Real Engagement: Connecting with your Personal Standards

I’m sitting here in my office waiting for a client to call in and I just had a thought about a conversation I had yesterday with a client. One of the things that she noticed was her habit of reacting to circumstances and situations that were occurring with her clients. She realized that this was a habit, not just with her clients, but it was a lifelong habit. So, in other words, she felt like she was being defensive in her mind and thinking things, and making stuff up, that wasn’t true.

Now we all can easily do that, as we all have habits that do not serve us. We’ve all got thoughts going on. We are all trying to prove ourselves in some way and literally we’re exhausting ourselves. One of the things that we were able to have a discussion about was exactly that. Exploring in what way she could catch herself whenever something external occurred, a question even, not to make it about her professional standards.

One of the things that we identified also when it comes to professional standards, and yes there are legal professional standards that clients need to abide by and there’s also personal standards. Personal standards are where you know exactly what has you be your best and how you work best with your customers. This will be unique to you.

How do you find out? You’re customers will start asking you questions. You’ll start getting peeved off about something that your customer might be speaking about, doing something that irks you or rubs you up the wrong way. So this is about really tapping into how best you work and how best you communicate with your clients so that you can identify if they are the ideal clients for you.

I just want to come back to that area of personal standards. Personal standards are what you will and won’t accept of yourself. Boundaries are what you will and won’t accept of others. When you get upset about something or reacting to a situation that you are pointing the finger about, as in the case yesterday with this client who was pointing the finger towards his client, saying things like; this client was not treating me like a professional, he was questioning my professional standards etc.

The first thing is not to take it personally. I know it is easier said than done. We’re all human. We all are. But it is being able to be the observer of, and separating your personality self, whilst being inside the conversation in a neutral tone of voice. Being neutral inside your energy and vibration so that you are in alignment and not reacting. Because ultimately when you are pointing the finger, anything that is happening that you are reacting to externally, is something for you to learn about your own personal standards and your own personal boundaries.

It is then that you will be able to clearly articulate to your customers how best you work, whom you want to work with that brings out your best for the expanding vision and growth of the company.

Getting to know yourself well enough in all those areas is vital to your success and fulfillment.

  • What are your boundaries?
  • What are your personal standards?

Yes, definitely know your professional standards as well.

One of the things we noticed also inside this coaching conversation was the value of really tapping into the humanness of the client. Finding out why they got into business? What makes them tick? What is it that they’re passionate about inside of the why of their chosen business? So that you are connecting with them at a real engaging level. People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.

One of the other things my client realised was how quickly she was stepping straight into her professionalism, sharing and proving herself as to what she could do to support the client. Yes rightly so, but there’s a couple of steps before that and that’s the human connection. So connecting with the person as a human being asking them deeper exploratory questions like…

“What got them into this business in the first place?”

“Why did you choose this particular business?”

“What is your personal and professional vision?”

“What is it about your services/products that transformed their life?”

“When were you first intrigued about this service/product?”

There will be something that links the Why of that business owner to which they might have even forgotten about because they are panicking about cash flow. They may be panicking about how to get the business growing. Or possibly panicking about staff and team, and everything it takes to run a sustainable business.

We do need all of these to be functioning well. But if there’s panic going on every step of the way then you lose touch, you disconnect from who you truly are and why you got into business in the first place. Then you are not able to clearly clarify your needs when you bring the people in, whether it’s the team, the staff, the contractors, and those people that will help you when you are clear on what it is that you need.

Where I’m coming from here is from my client’s point of view and that is you’ve got to know what it is that has you tick. What are your personal standards? What are your boundaries? Why did you step into business in the first place? What are you passionate about with your own business?

This is paramount because your own energy and vibration will transfer onto the clients you want to attract. Then you will be able to easily engage as a human being with those customers, which is what I call ‘client for life’. Whether they employ you immediately or not, they will remember you on how you engaged with them at a human level.

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The Evolution of You – The Business of You

How are you going in these transitional times when it comes to yourself, noticing who am I now and who am I becoming? What is the calling that you are noticing based on who you are now and who you are becoming, in making a difference in the lives of other people, with your service based business, whatever the case might be for you?

What I’m very passionate about is coming from the evolution of myself. Noticing the many different transitional phases, the self-expression of who I truly am and that becomes the evolution of my unique business model. The expansion of my branding model is developed as I connect with the deeper inner vision, the inner voice and the inner calling.

As I express my full self-expression in action with my audiences and my clients, especially noticing a common thread between those people who are also evolving and noticing ‘Where to from here!’ for themselves. This is something that I’ve been very passionate about as far back as I can remember and I must say that it’s been quite a journey.

Creating a Life and Business You Love

So, if you are on a journey of creating a life and a business that you love, as an expression of who you truly are, then just a couple of things I would like to share with you.

First and foremost, to listen in and trust whatever is coming to and through you because this is your channel of what we’re calling your authentic voice, your authentic vision, that then becomes your authentic brand and unique business model.

Listening into that is not a vision that comes from your neck up; it is an inner vision that comes from the neck down that actually speaks to and through you throughout the day, wherever you are, whatever you’re doing. This is where you might be meditating; you might be in the gym, at the beach, walking in the park etc.

Generally it is when you’re in some form of movement, I personally find, is where I get some form of insights. It comes through my body and I’m not thinking about it. This is when you are in alignment and fully connected, listening in. Another tip I want to give you, which is one I absolutely love, is to write those insights down. I notice whatever is coming to and through me.

When you write down your insights and realisations, they become a lot more solidified, instead of having your thoughts going around and around in your head wondering what your next steps are. Every time I write whatever is going around in my head, my obvious next step always appears.

I’m Ready to Express my Life’s Work

I had a client contact me last week who was going through this very challenge. She had done a lot of personal development on herself, had a lot of life experiences, different career paths and was in that transition of knowing her time was now. “I’m ready.” “I want to set my up own business that is an expression of my life’s work.”

This is something that I have done as far back as I can remember, with all the career paths I have experienced, especially in the last 25-30 years, feeling the strong pull to listen in and trust my calling. Especially during times of uncertainty and overwhelm, to courageous trust my inner voice, especially when the voices on the outside can distract you from staying focused on your life’s work.

To take consistent action trusting your inspired next steps, even if you cannot see results on the outside yet. With a deep knowing that you are consistently feeling a sense of momentum because you are taking inspired action committed to your inner vision and inner voice. Knowing that every little step you take is a contribution in the realisation of your inspirational vision.

Articulate your Creative Self-Expression

Stay open and trust the creative channel that is coming to and through you so that you listen into your inner voice. Then notice ways to naturally articulate your creative self-expression in a way where your voice can be heard out in the world by way of a service and/or products that have transformed your life. This is what activates life to your unique authentic brand, because you’ve lived it.

There are many different areas around this subject, but the first couple of tips I want to leave you with today is trusting in going inward, listening into the inner voice, inner vision, inner calling through your channel; and writing down whatever is coming to and through you.

Notice the evolution of your authentic brand and your unique business model taking shape one jigsaw puzzle at a time. It’s putting that out bit-by-bit out into the world so that your authentic voice is being heard and you’re making a difference in the lives of other people with your life’s work.

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Are your Personal and Business Priorities Changing?

I’ve just come from a coaching session and wanted to share with you, just in case you’re in the same position, like this small business owner I was connecting with. What she found was that there was a shift in her priorities, which meant that a requirement of a shift in her business model as well.

Her personal priorities had shifted, which meant that her business priorities needed to shift. This felt very foreign for her as she was very much a high achiever, go-getter leader, with a driver personality style, with work being very much a passion for this business owner. As we had been working for some time on exploring her true core values and developing the right business model for her at the start, this has become very successful for her priorities at that time.

At this stage in her personal and business life, new lifestyle priorities have become very evident for her now wanting more of a balance in her whole life. She wanted to become successful in all areas of her life, not just business.

For her, this looked like spending quality time with her partner, she felt a new sense of wanting to spend more time in the new home she had created, and now family life has also changed for her wanting to be able to relax with those people important in her. She also wanted to make time for self-care without feeling guilty about creating time for herself.

New Evolving Business Model

We went on to discuss what her new evolving business model would look like with these areas included in her life. With further exploration as to how long she spends in her business, as in the amount of hours in the week and the new priorities she wanted to set up as her business style and her lifestyle have now changed. She also noticed she was stepping more into a leadership management role, and wanted to make sure she was being of service in the professional industry that she absolutely loved.

So, the moral of the story here is, no matter whether you are running your own business or running a major organization or working for a company, the importance of listening into your core values, and what this looks like in action, as they shift and change, when you are in transition of your personal and/or professional life.

It is paramount to know what is important to you at any given time, especially as your priorities change and ultimately you take you with you everywhere you go. Are you consciously listening into your deep knowing and trusting yourself to take those new actions consistently?

If you’re not listening into your core values, you will block them in some way that will cause some form of unease in your body. When your body is not in a state of ease and flow, it will cause some form of dis-ease. Most of the time we have disconnected and we are pushing ourselves through the day to get to the other side in order to hopefully arrive somewhere. There is nowhere to get to.

It is important to trust your intuitive knowing by listening into what is right for you, getting to explore and understand who you really are. Identifying what is important to you and the evolution of your values-based business model that works best for you now, so that you can make time for yourself and the important people in your life.

This is what this business owner is now doing – re-evaluating and exploring ways that she can create a business and a life she really loves to live each day.

Yes, it is possible. It’s one step at a time, as there is possibly the shifting of old beliefs systems, old mindset dynamics, and old cultural patterns – whatever the case might be for you. This takes time and patience with conscious practice each day.

So, check in to make sure that your business model is what’s right for you (no one else) so that you can express yourself fully, bringing your whole self and your full potential into your workplace each day.

Notice if there are changes occurring for you right now, to just notice them. Allow and surrender into who you are becoming and remember that purposeful success in an inside job. Enjoy the journey of your evolving business model connecting with who you are now becoming as you express your core values in action.

Enjoy watching my video. I hope this supports you to evolve with your personal and business priorities.

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The Essence of Expressing your Authentic Self

I am wondering how much you know about ‘Who you truly are’ and whether you are expressing your authentic self? Or are there masks that you’ve been trying to break through, in the hope that some how you will get to know your real self? 

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think
we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” Brene’ Brown

This is a conversation that I quite often have with my clients and what I find is that they are often comparing themselves to other people, and other competitors. I work with high achievers, leaders, entrepreneurs, people who are very much in the business, corporate world, who want to identify themselves apart from the academic side of themselves, so that they can connect and engage naturally. And that takes a lot of courage, a lot of bravery in breaking that down, which is not a quick fix it, it is not a head strategy alone.

Behind Closed Doors

One of the things that came up with my first 2 clients this morning is how much we are looking outside for validation without even realizing. They told me just how much they were being caught up with looking at what their competitors are doing. I noticed the frustration in their tone of voice as they told me how much they were losing focus of their own vision.

Yes, obviously we need to know ‘the gap in the market’, but ultimately when it comes to being your authentic self, ‘it’s an inside job’. It is about sensing the trends in the market place and trusting your instincts, as you stay in your lane, taking action on your inspirational vision.

It is about blocking out all the noises and the distractions on the outside so that you can really listen into your inner mentor. The person inside who is really getting to know you; because your head strategy and a lot of our knowledge and past experiences, background; is possibly getting in the way of uncovering, discovering and exploring who you really are. 

Trust your Intuitive Knowing

A lot of the high achievers I work with (and I am one of them) are very much impatient type people and it is very natural for them to go into head strategy. If you want to get into the heart of it in getting to know who you truly are then it takes patience. It is not a perfection game, it is a lot of patience in exploring yourself and that takes time, it takes bravery, it takes possibly going against the norm. Yet identifying areas that feel intuitively right for you at that time, even if you are going against the grain of what others are doing. 

One of the things that came up this morning with a client was around the amount of content and training that is available today that is causing a lot of pressure and overwhelm. My client who is a very highly qualified academic business leader told me that no matter how much more knowledge she gained, she had a sense of ‘still not knowing enough’.

She quickly realized that she had been continually gaining knowledge all her life, which kept her inside a cycle of ‘still trying to prove herself to her peers’. She felt a strong sense that she wanted to really connect as a whole person – not just at a head academic level. Somewhere along her path, she disconnected from the purpose and meaning of the subject she was most passionate about and especially disengaged from her deeper why at a humanistic level.

“You’re not going to really know why you do what
you do until you know who you really are.”

This is about really going into the essence of who you truly are. The heart and soul of the content and the purpose of the content, which we call ‘the why’ why you do what you do. Ultimately, you’re not going to know why you do, as generally a lot of those reasons come from the head alone at the start. You’re not going to really know why you do what you do until you know who you really are – that’s not a head strategy – it comes from a life exploration with something that opens up in life. 

Out of the blue, you might find yourself in a transitional phase. In your career, business, relationship, a transition, whatever the case might be that has you start a path of self-reflection. Going into yourself and really looking at what is important to you, what are the things that you may have outgrown, checking in on your belief systems that you may have picked up along the way that may have served you for a certain period of your personal, professional life that no longer works for you. 

The Value of Self-Reflection Time

That’s why it is important to have that self-reflection time and my suggestion to a lot of my clients when they are in their busy head strategy, is to write this down. This will get whatever is going around and around in your head, into a clearing that is heart connected.  Another powerful pathway is to have an exploration conversation with a professional coach who creates a space for you to process those things in a way that gains clarity and insight quicker than what you would on your own.

If this is something you’re interested in and you want to explore and work privately with me, then that is something that I am passionate about exploring that side of who you truly are, what’s important to you based on where you are now and how you know you want to set it up. Or there is an instinctual knowing that there is a change occurring, yet you do not know what that may look like, so it is important to explore who you are now before we step into the what and the how. Because there is a lot of strategy out there in the world based on ‘What do you want?’ and ‘How do you want to go about doing it?’ without the exploration of ‘Who you truly are?’ – and that’s what I’m passionate about.

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Opening the Doors of my Inspirational Office Space

Welcome to my inspirational office space. The space I absolutely love working in with my border collie, Larry, always sitting close by. He is truly my muse.

Opening the doors to my office and sharing my vision and dreams that I have been living for many years. I absolutely love creating a life and business I love that serves my vision and values from the inside out.

I find that many business leaders, entrepreneurs, coaches and consultants come to me in the way of wanting to create a life and business that serves their vision and their values from inside out. They have a vision, a calling or something that they want to actualize.

In the busy world out there today, they tell me they are getting lost inside of all the information and knowledge gathering. They are feeling confused, frustrated and overwhelmed and getting off their path. I can certainly relate to this, as there have often been times I have realized that I have been following someone else’s vision or trying to live someone else’s values. Finding myself needing to pivot, with bucket loads of courage, to get myself back on my true path.

I believe in being ‘in your flow’. I believe in following inspired action and the only way to do that is by staying in alignment with who you truly are. Focusing on your inner vision. No one else can tell you what your inner vision is or how to go about doing that. It is paramount to allow time and space for momentum to gain naturally, for your vision to be realized.

As a coach, I am very passionate about partnering you to articulate, to verbalize and honor your calling from inside out. The real you, knows the essence of who you truly are. The strengths, gifts, talents, abilities, background, knowledge; you are ready to express and put out there into the world. 

Opening the doors of my inspriational office space. video 4.45mins

This ultimately is a part of your calling. It’s a calling that is inside and you have a knowing that you are ready to listen and bring forth. You may feel a little uncertain about your readiness. You may be feeling uncertain about the know-how or even lack of confidence in knowing where to begin.

A little bit about my background. 27 years ago I started a personal training business, when I transitioned from the corporate world as an executive assistant. I was also a world master’s champion sportswoman with a passion for mastering the zone. I wanted to really hone into living and working in my zone. I especially wanted to know how to bring my natural abilities, strengths, gifts and talents together inside a purposeful business that expressed my calling, my vision and honoring who I truly am.

This is what truly inspires me and gets me out of bed each day. If you know that you are sitting on something from inside out and you know that there is a vision – an inner calling – something that you know has transformed your life and you want to bring this out into the world, then you are reading this for a reason.

If you can relate to any of this and you are looking for someone who is not going to tell you what to do, but ultimately see you for your higher vision, your calling, your sounding board, your champion who will inspire you to bring out what it is that is inside of you; to take inspired action trusting your intuition, developing momentum and making sure you stay in alignment with your true path every step of the way; please personal message me if you would like to have a conversation about how we can work together to realize your vision.

Looking forward to hearing more about your calling and the natural creative path that you know needs to be expressed naturally. To ultimately create a life and business you love to live each day.

Creating Guilt-Free Self-Care as a Priority for Yourself

This conversation would have to be the most challenging for many of my clients because they feel selfish or even guilty about taking time out for themselves each day. The only real time they get to take ‘time out’ is if they book a holiday or if they are forced through illness or by even catching a cold.

This is always a signal that you are not living your life in alignment with your truth and possibly trying to compare yourself too much to others and how they are living their life.

Self-Care is the most nurturing and the most effective healing process to living the life you were born to live with mind-body-soul connection. Yes, you have permission to do something nurturing for yourself today, and every other day, so that you can be the best person you can possibly ‘BE’.

It is in Who you are BEING that attracts loving relationships, personal and professional success, wealth, health and happiness.

It takes so much more energy and strain on your mind-body-soul when acting like you have it all together. Give yourself full permission today to let go of the person you think you have to be to succeed and begin to BE true to yourself each day.

If you continue to follow your own path and trust this by taking flowing consistent actions with inner peace and knowing, then you will definitely create a life of purpose, peace and fulfilment in so many ways.

Enjoy this magical image I took whilst walking along the beach at Coogee in Western Australia. One of the many forms of self-care I love.

What brings you joy?

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Lead with your Heart: Are you Getting Caught Up in your Head?

Are you following your heart each day or are you noticing yourself getting caught up in your busy head? When you practice following your heart by listening, trusting and taking the inspired actions that your heart is whispering for you to take, and you do take action; that is when you will always live a life of pure contentment and true wealth from the inside out.

My greatest learning lesson in life has been to have the courage to follow my heart and not to override my decisions through rationalising with my head. Every time I listen to what my heart is telling me to do each day, I always find myself living with much more peace, flow and contentment from the inside.

My outside world matches my inner feelings with greater results occurring right before my eyes without having to push harder and trying to strategise everything ahead of time. This is a practice that you can play with as a part of learning to trust your own gut feelings, instincts and intuition.

I started by simply getting to know what I prefer from the inside out, and you can do the same. I said the word ‘play’ because that is exactly what I did. I asked myself throughout my day “What do I prefer, this colour or that colour?” whenever seeing a certain car or dress. Even when I was exercising I would ask the same question “What do I prefer today walking or running”.

Begin to listen to your body and it’s responses; then act on it. You can then begin to trust and ask the bigger questions like “How much do I really want to charge?” or “How do I really want to set up my working day?” The key here is you must trust and take the actions.

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Ways to Easily Evolve when Facing Life Transitions

You may find yourself going through some sort of transition in life. If so, this is normally not an easy process as you may be facing the challenge of being in the ‘muddle’ of life. One moment feeling like you have it all handled, and the next, wondering what happened!

Who am I now? You may be asking! What are my next steps? What happened to the clarity of direction you may have had in the past? I have often felt like I have hit a brick wall with clarity turning into a haze of uncertainty. On many an occasion when facing transitions in life, I have often caught myself asking these very profound questions.

The most challenging and rewarding path is our evolving transitions in life. Some of the many evolving paths I have personally witnessed is the transition of being married to then going through divorce, from being employed in a large organization to starting my own business, from health and wellbeing challenges to guilt-free self care, from financial security to financial uncertainty and many more.


The Power of Uncertainty and Vulnerability

During these transitional times, my clarity of direction in life always went through a dark tunnel of uncertainty and vulnerability. The truth is, I never made it easy on myself because I would always resist the change. This would cause greater stress, anxiety and overwhelm in my mind and body, which never made it a quicker journey towards reaching a new normal.

I always found that there was light at the end of this dark tunnel when allowing myself to be patient inside of the feelings of uncertainty. As I would continue to focus on what I was certain about inside my life right here and now, this would help me to stay present to what was already working in my life.

I knew my habitual personality was to create strategies and work it all out.  I was committed to doing things differently without the push, strive and drive. To allow new insight and awareness to come to me at the time it is meant to. To trust that there is a powerful learning lesson inside this transition and if I push it, I will only make it harder to learn the lesson.

To remind myself that there is light inside this dark tunnel and not to push for results.

I would remind myself of the saying…

“You may not always get what you think you want,
but you will always get what you need for your highest evolution.”

I always found myself peacefully coming out the other end with greater awareness and insight into the next phase of life with a deeper knowing of what was right for me at that stage of my life.

We know that change and transitioning is a part of life, so why do we sometimes hang on to the same old story keeping us from living a successful and fulfilling life?

If you are hanging on to a story of what success is meant to look like, like I did, then it will take a very long time to see the learning lessons and ways to create a new life with this new awareness, knowledge and insightful wisdom.

When going through the muddle of a life changing transition, it can cause many fearful feelings of self-doubt, overwhelm, disappointment, uncertainty and vulnerability. If you are use to having success in your life, without the challenges that will cause you to gain new insight about yourself, then you may get stuck in your thinking and automatic action processes, limiting your full potential.
 

Are You Really Living your Purposeful Path?

The natural evolution of transitioning is important for the exponential growth of your purpose. You may be on the wrong track and something will interrupt your habitual path in order for you to gain greater insight into your real self. To create the space and time needed, to allow yourself to develop new ways of creating a life and business you love to live from inside out.

For many years, I followed a path of what I thought success looked like. I realized that I had developed this picture due to unmet needs of being liked, accepted, loved, respected, acknowledged, valued etc. When I met those needs intrinsically, that is when I was able to clearly see and feel my purposeful path of inspiring others to tune into being an expression of their real self.

I needed to clean up my own needs to get myself out of the way. In other words, I was able to hear my calling instead of what I thought I needed to do to be successful. This came in the way of clear next steps, one step at a time.


Become Your Own Best Friend

So if you are going through a transition as we speak, allow yourself to feel the space of vulnerability and uncertainty. Become your own best friend inside this space and make sure you do not try to fill the space up with old habits. Feel the space and acknowledge every single feeling coming up inside of you (yes, be with your feelings and do not squash them down or push them aside).

Speak kindly and gently to your fears and doubts with support and guidance just like you would a scared child. This is exactly what I did. Instead of making my feelings wrong and burying them by pushing harder, I decided to become my own best friend and speak to myself with a supportive, kind and loving voice.

If you continue to beat yourself up with the old theory of ‘no pain – no gain’ (like I use to), then you will find yourself trying harder and harder in life to achieve. This will keep you on the treadmill of continually hitting the glass ceiling and feeling exhausted each day. Your health and wellbeing will definitely suffer. This will affect the quality of your relationships at home and at work.

As I mentioned to a colleague this week, who is going through a transition
at this time in her life, to make sure she ‘feels the space’ – ‘not fill the space’.

 

Myth:  Busy is the New Black

Too often I have felt lazy if I was not keeping busy or feeling like I was not being productive. When in actual fact I was living a false sense of productivity. This was my ego habitual self and not the truth to getting to know my whole self.

We are too quick to get on the busy path, instead of allowing the space to guide us one step at a time. Your inspiring vision will come to you when you stay in a state of ease, flow and stillness.

Ask yourself these 5 questions if feeling challenged right now:

  1. What meaning am I making from this event/change?
  2. What am I learning about myself in who I am being and how I am acting or reacting?
  3. Why am I acting this way and what new insight have I gained?
  4. Who do I choose to become now that I know this about myself?
  5. What new actions am I going to take to support my new commitment?
Visioning: The Power of Living and Working in the Zone

In the fast pace of life and business today, it is easy to get caught up in reaction mode with a false sense of productivity. This makes getting into their zone quite challenging for best results. Clients are always pleasantly surprised just how much more they can achieve, in less time and with less effort, when they are working and living in the zone.

As a champion sportswoman many years ago, peak performance and full potential were evident when ‘playing in the zone’.

Are you being productive utilizing your full potential in the zone?

Do you actually know what your zone is and how to get into the zone?

I remember having a ritual in preparation for game day. This ritual consisted of listening to upbeat music, I would prepare my gear the night before, I did not go out the night before, I would speak positive to myself, I would eat certain foods before the game, I would do deep breathing exercises, I would warm up my body and my mind before the official warm up. Doing these helped me to get into the zone before stepping on the field.

I was always researching ways to improve my standard to move beyond peak performance in the zone. The most powerful tool I have ever used which I learnt over 30 years ago was visioning.

My national trainer told me the story about where Olympic athletes had used visual rehearsal in their mind of the event using all their senses as a part of their training. Evidence had revealed that every muscle in their body was activated to the same degree of exertion as though they were running the event. I then decided to use this tool everyday for my national training.

I would visualize my performance on the field, the team plays I wanted to run, I would see myself scoring touchdowns in my mind, I saw myself winning fairest and best, being in the zone, playing with confidence and leading the team to win.

My trainer also suggested that I record my voice saying positive performance statements and to listen to them every night as I was going to sleep. This would program my belief system to support my mind and body to perform at peak level. I developed persistence and a greater sense of self-belief, which kept me in the zone and focused for the whole game.

I am clear that these tools were a major part of my winning formula that supported me physically, mentally and emotionally. I was able to keep moving forward, to say focused on the game, to support and back up team members, to get on with the game if a play did not come off the first time, to continue to get back up if I took a hit.

I have been using this same winning formula, which has contributed to my extraordinary professional and personal success.

Just like in sport, it is very powerful to live and work in the zone. It is important to get to know the best way for you to put yourself into the zone for greater focus. Knowing when you are in action, there is a particular zone that you need to be in to perform at peak level continually. You need to know how to set up the environment in a way where there are no distractions. Your mindset needs to be in a state of laser like focus and the energy you bring forth into every action your take needs to be grounded and clear.

When living and working in the zone there is a flow that occurs which I call the ‘free-flow zone’. The more you practice being in your zone you will notice a presence that is much more powerful because of who you are being, not just by what you are doing or saying.

There is a deeper level to that, but mainly it is all about really staying connected from within. Leading and living from the heart, trust your gut, that instinctual part of you, then taking action that connects with the whole you.

 

 

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring and Consulting – What’s the Difference?

I often get asked about the difference between coaching, counselling, mentoring and consulting.  While the communication skills used by these professions are similar – such as asking questions, active listening, summarising, etc., they are very different methods, and it depends on what the client needs.

Here are some distinctions:

Coaching
According to the International Coach Federation, coaching is defined as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential.” The coach is the subject matter expert at coaching, not necessarily the subject matter expert of the client’s coaching topic.

Counselling
Counselors are trained to diagnose and help the client with emotional problems, the past or dysfunction while coaches are not. The coach’s domain is future-oriented – what does the client want? And then coaching the client to get there.

Mentoring
A mentor is a wise and trusted guide and advisor. The mentor is the teacher that shares their experience while bringing the “mentee” up the ranks.  A coach is not necessarily the subject matter expert in order to help develop the client.

Consulting
A consultant is an expert who is called on for professional or technical advice or opinions. They are relied on to understand the problem and present solutions. Consulting is unlike coaching because, with pure coaching, the answers come from the client.

What are your thoughts about these distinctions?

When seeking a professional, it is important to know what your requirements are so that you can choose the right professional at the right time.

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring & Consulting

According to the founder of CoachU, Thomas Leonard:

A Coach is…

  • Your partner in achieving professional and personal goals;
  • Your champion during a turnaround;
  • Your trainer in communication and life skills;
  • Your sounding board when making choices;
  • Your motivator when strong actions called for;
  • Your unconditional support when you take a hit;
  • Your mentor in personal development;
  • Your co-design when developing an extraordinary project
  • Your beacon during stormy times;
  • Your wake-up call if you don’t hear your own, and most importantly;
  • Your coach is your partner in living the life you know you’re ready for, personally and professionally.”

The Art & Science of Coaching

I am very passionate about coaching because since having a Master Coach in my corner over the past 17 years, the power of transformational coaching has delivered exactly that in my life – it has transformed my personal and professional life. This is what strongly supported my decision to become a professional coach studying the true art and science of advanced coaching.

If you are wanting to close the gap from where you are now to achieve next level success with a professional accredited coach, contact me to book in for a 20 minute introductory to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

Contact Annette
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