Mindset Growth: Notice the Distractions

When it comes to mindset growth there are 4 aspects to this: mind, body, heart and soul and how do you link with these. One of the ways is to stay connected.

I was asked the question inside a workshop this morning …

“How does one stay connected with the whole mindset growth and what are some of the things you can do?”

My response was …

“What I suggest is that you write a love list.”

A love list is where you go naturally, those things you enjoy doing, those activities you love to do; for example, going for a walk or a run, walking the dog in nature, journal writing, meditation, de-cluttering space etc. Anywhere you go to where you tend to find yourself in a space of your own. You are in your zone.

Creating a love list can also include things like eating healthy foods, getting plenty of sleep at night etc. something that gives you natural energy. You can call this an energizing habit that really keeps you grounded and focused.

Inside this group I also mentioned the importance of noticing what your distractions are. Most people are not aware of what distracts them. They tend to get caught up in their head and then notice they are off path with their mindset and focus all over the place. By making a list of those things that has you become distracted, will actually help you with your mindset and focus skills.

Things like; being online too much, checking your emails too often, being in reaction mode, comparing yourself with others in your industry, doing too much research and getting yourself off your path. Finding yourself going down a rabbit warren and losing focus of your purposeful business path and your obvious next steps.

When you start to compare yourself, that makes it a lot harder for you to create a deeper believability, and the head talk being louder which can play tricks on you. By creating a love list and a not so love list, noticing what those distractions are, will actually help you to stay on your mindset growth path. This will give you a clear focus in all areas of your life.

Enjoy watching my video on ways to eliminate your distractions and to stay focused with clarity.

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Are your Personal and Business Priorities Changing?

I’ve just come from a coaching session and wanted to share with you, just in case you’re in the same position, like this small business owner I was connecting with. What she found was that there was a shift in her priorities, which meant that a requirement of a shift in her business model as well.

Her personal priorities had shifted, which meant that her business priorities needed to shift. This felt very foreign for her as she was very much a high achiever, go-getter leader, with a driver personality style, with work being very much a passion for this business owner. As we had been working for some time on exploring her true core values and developing the right business model for her at the start, this has become very successful for her priorities at that time.

At this stage in her personal and business life, new lifestyle priorities have become very evident for her now wanting more of a balance in her whole life. She wanted to become successful in all areas of her life, not just business.

For her, this looked like spending quality time with her partner, she felt a new sense of wanting to spend more time in the new home she had created, and now family life has also changed for her wanting to be able to relax with those people important in her. She also wanted to make time for self-care without feeling guilty about creating time for herself.

New Evolving Business Model

We went on to discuss what her new evolving business model would look like with these areas included in her life. With further exploration as to how long she spends in her business, as in the amount of hours in the week and the new priorities she wanted to set up as her business style and her lifestyle have now changed. She also noticed she was stepping more into a leadership management role, and wanted to make sure she was being of service in the professional industry that she absolutely loved.

So, the moral of the story here is, no matter whether you are running your own business or running a major organization or working for a company, the importance of listening into your core values, and what this looks like in action, as they shift and change, when you are in transition of your personal and/or professional life.

It is paramount to know what is important to you at any given time, especially as your priorities change and ultimately you take you with you everywhere you go. Are you consciously listening into your deep knowing and trusting yourself to take those new actions consistently?

If you’re not listening into your core values, you will block them in some way that will cause some form of unease in your body. When your body is not in a state of ease and flow, it will cause some form of dis-ease. Most of the time we have disconnected and we are pushing ourselves through the day to get to the other side in order to hopefully arrive somewhere. There is nowhere to get to.

It is important to trust your intuitive knowing by listening into what is right for you, getting to explore and understand who you really are. Identifying what is important to you and the evolution of your values-based business model that works best for you now, so that you can make time for yourself and the important people in your life.

This is what this business owner is now doing – re-evaluating and exploring ways that she can create a business and a life she really loves to live each day.

Yes, it is possible. It’s one step at a time, as there is possibly the shifting of old beliefs systems, old mindset dynamics, and old cultural patterns – whatever the case might be for you. This takes time and patience with conscious practice each day.

So, check in to make sure that your business model is what’s right for you (no one else) so that you can express yourself fully, bringing your whole self and your full potential into your workplace each day.

Notice if there are changes occurring for you right now, to just notice them. Allow and surrender into who you are becoming and remember that purposeful success in an inside job. Enjoy the journey of your evolving business model connecting with who you are now becoming as you express your core values in action.

Enjoy watching my video. I hope this supports you to evolve with your personal and business priorities.

If you have any queries around this very subject, please feel free to contact me directly on http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Connected Mindset: Leading Edge Focus Skill

This focus skill may make all the difference for you right now during times of change and uncertainty.

I thought I’d share with you an insight I had whilst I was swimming this morning and that was there were moments in time I noticed how my concentration skills and mindset was a little bit all over the place. It was scattered which really did not support my breathing and my focus.

So one of the ways I realized that I tap into very quickly, because I get asked a lot “How do you maintain focus?” and one of the skills I’ve learnt is that focus is not just a mindset thing. It is actually a whole body experience thing.

As I continued swimming, I noticed that I consciously slowed my breathing down and then consciously went into my belly. So as I was taking deeper, slower breaths into my belly, this slowed my mind down and I was able to maintain a deeper focus on the next stroke in this very moment.

I would stay in stroke for a while and then I noticed my mind would start thinking about other things I needed to do for the day, thinking about the future etc. This caused my breathing to become scattered again, which affected my focus and concentration. This in turn affected my body alignment and definitely not in my flow.

It is noticing what are the things that take you away from being fully present in this moment inside of your chosen activity. These are some of the techniques that really support me that I also teach my clients and I thought I’d share this particular one.

A lot of people are not aware of this when it comes to focus and concentration skills because as I mentioned earlier it is not just about mindset, it’s breathing into the belly and placing your mind into the belly.

So literally asking yourself “Where am I now?” “What am I doing now?” Deep breathing, staying calm and this will support you wherever you are at right now.

To be able to focus in on what your next steps are, to be able to hear your next steps in whatever situation you might be in, inside your personal and professional life as we go through these volatile changes throughout the world right now.

If this is something I can support you with in any way, shape or form, then please feel free to reach out and I would be happy to have a conversation with you. It’s my way of giving back to the community so we can all get through this together – staying sane, staying resilient and staying productive.

Most of all, being human and being gentle on yourself. Enjoy your day nurturing yourself and looking at ways that you can maintain focus in this moment. Take some deep breaths and relax.

You might like to share with me in what ways are you looking after your mental and emotional stability right now so that you can stay calm, relaxed and focused in on what you can focus in on right now, looking at what is working for you.

The Essence of Expressing your Authentic Self

I am wondering how much you know about ‘Who you truly are’ and whether you are expressing your authentic self? Or are there masks that you’ve been trying to break through, in the hope that some how you will get to know your real self? 

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think
we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” Brene’ Brown

This is a conversation that I quite often have with my clients and what I find is that they are often comparing themselves to other people, and other competitors. I work with high achievers, leaders, entrepreneurs, people who are very much in the business, corporate world, who want to identify themselves apart from the academic side of themselves, so that they can connect and engage naturally. And that takes a lot of courage, a lot of bravery in breaking that down, which is not a quick fix it, it is not a head strategy alone.

Behind Closed Doors

One of the things that came up with my first 2 clients this morning is how much we are looking outside for validation without even realizing. They told me just how much they were being caught up with looking at what their competitors are doing. I noticed the frustration in their tone of voice as they told me how much they were losing focus of their own vision.

Yes, obviously we need to know ‘the gap in the market’, but ultimately when it comes to being your authentic self, ‘it’s an inside job’. It is about sensing the trends in the market place and trusting your instincts, as you stay in your lane, taking action on your inspirational vision.

It is about blocking out all the noises and the distractions on the outside so that you can really listen into your inner mentor. The person inside who is really getting to know you; because your head strategy and a lot of our knowledge and past experiences, background; is possibly getting in the way of uncovering, discovering and exploring who you really are. 

Trust your Intuitive Knowing

A lot of the high achievers I work with (and I am one of them) are very much impatient type people and it is very natural for them to go into head strategy. If you want to get into the heart of it in getting to know who you truly are then it takes patience. It is not a perfection game, it is a lot of patience in exploring yourself and that takes time, it takes bravery, it takes possibly going against the norm. Yet identifying areas that feel intuitively right for you at that time, even if you are going against the grain of what others are doing. 

One of the things that came up this morning with a client was around the amount of content and training that is available today that is causing a lot of pressure and overwhelm. My client who is a very highly qualified academic business leader told me that no matter how much more knowledge she gained, she had a sense of ‘still not knowing enough’.

She quickly realized that she had been continually gaining knowledge all her life, which kept her inside a cycle of ‘still trying to prove herself to her peers’. She felt a strong sense that she wanted to really connect as a whole person – not just at a head academic level. Somewhere along her path, she disconnected from the purpose and meaning of the subject she was most passionate about and especially disengaged from her deeper why at a humanistic level.

“You’re not going to really know why you do what
you do until you know who you really are.”

This is about really going into the essence of who you truly are. The heart and soul of the content and the purpose of the content, which we call ‘the why’ why you do what you do. Ultimately, you’re not going to know why you do, as generally a lot of those reasons come from the head alone at the start. You’re not going to really know why you do what you do until you know who you really are – that’s not a head strategy – it comes from a life exploration with something that opens up in life. 

Out of the blue, you might find yourself in a transitional phase. In your career, business, relationship, a transition, whatever the case might be that has you start a path of self-reflection. Going into yourself and really looking at what is important to you, what are the things that you may have outgrown, checking in on your belief systems that you may have picked up along the way that may have served you for a certain period of your personal, professional life that no longer works for you. 

The Value of Self-Reflection Time

That’s why it is important to have that self-reflection time and my suggestion to a lot of my clients when they are in their busy head strategy, is to write this down. This will get whatever is going around and around in your head, into a clearing that is heart connected.  Another powerful pathway is to have an exploration conversation with a professional coach who creates a space for you to process those things in a way that gains clarity and insight quicker than what you would on your own.

If this is something you’re interested in and you want to explore and work privately with me, then that is something that I am passionate about exploring that side of who you truly are, what’s important to you based on where you are now and how you know you want to set it up. Or there is an instinctual knowing that there is a change occurring, yet you do not know what that may look like, so it is important to explore who you are now before we step into the what and the how. Because there is a lot of strategy out there in the world based on ‘What do you want?’ and ‘How do you want to go about doing it?’ without the exploration of ‘Who you truly are?’ – and that’s what I’m passionate about.

Please feel free to connect with me. Have a fabulous day being the essence of who you truly are. http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Listening to your Body’s Intelligence through The Power of Self-Care

Taking care of yourself first is like putting your oxygen mask on first, to give you the breath of life to then freely choose how much you give to others.

Many find it challenging to give to themselves first because you may feel guilty or selfish. I can assure you that when you nurture yourself by becoming your own best friend, you will create a beautiful reserve of energy, space and time.

If you are feeling challenged in wondering where to start with your own self-care is to look in the areas that you may already be doing yet not seeing it as self-care. If you give your time away to others without giving to yourself, then you will never create the time continually pushing yourself to the background.

Something as simple as going for a walk around the block is a part of your self-care.  Let’s acknowledge the little things first and then bring in the other areas that you know you want to create time for such as going to a yoga class. 

It is important to stay connected to your evolving self as you find your new groove in your self-care actions. Do not try to jump ahead as you will sabotage any form of consistency. Consistency is the structure of all success. So start small and allow your natural evolution to guide you to your next steps.

For example I was speaking with a client who wanted to lose weight before she got married. She spoke about what she use to do at the gym being disciplined 4 days a week with a personal trainer. She continued to tell me how hard she worked at getting her body into shape.

I then asked her “In what way would you like to move your body today?” She looked at me with a question written all over her face. I then asked her “If you tune into your body and ask the question, what would your body tell you?” I asked her to allow the answer to come within her body not her head past memory of what she used to do to get into shape.

She looked at me and instantly said “Dancing”. “I love dancing”. I asked her if she had seen dancing as a form of getting into shape. No she replied. As she continued to tell me about the type of dance she enjoyed, I witnessed her face glow; her body became lighter with her tone of voice freely flowing.

She had locked herself into the past feeling of exercise as hard work – and I asked if she was ready to find her new groove. What if ‘moving your body in ways you enjoy’ became your new mantra instead of the word ‘exercise’. We want to take away the force of hard work as it creates contraction in the body. This does not support your body to feel light and flowing with ease.

So what I am saying is to notice language. By using the language ‘consistently moving my ways in ways I enjoy’ vs. ‘I word hard in the gym’. Her body had formed a cellular memory that resisted her getting into shape because this equaled hard work. 

“What if you were to create something simple and doable?” Now I am not saying don’t go to the gym, what I am saying is it is important to ask your body what it needs right now. Staying connected to your body’s intelligence will create sustainability no matter what the subject.

As we explored what type of dance she enjoyed, she remembered a class not far from her home that she had been telling herself she really wanted to do; yet did not follow through. When taking away the ‘hard work’ trying to push yourself into some sort of routine, allow yourself the freedom to have fun moving your body in ways you enjoy. Life will evolve in new ways you would never have been able to plan for. 

Are you listening into your body’s intelligence?

Knowing Yourself – Being an Authentic Leader in your Whole Life

Everyday, I have the privilege of working with people who trust and confide in me, as their confidential sounding board, discussing matters that are of their highest priority. 

As a professional coach, there is an art, science and practice required to be able to hold a clear space for the client to fully show up in, and be real. This creates a safe space for deep listening to occur, so that the client can then hear, feel and sense insights with new awareness. 

Many of my clients tell me they are feeling overwhelmed from information overload. Yes, knowledge is important, yet I find that many of us have become information gatherers and not able to process this for effective application. This is where overwhelm, anxiety and comparison can kick in. In fact, everyone processes differently and it is important to get to know what works best for you so that you can effectively live and work in your zone. 

That’s why I love transformational coaching v’s transactional coaching. 

It certainly has changed my personal and professional life for the better, which is why I believe in this work at the core of my being. There is nothing more powerful than ‘real life experiences’.

This is where transformational coaching is so much more powerful in the long run. My clients always walk away knowing exactly what next steps are right for them based on where they stand now. They create momentum in trusting their own inner mentor, connecting with their natural resourcefulness.

I often hear my clients say how surprised they are about the spectrum of insights they gain inside a 60-minute coaching conversation. Due to this, they gain greater clarity with simplicity and ease. They walk away feeling a sense of ‘lightness’, knowing who they are and what their next steps are, because of these new insights. 

After a coaching session last week with the State Manager of an Engineering Organisation, I asked this question.

 “How would you describe your experience in working with me?” 

Her response was …

“What comes to mind straight away is an image. It is like hand holding your feelings because we have so many people hand holding our minds through training courses, university, corporate institutions, corporate lunches etc. We have all this stuff in our head, and the coaching is like awakening the spiritual, emotional and personal part of you. Including the core aspirations of what you want to do with your life. 

I would say that it helps to awaken that deeper part of you, and then to connect in between, in a way that you don’t have to go and live in a tee pee in the middle of the forest. You can still be a corporate jet setter with a lot more depth and awareness, and with a lot less pain physically, emotionally and spiritually.

I would also say that it is like an awakening of the self in the depth of your being – then seeing how the two (mind and body-soul) interplay – being in alignment – in harmony – rather than competing or one trying to shut down the other.”

I then asked her…

“What type of coach do you refer me as to your colleagues?”

“I have referred you mainly as a Transformation Coach – Life Transformation. 

There are times, depending on who I am speaking with, I do say you are an Executive Coach as they tend to understand this term; yet I feel that does not come close to what I experience from working with you. 

Without sounding too ‘out there’, I am going to use the word ‘Awakening’ Who you really are. Authenticity comes to mind. Leading you towards knowing yourself and actually being an authentic leader.”

I absolutely love my life’s work and especially feel humbled with the variety of subjects that arise inside of the client’s agenda. Yes, my client’s bring their own agenda to each coaching conversation so they can focus in and get the maximum results out of their allocated coaching sessions. This helps to gain clarity so that the client can get straight to the core of what’s really important and what they want to achieve inside each coaching conversation.

If you feel I am speaking to you and there is something that truly resonates with you, or you may be curious about how transformational coaching can take you from where you are now to where you want to be in your personal and professional life, please contact me directly for a consultation.http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Opening the Doors of my Inspirational Office Space

Welcome to my inspirational office space. The space I absolutely love working in with my border collie, Larry, always sitting close by. He is truly my muse.

Opening the doors to my office and sharing my vision and dreams that I have been living for many years. I absolutely love creating a life and business I love that serves my vision and values from the inside out.

I find that many business leaders, entrepreneurs, coaches and consultants come to me in the way of wanting to create a life and business that serves their vision and their values from inside out. They have a vision, a calling or something that they want to actualize.

In the busy world out there today, they tell me they are getting lost inside of all the information and knowledge gathering. They are feeling confused, frustrated and overwhelmed and getting off their path. I can certainly relate to this, as there have often been times I have realized that I have been following someone else’s vision or trying to live someone else’s values. Finding myself needing to pivot, with bucket loads of courage, to get myself back on my true path.

I believe in being ‘in your flow’. I believe in following inspired action and the only way to do that is by staying in alignment with who you truly are. Focusing on your inner vision. No one else can tell you what your inner vision is or how to go about doing that. It is paramount to allow time and space for momentum to gain naturally, for your vision to be realized.

As a coach, I am very passionate about partnering you to articulate, to verbalize and honor your calling from inside out. The real you, knows the essence of who you truly are. The strengths, gifts, talents, abilities, background, knowledge; you are ready to express and put out there into the world. 

Opening the doors of my inspriational office space. video 4.45mins

This ultimately is a part of your calling. It’s a calling that is inside and you have a knowing that you are ready to listen and bring forth. You may feel a little uncertain about your readiness. You may be feeling uncertain about the know-how or even lack of confidence in knowing where to begin.

A little bit about my background. 27 years ago I started a personal training business, when I transitioned from the corporate world as an executive assistant. I was also a world master’s champion sportswoman with a passion for mastering the zone. I wanted to really hone into living and working in my zone. I especially wanted to know how to bring my natural abilities, strengths, gifts and talents together inside a purposeful business that expressed my calling, my vision and honoring who I truly am.

This is what truly inspires me and gets me out of bed each day. If you know that you are sitting on something from inside out and you know that there is a vision – an inner calling – something that you know has transformed your life and you want to bring this out into the world, then you are reading this for a reason.

If you can relate to any of this and you are looking for someone who is not going to tell you what to do, but ultimately see you for your higher vision, your calling, your sounding board, your champion who will inspire you to bring out what it is that is inside of you; to take inspired action trusting your intuition, developing momentum and making sure you stay in alignment with your true path every step of the way; please personal message me if you would like to have a conversation about how we can work together to realize your vision.

Looking forward to hearing more about your calling and the natural creative path that you know needs to be expressed naturally. To ultimately create a life and business you love to live each day.

Creating Guilt-Free Self-Care as a Priority for Yourself

This conversation would have to be the most challenging for many of my clients because they feel selfish or even guilty about taking time out for themselves each day. The only real time they get to take ‘time out’ is if they book a holiday or if they are forced through illness or by even catching a cold.

This is always a signal that you are not living your life in alignment with your truth and possibly trying to compare yourself too much to others and how they are living their life.

Self-Care is the most nurturing and the most effective healing process to living the life you were born to live with mind-body-soul connection. Yes, you have permission to do something nurturing for yourself today, and every other day, so that you can be the best person you can possibly ‘BE’.

It is in Who you are BEING that attracts loving relationships, personal and professional success, wealth, health and happiness.

It takes so much more energy and strain on your mind-body-soul when acting like you have it all together. Give yourself full permission today to let go of the person you think you have to be to succeed and begin to BE true to yourself each day.

If you continue to follow your own path and trust this by taking flowing consistent actions with inner peace and knowing, then you will definitely create a life of purpose, peace and fulfilment in so many ways.

Enjoy this magical image I took whilst walking along the beach at Coogee in Western Australia. One of the many forms of self-care I love.

What brings you joy?

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Lead with your Heart: Are you Getting Caught Up in your Head?

Are you following your heart each day or are you noticing yourself getting caught up in your busy head? When you practice following your heart by listening, trusting and taking the inspired actions that your heart is whispering for you to take, and you do take action; that is when you will always live a life of pure contentment and true wealth from the inside out.

My greatest learning lesson in life has been to have the courage to follow my heart and not to override my decisions through rationalising with my head. Every time I listen to what my heart is telling me to do each day, I always find myself living with much more peace, flow and contentment from the inside.

My outside world matches my inner feelings with greater results occurring right before my eyes without having to push harder and trying to strategise everything ahead of time. This is a practice that you can play with as a part of learning to trust your own gut feelings, instincts and intuition.

I started by simply getting to know what I prefer from the inside out, and you can do the same. I said the word ‘play’ because that is exactly what I did. I asked myself throughout my day “What do I prefer, this colour or that colour?” whenever seeing a certain car or dress. Even when I was exercising I would ask the same question “What do I prefer today walking or running”.

Begin to listen to your body and it’s responses; then act on it. You can then begin to trust and ask the bigger questions like “How much do I really want to charge?” or “How do I really want to set up my working day?” The key here is you must trust and take the actions.

Personal message me if you are interested in knowing more about how you can work with me. http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Creating Clarity through the Power of Simple Meditation

I’ve just been sitting here meditating and I often gain insights as I meditate.

Thought I’d share my insight today…

One of the things that I notice is that we are all working really hard to get ahead in life. As I reflect back on my sporting days when being in the zone, I realised It was never about working hard or getting ahead whilst being in the zone. There was always a feeling of spaciousness in mind and body. There was always a sense of flow. There was always a sense of knowing which step to take next and which direction to go.

This is something that each and every one of us has within, but what happens is we are in our head strategizing trying to work it all out. That’s when it becomes harder work because we are actually pushing up against and trying to work out the steps ahead without really being here first.

The only way you are ever going to know your next step is when you are in the present moment. So, that’s what I would like to share a little more about. Being present to your flow, in the moment trusting the inner voice, the inner vision that gives you that next step. Trusting that gut feel, that instinctual knowing that says ‘go this way’, ‘take this direction’.

Most of the time we have so many responsibilities, which we all do have, it is important to start to create some space for yourself so that you can practice listening into that gut feel, that intuitive knowing. Creating some space so that you can practice that is paramount for your momentum.

This is where true innovation comes from. We all have a creative nature inside each and every one of us; we are all born that way. That is not necessarily just about in the arts. It is knowing the creative strengths, gifts and talents that you have within already that somehow might have been buried, blocked or pushed aside because you are on that survival path of trying to get ahead. Tapping into your own natural flow, which is the creative path to a fulfilling life.

Making some space and time for yourself by going inwards will quieten the busy mind. One of the ways I do that is through meditation. I like to keep it really simple by focusing in on the breath. You can even do this consciously throughout the day by taking 10 deep breaths every hour.

This will actually slow down the busy mind and slow down the rush feeling inside, so that over time you will create space, not only in your life, in your mind, in your body, in between the actions that you are taking throughout the day that you are responsible for.

One of the most natural tools we are born into this life with is the breath. Taking conscious deep breaths throughout your day will slow things down and bring you back into the present moment. Being fully present is a conversation I often have with many of my clients and I’ve personally been through this myself with my own coach.

This has become my daily practice, which is the most powerful way I have ever found that has supported me in staying present in this moment, to stay in my body so that my head doesn’t race ahead. I notice if ever I feel a sense of frustration, anxiousness or overwhelm that is my indicator that my head has taken over in that moment. I notice I am able to catch it much quicker these days. This practice has been a major contributor in creating a healthy balance for my mental well-being, physical well-being and emotional well-being.

Enjoy watching my video. I hope this supports you in trusting your intuitive flow.

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Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

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