practicing tuning into your most powerful guidance from your spirit every day, it will always guide you to take inspired action towards fulfilling your highest vision and values. Yes, this takes conscious practice on a daily basis with your ‘to do list’ running your life. It takes time for you to connect and trust your real voice because of all the voices in your head overclouding your clarity. Be patient with yourself with plenty of self-care as you practice getting to know your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

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Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

When you compare yourself to others, in that very instant you may possibly be negating yourself and what you have already achieved in your life.

I remember my coach saying,

“Don’t compare other people’s outside world, to your inside world”.

You really do not know what is going on in their world, or whether they are truly happy, especially when you compare yourself to another person and what they have materially.

For example, you might notice a colleague who looks and acts confidently with external material success and you catch yourself saying “Where’s my success, I work just as hard” or “I wish I could be as confident as him/her”. Only you know those moments that really hit you in the stomach.

Next time you catch yourself in this position, notice your tone of voice as to if it has a negative charge of hope and wishful thinking. Behind this emotive feeling is generally a put-down of your own capabilities, your own potential to achieve in life.

The thing that you may not be aware of is that the other person is probably comparing themselves to you – about some completely different area of inadequacy within themselves. We all have our own inadequacies.

The day you stop comparing and start to acknowledge
the strengths and good fortune of others will be the day
you unleash your unique attributes.

Just notice how the more you keep comparing, the further away from you that good fortune gets. You will not receive that which you do not acknowledge within yourself. So next time you notice yourself comparing, catch yourself and acknowledge others for their good looks, qualities, possessions, good fortune etc.

For example, the next time you see a confident and successful person, say in a positive tone of voice, “Wow! That’s for me!” Start to get excited about the fact that you have attracted this quality into your life just by seeing it in others, for this is normally an indication that you are ready to unleash what’s already inside of you.

The sooner you choose to acknowledge others, the sooner the things you see in their lives will show up in your own life. Creating a supportive self-image will accelerate your growth and transform your life for the better.

Create a Supportive Self-Image

What is your perception of yourself? This can be a challenging question to ask. How you feel, see and think about yourself is everything. Self-image is not something that just happens to you; it is that all-important concept you have of yourself. Having a negative self-image will create a negative outcome when you try to move towards achieving your goals. The good news is that you can change your self-image, your personality and your behaviours.

If you see yourself as a winner in life and you act like a winner, then all areas of your life will begin to flow. Use strong images with pictures, feelings and words with the roles you want to play in life. What you see for yourself, is what you attract, and what you feel within yourself, is who you are.

Take the time to identify how you see yourself and how you truly feel about yourself. As you become conscious of who you want to become, you can make the change.

Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

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