Feeling Exhausted! Trying to be someone who you are not?

This is a conversation which came up this morning with a client who is working really hard on being confident, on being resilient and being ‘out there’ meeting new people in the business world, putting her hand up to be on Boards; and she is now exhausted. 

She is finding herself not really enjoying it at all. Her hope is to make new connections with the intention of business growth in the long run. This is what we are mostly told to do and this is what she thought she had to do to get ahead and succeed. 

She kept telling me that she was really trying to be confident. Noticing slight changes, yet always felt she had a long way to go in order to become really confident. 

Confidence comes from knowing who you are and being that person naturally.  Being a real person, not someone you think you should be. 

So how do you go about doing that?  

It certainly takes a lot of patience in getting to know your real self. Personally, I was challenged with this one because of my impatient nature. 

This is where the statement “Progress – not Perfection – with Patience” was a reminder I had in my office which supported me each day.  

One of the things that she realized is that she is a natural introvert and was trying to become an extrovert in one swoop. She was being really hard on herself as a high achiever. She was not being a witness to her own natural confidence shining through because her focus was on what was not happening yet, instead of focusing on what was working for her. 

I shared the story about myself as an introvert with my biggest realization being: 

Introverts are very good at being observers and listeners. I use to tell myself things like I am shy, I’m not confident, and that’s who I truly believed that was who I was. When in actual fact the strength of an introvert is to observe, is to listen deeply with all your senses. Your listening to what people are saying and what they are not saying. So you can actually read the play very well and you can intuit people very quickly.  

I soon realized that these are the core essentials of being a natural coach. 

If you are not owning yourself as an introvert and making that wrong by telling yourself that you should be in the extrovert category (as I use to do), then pushing yourself into different environments out there, this creates exhaustion being someone who you are not.  

Whether you a natural introvert or extrovert, what is most important is knowing who you naturally are and what works best for you and the environment that you choose to be in. 

What she recognized was that she did not own her natural strengths as an introvert. She was putting so much pressure on herself to become someone that she wasn’t when being around other people, and no matter how hard she tried to be different, she was still feeling lost without a true sense of belonging. 

I challenged her to own her natural introvert self. To allow herself to show up with full presence and just be – be the listener – be the observer – be the natural responder – instead of losing her way pushing herself to being someone else.

The evolution of your natural self will shine throughwhen you allow yourself to be your true self.

The moral of the story today is to own whom you really are – be your own best friend. Life is so much easier when you are being your natural and real self.  

You will know exactly what to say that will naturally inspire others. You will live and work in your free-flow zone tuning into your senses. Your inner self-talk will be clear on what your next steps are and what’s important to you.  

You will know how you want to set up your personal and professional life that works for you in harmony with the essence of who you truly are. This makes up the whole you. 

Procrastination! What’s Blocking you?

Have you ever wanted to take action on something specific in your life, but felt as though your feet were stuck in concrete, with no way to move forward?

Many know this as procrastination. You may think you just need the motivation to achieve your goal, so you push through – only to find yourself back in that same stuck place once the motivation has diminished, feeling low in energy and focus. What happened to the motivation you had?

The only thing that causes procrastination is your own limiting belief system. You are made up of many beliefs and to take charge of any procrastination you may be experiencing, you will need to become aware of the beliefs that are holding you back from achieving your goals.

However, this is not as easy as it sounds. The first area you will automatically go to look for answers on how to unlock your procrastination is the conscious mind. Yet you cannot consistently move out of your procrastinating state of mind by using willpower. This is not sustainable.

If you are already in a blocked state of mind, the key to moving forward will come only from the subconscious, which functions at a subliminal level. The Oxford Dictionary defines ‘subconscious’ as that part of the mind that is ‘considered to be not fully conscious but able to influence actions’.

Your damaging beliefs are locked into your subconscious and you will need to explore what those beliefs are so that you can create new beliefs through the conscious mind.

Let’s take a closer look at what is ruling your actions or inactions:

  1. The Conscious Mind
  2. The Subconscious Mind
  3. The Physical Body

The Conscious Mind

  • Thinks and reasons
  • Has free will to choose
  • Is where your imagination resides
  • Is where pain and pleasure are perceived
  • Is where your Will resides
  • Is where thoughts originate

The Subconscious Mind

  • Does not think or reason
  • Has no free will to choose
  • Can only accept, never reject
  • Is where your feelings reside
  • Knows NO limit

The Physical Body

  • Is an instrument of the mind
  • Moves into action as instructed

If you are ready to breakthrough any procrastination habits and move forward with momentum much faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Reaction Mode: Are you Meeting your Needs?

It can be very frustrating going through life trying to get your Needs met by others without satisfaction. This can feel like an emotional roller coaster at times if you are continually expecting others to meet your Needs.

Notice whether you have ever communicated your Needs to the people important in your life because it is easy to assume they should know what your Needs are if they care and love you. Everyone has different Needs and it is imperative that you communicate these to stop any unfulfilled expectations you may have.

The first step to getting your Needs met is to become aware about what they are. The next step is to take responsibility in meeting your own Needs and also to communicate these with the people you feel safe with, who will help you get them met.

Once you begin to get your Needs met on a regular basis, there will come a time when you will notice your Needs will automatically be met because you have set up your life in a way that you, and the people around you, will support, encourage and believe in you and your goals.

Between your Stimulus and your Response

YOU have the power to CHOOSE.

I would like to take you through the journey I took when first identifying my Needs. This was at the time in my life when I was going through a divorce and recreating my own vision as a single woman taking a good look at what was truly important to me. I was also in transition of setting up my international coaching business with the intention of getting off to a strong start according to my life and business vision, values and passion to create a sustainable business.

In answering the Getting your Needs Met questions, I must say that I did find this quite a challenge because I had to get honest with myself about what I truly needed in my life, to be my best. As I became more aware of what my Needs were, I then took responsibility in communicating what I needed and set up my life automatically for these to be met.

List of Needs

Approval
Being valued
Fulfillment
Love
Security
Respect
Sincerity
Recognition
Communication
Comfort
Being taken care of
Honesty
Inclusion
Accomplishment
Listened to
Feeling worthy
Clarity
Peace
Being needed
Control
Affecting others
Being cared about
Prosperity
Balance
Consistency
Luxury
Power
Safety
Acknowledgement
Compliments
Being busy
Pleasing others
Performance

A need is not a want, a wish or a should. It is something you need in order to be your best and to live your life to your fullest potential.

A tip on how to identify your needs is to look into your life and notice where you may react, for example, turn away from people, get angry, gossip, withhold love, not communicate something that is bothering you, not being totally honest, feel disrespected etc.

Getting your Needs Met

List your top 4 Needs and answer the following questions.

  • Why is this Need important for it to be my personal Need?
  • When I get this Need met, who do I become and how do I act?
  • How do I feel about myself, about others and about life when I do not get this Need met?
  • Where am I getting this Need met and where am I not getting this need met?
  • What 3 changes am I willing to make to get this Need fully met?

It is important to know that we all have Needs at different times in our lives. Every 12 months I redo the Needs questions to see if there are any Needs I feel I want to focus on to be at my best consistently. So if you find yourself reacting to a situation in your life, there will always be an unmet Need just under the surface screaming to be met. This is a great time to sit down and identify what that need is and answer the questions on Getting your Needs Met.

Summary in Getting your Needs Met

  1. List your top 4 Needs.
  2. Answer the 5 questions outlined in Getting your Needs Met section.
  3. Design an automatic reminder based on Question 5: actions on getting your Needs met with support of a trusted friend, family member or coach.

If you are ready to breakthrough reaction mode and get your needs met faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Annette Stanton 
With over 35 years experience being on the leading edge, Master Coach, Transformational Leader, Speaker, Author of The Power of Vision – I am passionate about coaching you to gain clarity of vision, develop confidence to unleash your full potential and live with freedom in your personal and business life.

7 Compelling Reasons why working with a Coach is Highly Beneficial

Coaching is fast becoming a recognised profession worldwide, having emerged from a range of fields and disciplines, such as sports, business, leadership and management, psychology and counselling, creative arts, financial planning and management, human growth and potential movements, interpersonal and communication skills training.

The basic philosophy of coaching is that you can have what you most want in life and achieve your potential without the struggle and ‘hard work’ of doing it all alone. Coaching also works on the principal of synergy; that the energy (ideas, focus, clarity) arising from the coach-client partnership is greater than the individual energy brought by the two individuals alone.

What is Professional Coaching?

Professional coaching is an ongoing partnership that helps clients to produce fulfilling and effective results in their professional and personal life. Through the process of coaching, clients improve their performance, deepen their learning and enhance their quality of life.

Why Does Coaching Work?

Coaching works best because of 3 unique feature :

  1. Synergy:The client and coach become a team, focussing on specific goals and needs to accomplish more than you would alone.
  2. Structure:With a coach, the client takes more action, thinks bigger and gets the job done, thanks to the accountability that the coach provides.
  3. Expertise:The coach knows how to help the client to make better decisions, set the best goals, and integrate your professional and personal life for maximum productivity.

 7 compelling reasons why working with a coach is beneficial

  • A coach provides a sounding board for new ideas and better decisions.
  • A coach gives honest feedback and unconditional support.
  • A coach will help set clear goals and help you achieve them.
  • A coach integrates your professional and personal life and makes sure that the goals are balanced for sustainable success.
  • A coach helps you gain greater clarity of vision than you can’t alone.
  • A coach focuses on the big picture – not just part of it. Coaching is holistic.
  • A coach helps make sure you are taking smart actions and being as effective as possible.

Who works with a Coach?

Leaders, Small Business Owners, Professionals, Corporate Employees, Entrepreneurs and Individuals in transition use a coach to fix, solve, create or plan something, professionally and/or personally.

What is worked on?

  • Clarifying Vision, Mission and Values of the Business
  • Business Strategic Planning
  • Management and Leadership Skills
  • Making Key Decisions and Designing Strategies
  • Systems and Organisational Strategies
  • Catching up and Getting ahead of the Business
  • Turning Around a Difficult Situation
  • Start up and Business Growth
  • Personal Planning and Work/Life Balance
  • Business and Personal Budgeting
  • Being More Effective with your Time and Resources
  • Prioritising Actions and Projects
  • Simplifying Life

 What do People use Coaching for?

The scope of what can be covered in a coaching relationship extends to almost anything in the realm of personal growth, achievement and success, including: finances; health; business; relationships; career or work; community, and; creative, emotional and spiritual expression.

For example, coaches work with clients to help them develop their management or leadership skills; to start a new business or take it to the next level; to accelerate their careers, including through enhancing their promotional possibilities; to clarify their personal vision, to pursue the vocations they’ve always dreamed of, to maintain work/life balance and to retain focus on important quality-of-life goals, or; to improve personal or professional relationships so they are more effective and fulfilling.

In circumstances where people don’t know precisely where they would like to set a goal, a coach can also assist to clarify priorities and directions and to plan with them, strategies for change and achievement.

What does a Professional Coach do?

Coaches offer a structure of regular, focussed sessions – usually ranging from once per week to once per fortnight – which lead to their client’s goals being more conscious and focused, and to increased momentum for action. Coaches are trained to listen, to observe, and to elicit from their clients, solutions and strategies to support client progress and results achievement.

A coach does not regard themselves as the expert. They believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful and it is their job to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has. The coach does not take responsibility for client action and results. Rather, a coach encourages their client to be fully responsible for their own decisions and actions, to acknowledge the importance of their personal aspirations and to encourage them to be accountable for their actions and the results they achieve.

How do I Know Who is the Best Coach for Me?

  1. Be clear on your reasons for hiring a coach. If you’re clear in what you want, prospective coaches can support your search by indicating if and how they can help you.
  1. Look for a coach you can collaboratively work and create with, not simply someone who gives you advice or who appears to be the most experienced.
  2. If you want further information, ask the coach for references from current or past clients, who are similar to yourself.

If you are looking for a professional coach to partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/or mobile 0413 949 554.

Looking for Better Ways to Manage your Time!

One of the challenges I often hear inside of coaching conversations is ‘how do I fit it all in?’ They are looking for better ways to manage their time.

Time management challenges often arise when you:

  • Over commit yourself to take actions in an underestimated time frame and with an unrealistic ‘to do list’.
  • Say ‘yes’ to everyone and everything, not wanting to let people down.
  • Do not take time out for yourself, feelings of guilt if you do have 5 minutes to spare.

There is no such thing as time management because no one can manage time. What you can manage is the choice of actions you take during your day. This is the distinction between time management and self-management.

When you manage what is most important to you, based on your values first, this will always give you space, time and energy to achieve the other important things to you.

The three most common areas we let go of when the ‘busy cycle’ appears are

  1. Exercise
  2. Quality time with loved ones
  3. Time-out for self

Imagine if you looked after all these first as a priority. Think how great you would feel with more energy and focus to take care of new habits you would like to create. I notice that whenever the higher percentage of my focus is on my business projects, my exercise routine gets pushed to one side. As soon as I become conscious about this and start to pick up the exercise routine, my business projects become more creative, with a natural flow about them.

With this awareness of what it brings me, I make sure that I maintain an exercise routine that suits me, my schedule, quality time with loved ones and make time for my self-care. I am a much better person to be around when I do this and life seems to flow with ease.

The 3 Steps to Self Management: Breaking it down

  • Personal Foundations
  • Business Foundations
  • Time Out for Self

Planning your time is often a combination of tasks scheduled in your diary and a to-do list for you to get around to when you have spare time. The more you can schedule the most important things, as well as your daily tasks, into your diary, with a time and date set against each one, the more likely it is that you’ll achieve them.

A big tip is to leave plenty of white space scheduled in your diary, to manage the unexpected, or things you may have forgotten about in your day. This is normally a challenge for most people, as you are trying to fit so much into your day and invariably wonder how you can ever leave ‘white space’ in between scheduling.

“My challenge to you is to ‘give it a go’ for at least 30 days
and notice what happens. Do the important things first aligning
your actions with your vision and values.”

Every Friday afternoon I sit down with my weekly schedule list and place every activity into my diary against an allocated time. This also includes the inspired action steps for my committed goals. Create your own self-management plan by filling out the weekly schedule below, using the 3 breakdown steps.

Personal Foundations covers all areas that are important to you for developing a healthy and happy foundation, e.g. quality time in relationships, exercise, shopping, family time etc.

Business Foundations covers all roles and responsibilities, required to be completed on a weekly and monthly basis, e.g. weekly meetings, accounts, client contact calls etc.

Time Out for Self covers what is important to you based on personal development and time-out for yourself to recharge your batteries, e.g. reading personal and professional development books, meditation, journal writing etc.

Coaching Challenge

Write down where you are currently spending your time. Then make a list of the things you always say you would like to be doing that you don’t get around to. It could be something that you have always wanted to Be, Do or Have, e.g. learn to dance, more time with family, socialise with friends, begin a sustainable exercise program you enjoy.

Fill out your weekly schedule, including all the areas in your life where you spend your time and what you would like to spend more time doing. Then place these in your diary with an allocated time and date. All you need to do is follow your diary knowing that every action you take is in direct alignment with your vision and values.

Remember to leave plenty of white space for creativity and spontaneity.

If you are looking for a professional coach as your sounding board to clarify your direction and partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Mindful Living: Connecting with your Authentic Self

Most people live life purely in the physical body pushing and driving their actions every day feeling exhausted hoping they will achieve their vision and goals.

Whilst this is happening, they allow their mind to be scattered on everything that either needs to be done, or what they truly would rather be doing, or what hasn’t been done yet. In other words, your thoughts are all over the place causing you to easily lose focus and energy (as well as the illusion that you do not have enough time) with life passing by, not living in the present moment at all. 

Generally, your real self doesn’t get a look in at all because your body and mind are flat out running the show and way too busy to hear what your inner voice is trying to tell you. Not ever giving you a chance to feel what your body is guiding you to do, which is always giving you your right actions to take.

Your Body   – the physical actions in alignment with your values
Your Mind  
 – directs your thinking to support your vision
Your Spirit 
 – the heart of who you are and how you want to live your life

All 3 areas are important for you to live a fulfilling life as your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking
inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

 Most of the time you will hear yourself saying things like, “I’m too busy”, or “I don’t have enough time for that”, or “I wish I could do this”, or “I need a break from all of this”.

There is a total disconnection from your true self that is screaming at you to listen. Then you may go on a holiday hoping to release the pressure valve for a while, and then what do you do when you return from holidays? Yes, that’s right, you find yourself jumping right back on the busy cycle without changing your priorities.

It takes a conscious reminder to tune into what your spirit is screaming at your to make time for, which is normally indicating for you to set up new systems, habits and routines to maintain your natural energy flow for you to live your full potential.

3 easy steps to connect with your body – mind – spirit each day.

  1. Take a deep breathe and focus on your breath – this will help to slow your mind down.
  2. Tune into what your heart (spirit) is telling you are your most inspired actions today in alignment with your vision and values.
  3. Take physical action (body) in accordance with what your spirit is telling you.

By practicing tuning into your most powerful guidance from your spirit every day, it will always guide you to take inspired action towards fulfilling your highest vision and values. Yes, this takes conscious practice on a daily basis with your ‘to do list’ running your life. It takes time for you to connect and trust your real voice because of all the voices in your head overclouding your clarity. Be patient with yourself with plenty of self-care as you practice getting to know your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

If you are ready to connect with your authentic self, taking inspired action in alignment with your vision and values, contact me today to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

When you compare yourself to others, in that very instant you may possibly be negating yourself and what you have already achieved in your life.

I remember my coach saying,

“Don’t compare other people’s outside world, to your inside world”.

You really do not know what is going on in their world, or whether they are truly happy, especially when you compare yourself to another person and what they have materially.

For example, you might notice a colleague who looks and acts confidently with external material success and you catch yourself saying “Where’s my success, I work just as hard” or “I wish I could be as confident as him/her”. Only you know those moments that really hit you in the stomach.

Next time you catch yourself in this position, notice your tone of voice as to if it has a negative charge of hope and wishful thinking. Behind this emotive feeling is generally a put-down of your own capabilities, your own potential to achieve in life.

The thing that you may not be aware of is that the other person is probably comparing themselves to you – about some completely different area of inadequacy within themselves. We all have our own inadequacies.

The day you stop comparing and start to acknowledge
the strengths and good fortune of others will be the day
you unleash your unique attributes.

Just notice how the more you keep comparing, the further away from you that good fortune gets. You will not receive that which you do not acknowledge within yourself. So next time you notice yourself comparing, catch yourself and acknowledge others for their good looks, qualities, possessions, good fortune etc.

For example, the next time you see a confident and successful person, say in a positive tone of voice, “Wow! That’s for me!” Start to get excited about the fact that you have attracted this quality into your life just by seeing it in others, for this is normally an indication that you are ready to unleash what’s already inside of you.

The sooner you choose to acknowledge others, the sooner the things you see in their lives will show up in your own life. Creating a supportive self-image will accelerate your growth and transform your life for the better.

Create a Supportive Self-Image

What is your perception of yourself? This can be a challenging question to ask. How you feel, see and think about yourself is everything. Self-image is not something that just happens to you; it is that all-important concept you have of yourself. Having a negative self-image will create a negative outcome when you try to move towards achieving your goals. The good news is that you can change your self-image, your personality and your behaviours.

If you see yourself as a winner in life and you act like a winner, then all areas of your life will begin to flow. Use strong images with pictures, feelings and words with the roles you want to play in life. What you see for yourself, is what you attract, and what you feel within yourself, is who you are.

Take the time to identify how you see yourself and how you truly feel about yourself. As you become conscious of who you want to become, you can make the change.

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

Have you gone from goal to goal and wondered why you are still not happy? Often this is because you are so focused on where you are going in life that you have not stopped to smell the roses along the way.

It is important to be grateful for what you do have in your life today, the people who are important to you, and the unconditional love you receive from your family. Yes, that means the everyday small things that bring you joy in your life, including the small actions you are taking towards your vision.

In the past, my life always felt as though it was dangling like a carrot on a string out in front of me to chase; I was always going for the next goal and still not happy. Yes, I had heard people talk about ‘being grateful for what I had in my life now’ and ‘reflecting on what I had already achieved’. I always let these suggestions slide off me with an “it’s not enough yet” attitude.

What I was really saying was ‘I wasn’t enough yet’. This also meant that everything I had achieved in my life was not enough.  I took so much for granted. When I realised that, I decided to make a list of everything I had achieved in my life as far back as I could remember.

Whatever you appreciate in your life
will always appreciate in value.

The list started really slowly as I reflected on my life. The more I started to write, the more I remembered, from little things like getting up early one morning to watch the sun come up, to the bigger things like being a national sporting representative.

As I looked back at the list I had a powerful feeling of accomplishment within myself. This helped diminish the limiting beliefs I had of ‘it’s not enough yet’ and ‘I wasn’t enough’; when in actual fact I was ‘more than enough’ and had ‘more than enough’ in my life.

When you are in a state of ‘it’s not enough yet’, you will continually feel that way – and life will also show up that way. Did you know that when you live your life with the ‘it’s not enough’ theme constantly being played, you are actually affirming to yourself that ‘you are not enough’? I learnt this lesson myself when I first hired my coach. I remember telling my coach that I had to learn more about certain topics before I could move forward in my business.
Sure, education is important, but I actually had a lot of knowledge, which I was not using. My coach gave me two challenges.

  • The first challenge was to write the affirmation ‘I am enough’ and place it in my office so that I could see it every day. I resisted this at first because I truly believed I had to look for more answers outside of myself.
  • The second challenge was to trust and take the next step I knew I wanted to take, based on the knowledge I already had. You see I was always one of those people who loved to learn by reading books and attending seminars, but did I action what I had learnt? Not to its fullest capacity, if at all.

When I started trusting, I realised that I undervalued the amount of knowledge I did have and kept looking outside myself for more knowledge. It became a habit because I loved learning things, but what good was my knowledge if I did not put it into practice? Notice in what areas you may be looking outside yourself for knowledge you already have. You are already enough in many areas of your life. You only need to bring it to your awareness and then acknowledge yourself.

One of the practices I now have is to write five things I am grateful for today. So if you feel as though your wheels are spinning and life is moving fast, stop to smell the roses by taking on this daily practice. This can be done even in your thoughts just before you turn the light out at night.

When you are grateful for everything in your life as it is today, you will feel an immediate expansion of your energy and start to attract more of the good things in life that you truly desire. Why not start a gratitude journal on a daily basis and notice how quickly your life will change?

Creating your Purposeful Vision

From the inspirational words of Nelson Mandela –

“Action without vision is only passing time, vision without action is merely day dreaming, but vision with action can change the world.”

What is your vision for all areas of your life? Do you have a vision?

A vision embraces the ‘who’ of you. This means the areas that are most important to you in your whole life. Not just on a material level, or on a financial level; it covers you as a ‘whole’ person. It may mean you have to dare to recapture dreams, ignite new ones and have the courage to believe in yourself. Most of all you have to trust that you can achieve whatever you desire in life.

Your vision is made up of how you want to live your life today and your desired future. Most people set it up like it is a future thing alone. If you do this, life will pass you by. Identify what’s important to you today and value those things e.g. relationships, business, family, colleagues, children, health, finances, personal development etc. Whatever they are for you, live them fully today because your life IS today and when tomorrow comes – it will still be today!

Having your own vision gives you more purpose and meaning to life. A vision will support you in times of doubt, especially when you face challenges and you start to question the who, what, and how you want to live your life, based on what’s most important to you.

Having a vision will help you to maintain your focus and achieve your personal and professional ambitions. Your vision must be in alignment with your core values.

When you create a vision in alignment with your values, 

the best strategy to close the gap will always appear.

Create your Purposeful Vision

  1. What you want for yourself in life, physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.

Examples of what you may want for yourself in life are: living a healthy and fit lifestyle, having a successful and profitable business giving a professional and ethical service to people worldwide, practising personal and professional development, being committed to your own growth, spending quality time with your family and connecting with them daily, expressing love to your family and friends.

  1. What you want for others in life, physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.

Examples of what you may want for others in life are: making a difference in the lives of others by way of listening and being present when in their company, for others to live a wealthy and happy lifestyle, to live a life they love with work being their passion.

  1. What you want to be known for by others, family and the world – leaving a legacy.

Examples of what you may want to be known for in life are: writing a book on what you are passionate about, being a part of a community you believe in and giving of your time, bringing up your children with values that empower them for life.

Enjoy creating your purposeful vision. A vision that is inspirational, knowing it is in alignment with your core values. A vision that is transforming your life, and the lives of others you are connecting with.

If you are ready to transform your life and live your inspirational vision, contact me to book in for a 30 minute introductory to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Active Meditation: Mindfulness in Action

Who has time to meditate with the fast pace of life and business nowadays?

No, you do not have to be sitting in the lotus position with your eyes closed to get best results as I first thought.

The reason I decided to write this article is because many of my clients are making themselves wrong for not making the time to meditate. They are telling me that they feel they need to create time for it to be most effective. In other words they are thinking they need to be meditating in a certain way for best results.

Can you relate to this?

I certainly can. Especially during my first attempts to meditate, with my head telling me that this is a waste of time, I have better things to do, where is this going to get me?

The monkey mind – chitter chatter – just wouldn’t slow down at all.

Yes, I had a very busy mind that would always be racing ahead.

How do I do this meditation stuff so that I can stop driving myself crazy jumping from goal to goal or project to project? Exhausting myself!!!

Trying to get it right. Only to find there is no right way. Let’s find your way.

There are many forms of meditation –
it is important to find what works best for you.

Ultimately, you want to feel like you are in a state of consciousness throughout your day for focused productivity, engaging communication and creative innovation. If not, you may find yourself reacting to situations and circumstances leaving you feeling exhausted at the end of the day.

  • This is where meditation and mindfulness can support you.

Yes, meditation can consist of sitting quietly and being with your thoughts and your breath. I don’t know about you, but as a high achiever and go-getter personality style, I found that style of meditation very challenging to do in the beginning. So I chose to start with creative visualization and deep breathing for only 5 minutes, and increased the time, as I gave myself permission to sit for longer.

Today, this has expanded into what I like to call ‘mindfulness in action’.

This means that I focus on my breath being conscious to my senses, as I take action throughout the day. This supports me to become a lot calmer, present and conscious inside of each activity, without reacting to outside circumstances. From this stance, I can make better decisions because of being grounded and connected with mind and body.

  • For example, if I am about to step into a meeting, I take a few deep breaths sending this into my body taking me out of my strategic mind racing ahead. With my first priority being to connect with my inner body being still in mind and body. My objective is to stay fully present to the environment, the people in the room, the language they are using, sensing what they are saying and what they are not saying.

Listening with a beginner’s mind, connecting with
all your senses will support you to become an
influential observer with inspiring presence.

Being the observer creates space to listen without judgment or pre-conceived ideas. Being the observer will support your active listening skills, which is much more powerful as you can take everything in using all your senses. If you jump in too quickly, you will not hear all. What is being said and what is not being said. You will then know exactly what to say or do that will make a difference inspiring everyone in the room.

I then take this home with me and remind myself to live being conscious using all my senses. Being fully present to my relationships at home, in my community, at work etc. creates a state of presence. This means taking powerful ownership of all your emotions.

If you have a busy mind, as I do, one of the best practices I choose is to focus on my breath as often as I can throughout the day. This creates space between your strategic mind and your creative mind.

For innovation and natural creativity to flow, it is important to create plenty of space for your mind to relax so that you can hear your inspiring vision and next steps from your innovative wisdom.

There are plenty of times I catch myself trying to work it all out from my strategic mind, to which I then push the pause button and take a deep breath; shifting my presence back into my body – not trying to work it all out in my head.

Notice whether you are getting in your own way by working harder or driving yourself to find the solution coming from force.

The best solutions will always come to you when
you are most relaxed.

I just noticed myself taking another deep breath with a slow exhalation, as I am writing this article. I caught myself realising that this is becoming more and more a natural practice inside my day.

  • Let’s push the pause button for a moment and ‘take a deep breath in’ – and ‘let it go’. I know, a little corny, but it works if done consistently.

It does take a conscious reminder in the beginning and with repetition; it will slowly become a natural part of your being.

This reminds me of when I was a personal trainer of the many times I would be coaching my clients to relax their mind and body for best results through the power of the conscious breath. It’s interesting how I find myself using this simple practice personally and with my professional coaching clients today.

  • Never underestimate the simple repetitive steps as they can create extraordinary results.

No matter what results you want in your personal and professional life, it is paramount to know who is showing up.

  • Are you being calm and relaxed from inside out?
  • Are you being present in a state of presence?
  • Are you fully listening with all your senses?
  • Are you communicating with language that inspires others?

Practice mindfulness in action throughout your day with greater self-awareness for best results in your personal and professional life.

If you are wanting to close the gap from where you are now to achieve next level success, contact me to book in for a 15-minute introduction to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

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