Powerful Benefits inside of Everyday Visioning

Having your own vision gives you more purpose and meaning to life. A vision will support you in times of doubt, especially when you face challenges and you start to question the who, what, and how you want to live your life, based on what’s most important to you. Having a vision will help you to maintain your focus and achieve your personal and professional ambitions.

When I first started my coaching business and had times of challenges and self-doubt, my own coach would always ask me to read my vision. There were times when I really did not want to do this because of the uncertainty I held on to in that moment.

What I found, however, was that reading my vision brought me back into the present and stopped the frustration and the sense of being overwhelmed. Most of all, it reminded me of what was truly important to me now. That helped me see that the challenge I was dealing with at that time was insignificant in the big scheme of my vision. In that instant, I always found a way of managing the challenge with ease.

Powerful Benefits inside of Everyday Visioning

Did you know that you already visualise every day, as you think about the daily activities that may need to be done? What happens is, you go into ‘automatic action mode’ to get through your day. The thought processes you have every moment of your day are sending messages to your brain, which then activates the body into taking an action.

All your daily actions, like eating breakfast, driving the kids to school, driving to work, reacting to traffic, choosing what to wear, going to the gym or for a walk outdoors, will always have a vision through your mind’s eye first, before you take action.

What is important about this process is that you notice what thoughts you are processing and especially the energy you attach to your thoughts. If you have a negative emotion driving your actions, then that is what you will attract. Guess what! If you have a positive enthusiastic energy behind your daily actions, then you will always attract positive experiences. As you step into your day, start noticing where you are placing your attention and practice visualising your day with enthusiasm. This will give you the confidence to create your vision beyond your everyday activities.

Everyday Visioning Tip

When you go to bed at night and your head relaxes on the pillow, consciously take some deep breaths with your eyes closed. Focus on your breathing as you begin to relax your mind, then visualise your next day the way you would like it to go – being confident at meetings, flowing through your day, asserting yourself with good energy, inspiring your team, working in the zone, communication with your family, remaining calm and relaxed etc. Allow yourself to relax into your visualisation as you fall into a peaceful sleep.

If you are ready to play a bigger and stronger game with a powerful vision, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Playing a Bigger and Stronger Game with a Powerful Vision

When reflecting on the many achievements in my professional and personal life, I could not understand why I did not feel happy, fulfilled or good enough, no matter how much I accomplished. I realised I had limited my vision of success to achieving tangible results and was still yearning for more.

As I reflected back on my sporting days, the vision I had was quite limited because it was mainly about achieving recognition through winning fairest and best and being selected for state and national teams.

The most memorable times I have are the natural contributing actions I undertook and the real connection I had with the team and coach such as team members asking if they could join me in extra training sessions. I would coach them to believe in their ability and train them physically in the areas they needed improvement. I also remember how much I enjoyed the team camaraderie – before, during and after training sessions and games.

In other words, I enjoyed the activities along the way in my physical senses, whilst my head was focusing on the bigger picture. I was not fully present in the joy of the real journey and not aware of the things I loved about playing sport. I was disconnected.

This was a real wake-up call especially because I noticed I was living my whole life like this. I then decided to change my vision and goal setting process, ensuring it honoured my heart’s vision and values from the inside out and the outside in.

Playing a Bigger and Stronger Game with a Powerful Vision

Going a little deeper into the area of vision, the most powerful and defining vision question I was asked more than 15 years ago was, “What do you want for yourself and others in the world?” This gave me a profound shift in the way I processed and thought about vision and goal setting. Instantly my vision became so much bigger than me.

I learnt when you know who you are, why you do what you do, and what you want for yourself and others in life, you can then be clearer on your purposeful path in life. You will know exactly what career path to step into, or what business to create fulfilling your heart’s vision and you’re why. You will create connected relationships at work and at home. You will enjoy your work and your relationships knowing it is an extension of who you really are.  http://annettestanton.com.au/vision/

The Heart’s Vision Model

The Heart Vision Model

Create your heart’s vision with realistic goals; devise an action plan consisting of specific daily actions for the whole of your life, and you will witness consistent results.

Your vision is not just about accumulating stuff; getting the next award, improved relationships, new career, or the next leadership role. Your vision is a true expression of your goals, values and actions that give you your mission and purpose in life.

Your goals are a specific breakdown of your vision with your action plan being your specific daily steps to take, knowing you are acting each day on your vision, values and goals. 

I share this because you never know where your journey will take you. Dream it, keep doing the things you love, create momentum by consistently being in action and the opportunities will open up for you. I believe opportunities are everywhere. The key is whether you are consciously a witness to them by being fully present. If you are focusing on what’s not happening or what’s missing in your professional and personal life, then you will be totally unaware of the next opportunity right in front of you.

The World Masters was not on my radar. I did not learn about it until I was holidaying in Canada. I heard about it in Vancouver, through meeting a group of Aussies, and I asked if they knew if touch football was played at the World Masters. They did not know so when I returned to Australia I did some research and discovered the sport was still quite young in other areas of the world. So I let it go.

I then moved to Queensland and joined the local team, which had many Australian players. In 1994, I was asked to be a part of a team being recruited for the World Masters. The rest, as they say, is history. We won gold and became World Masters Champions.

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High Emotional Intelligence for Next Level Success

Did you know that you will already have foundational systems in your everyday life that are working for you? The difference in growing upon your foundational success is whether you are conscious about the systems you do have that are working for you. Or are you living every moment unconsciously reacting to circumstances always looking at what is not working for you?

Foundational Success is the rock solid personal and professional systems you put in place so you have something solid to build on each and every day. Especially whenever challenges come your way, if you have your foundation set up in your whole life, then you will have a high emotional intelligence. When you have a high emotional intelligence you will stop reacting to life’s challenges and in that moment be calm enough to consciously choose your response.

Yes, you will be able to respond without reacting to the situation in front of you. Reactions to life’s challenges causes major stress and the seesaw feeling. Every action you take is a part of a system you have set up whether it be conscious or unconscious.

Start to become conscious about the systems that are already working for you and then take a look at the actions you are sporadically taking because of reactional thinking. Then decide whether there is a better way of implementing the action and if it needs to be a repetitive system for your success. In a nutshell, it is about knowing and living your standards (the things you will and won’t accept of yourself) combined with clear boundaries (the things you will and won’t accept of others) and having the courage to continually communicate these coming from love and respect for yourself and others.

Some of the many things that set you up for reactional thinking are:

  • Not setting up your day with priority actions and doing the important things first.
  • Not placing suitable time scheduling around your priorities.
  • Not living your own standards – being everything to everybody.
  • Getting into the habit of overpromising and under-delivering.
  • Holding back on clear communication – ‘playing the guessing and assuming game’.
  • Saying ‘Yes’ when you really want to say ‘No’.
  • Not setting clear defined boundaries coming from love and respect for yourself and others.
  • Not making quality time to chill out and be with your family and loved ones.
  • Not making time to do something for yourself each day that brings you joy, fun and lightness.
  • Not having a clear vision and being disorganised.
  • Living and working amongst clutter.

Here is a simple equation to remember for next level success with high emotional intelligence.

High Emotional Intelligence for Next Level Success

To capitalise on your resources, it is paramount to have high emotional intelligence. If not, then you may be sabotaging your next level success no matter how much work you put in on the outside. Begin to take stock by becoming consciously aware of your own reactions because they are an indication that you are not living your standards and you may be crossing your own boundaries and allowing others to cross them.

If your next level success is stagnant and you find yourself not standing on solid foundations with high emotional intelligence, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Busy Work Life: Is Your Health and Energy Suffering?

Your health and physical energy is always a great guidance for you to see whether you are doing the important things that feed positive energy into your mind, body and soul. If you are feeling low in energy or feeling your health is suffering, then take a good look at what you are promising to do in your day and create plenty of space for yourself to breath, reflect and change your approach.

I have had many people come to me for coaching who are feeling low in energy and concerned about their health. They noticed how much they pushed themselves in their working life, so much so, that they did not make quality time to be with their family, never made time for themselves and very much concerned about their own health.

The truth is that they really do not want to have this year be the same as last year and their commitment is to work on 3 main areas to make these changes.

Busy Work Life: Is Your Health and Energy Suffering?

  1. Simple exercise and relaxation techniques that work for each individual because we all enjoy different forms of exercise. So be careful not to think you ‘should be’ doing a form of exercise based on what others have said to do or what you did 20 years ago. You have changed and it is important to listen to what your body is telling you to do today.

Most of you may know that my background is as a national sportswoman and being a high achiever, I learned about this the hard way – exercise today is a breeze and I listen to what my body needs. My past career was as a personal trainer and the most common thing I heard from people I worked with was that they felt like they had to ‘work hard’ to get results. This is not the truth. It is all about consistency and doing what you enjoy so that it becomes a natural way of life – not a yo-yo situation – take away all the push, relax and enjoy the process as a way of life. Think of it as your commitment to having a healthy lifestyle for life.

  1. The other area we are working on is how to set your day up for success by ‘under-promising and over delivering’. A great tip on setting your day up is to set it up the night before by acknowledging what you did get done during that day, and then choose 3-5 highest priority actions and set these up in the next day’s diary. Add plenty of white space inside your diary for the unexpected. Place lunch breaks in your diary and get away from the office to clear your mind and rejuvenate your batteries for the afternoon.

Now, this is the most important part – take a look at your diary and notice whether you feel heavy and stressed or light and accomplishable. If you feel heavy when looking at your day’s diary set up, then you will definitely set your day up to fail, even before it has begun. Let’s take away the stress by setting up realistic time frames that work for you. Stop trying to push through and collapsing at the end of the day hanging out for that release of some kind.

Then visualise your day exactly the way you would like it to go based on what you have placed in your diary and see yourself going home with plenty of energy to do those things you want to do with your family, time for yourself, exercise etc.

  1. Set up quality time with your family, children, pets, whoever is important to you on a daily basis and ‘be present’ with them. Also, put this time in your diary and do not let yourself down and the people most important in your life.

Become the designer of your life and business success. Keep it super simple as you set up consistent foundations as your daily practice for sustainable energy and vitality.

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What is your Definition of Real Success?

I was having a coaching conversation recently with a group of business leaders who were in the process of defining what Success really looked like to them. One business owner soon realised that Success was not the tangible things that she had been striving for over the many years of being in business – they were all intangible. This surprised her greatly.

It’s interesting and certainly exhausting how you may be chasing something in life that you think will make you happier, more successful or whatever your hopeful reasoning is. You may already have what Success truly is to you without even realising it. You may be moving so fast in the busy pace of your own life that you find yourself skimming over the surface.

Notice how much you may be telling yourself things like; when I have more time I will spend more time with my wife or husband or children, all I want is a little peace of mind, I want to slow down and make time for me. Most people escape from the busy pace of life by going on holidays only to find that when they return, they jump straight back into the same old routine with nothing changing.

Ask yourself:

 “What is true Success to me coming from the inside out?”

State 3 ways of Being (according to your Values) that you are going to commit to from today.

What is your Definition of Real Success

Yes, the outside results will move towards you when you move towards it coming from a state of Being. This is what natural attraction is all about and I can tell you, it is so much easier to live your life coming from this angle instead of pushing, striving, worrying and trying to control things.

Practice letting go and being responsible for taking inspired action in the areas of what is truly important to you and listen to that part of yourself that is telling you to chill out and make time for you. Trust and listen to your intuitive gut feelings and most of all, act on them.


What True Success to Me is…?

  • Success to me is when I am fully present connecting with every person I come into contact with, being in a state of presence.
  • Success to me is when I am naturally expressing my wisdom, strengths, talents and unique gifts through my speaking, coaching, and writing.
  • Success to me is when I am honouring my inner knowing by listening, trusting and taking inspired action in each moment being in a state of grace, flow, and ease.

When I live life according to what true success is to me, life opens up in so many ways that I could never have planned for, even if I tried. The perfect opportunities present themselves, I meet the right people at the right time and I live more in my flow. This is certainly a much easier way to live life instead of trying to force and control everything. I call it ‘Living in the Zone.’

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Powerful Teamwork with Engaging Communication

Are you having challenges when it comes to creating a team who works well together? When it comes to developing a champion team, there are principles that are not often spoken about which are vital to the success of your team working together, instead of a group of individuals hoping it all comes together at the end of the day.

I remember as a World Masters champion sportswoman, when on the field if we did not communicate we would not know what action our team members were about to take. We needed to hear the communication loud and clear so we knew exactly what support our team members needed. We needed to know exactly what move to make, where we needed to be positioned on the field in order to win the game.

Without clear and assertive communication our whole team would play as individuals without support. Without backup, we would not be able to create momentum. The game became much harder and not enjoyable to play with a whole pile of individuals not playing well together as a team.

I remember certain team members who did not have confidence in asserting themselves because they did not believe in their own abilities. This was when the team knew they needed to communicate early enough before the next play. In other words, the team had to carry that player. This was most frustrating at times because on the field you do not have time to wait as the gap of opportunity would close up very quickly.

Getting to know everyone’s communication style was the key. This meant getting to know each team member and finding out what they needed in the way of support for their full performance and potential to be played out on the field.

This was when I gave extra one-on-one time with team members who needed development and support; otherwise, the whole team would suffer. Yes, this takes time, but you will be surprised how quickly your team will step-up and lead with the qualities of a champion leader when you make time to get to know what they need. This is because they feel heard and understood.

For success in your professional and personal life, the same rule applies.

Powerful Teamwork with Engaging Communication

As your team moves into their plays, they will come up against challenges and the unexpected. They need to know how to read the play early and communicate before the play occurs in order to adapt to these challenges. If the communication is not loud and clear, then you will lose the game.

A champion leader inspires others by having an inquisitive communication style by asking open questions to evoke a deeper understanding of whom that person truly is. They are curious and listen with all their senses about what they are saying and what they are not saying. They see everyone as being the master of their own life who has the answers to all their questions.

The power of engaging communication is when you become the observer.

I like to call this the ‘helicopter view’. This is when you are able to be a witness of your own and of others’ communication style, where you listen without judgment. You will then know exactly what to say in the moment that will inspire and lead your team with respect, clarity, and acknowledgment.

This reminds me of a story about a client named Jordon, who came to me for leadership coaching, wanting to improve his team’s communication and efficiency. The first thing I asked him was, “When was the last time you acknowledged your team members?” With a proud smile on his face, he said, “I took them out to lunch to celebrate winning our last contract.”

“Great incentive for celebrating a milestone,” I answered. Then I asked another question, “When was the last time you acknowledged your team members on an individual basis, unexpectedly?” He looked at me in a puzzled manner and replied, “What do you mean, unexpectedly?”

I explained every one of his team members has strengths, qualities and natural talents they are using on a daily basis. If he began to acknowledge his team members for their natural talents, instead of taking their strengths for granted, then each individual will start to feel more and more confident to the degree that even their so-called ‘weaknesses’ will become strengths. This will shift the energy, attitude, and mindset of all team members to work in harmony with efficient and effective results.

The challenge I gave Jordon was to genuinely acknowledge team members for one of their natural talents during the next week. He did this, and to his surprise, he noticed a dynamic shift in the efficiency of the team working together.

An added bonus was while he had always had an ‘open door’ policy; the team had never used it. After he started to acknowledge them, they felt much more confident and comfortable to communicate any challenges, or concerns, before they got out of hand. Much to Jordon’s surprise he even witnessed the team members starting to acknowledge each other more.

The other challenge I gave Jordon for that week, was to have him acknowledge his wife for something he really appreciated, on three separate occasions. You can imagine how he was feeling the following week when we had our next coaching session! Yes, by acknowledging his wife regularly, he had also improved his relationship with her. This effect also rippled out to their children.

Even when there is nothing wrong in a relationship, there is always room for improvement, which is not highlighted until you do something different, and outside the square.

I have used Jordon’s example with team leadership acknowledgment; however, the same applies to all situations when working with people.

This includes acknowledgment of family members, sporting clubs you may be involved with, working environments, business owners and staff, parents and children at school, etc.

If you are having challenges in developing a powerful team that works well together, do not waste another minute banging your head against a brick wall, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation about your communication and leadership style.  www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Entrepreneurial Qualities: Successful Business Leader

Entrepreneurs have some fabulous qualities, which at the same time can be very frustrating for them. This is because the natural quality of an entrepreneur is to have many exciting and new projects on the go at the one time, with not enough hours in the day to complete them all.

I remember observing myself in my previous business as I bounced all over the place with great ideas and projects, always feeling very frustrated about not accomplishing all of them. The truth be known, I was living with a false sense of productivity, taking loads of actions with the results not matching.

This continually left me feeling exhausted, yet because of my entrepreneurial spirit being so strong with a clear vision, I kept pushing forward running on adrenaline. Before I knew it, I would find myself in the same exhausted and frustrating position all over again.

Can you relate to this?

One of the other things I noticed was that I took loads of action, and now realise that I was in reactive mode for much of the time. Always focussed on achieving my vision and goals, with the laser focus being on the end result.

Certainly achieved a lot during that time, yet was I really achieving what I set out to? Was I living a fulfilling life with a purposeful business? Did I have connected relationships? Was I really having fun? Did I have a balance? I said I was, yet I knew I had disconnected with my only focus being on the bigger picture.

Now I am certainly a bigger picture kind of gal, yet when it came with a cost of my health suffering, my marriage breakdown and my business not working like it use to; I was forced to take a good look and make some immediate changes.

I then went on a mission to get to know the difference between the qualities of an entrepreneur and what it truly meant to become a successful business leader. The final result was, I decided to keep the entrepreneurial spirit alive, whilst practicing the new actions and beliefs as a successful business leader.

I certainly know what I prefer now after transforming my professional and personal life for the better.

Keep your entrepreneurial spirit alive

Are you an entrepreneur wanting to make the shift to succeed as a successful business leader?

If so, take a look at the assessment form below and develop ways you can start to transform your entrepreneurial qualities as a successful business leader with presence.

Entrepreneur

Creative with many ideas

Works on adrenaline

Continuously starts new projects

Reactive mode with frustration

Urgency in making money

Winning v’s Losing Emotions

Survival mode through problems

Revenue driven

Lots of shoulds

Attached to results

Successful Business Leader

Chooses to work with 3 major projects

Self-leadership with no adrenaline

Creates a break between projects

Sets high standards and strong boundaries

Enjoys making money with ease

Win/Win customer focus

Free-flowing problems

Profit driven

Integrity based on needs

Enjoys the journey and has fun

What shift are you ready to make?

Become an Influential Leader who Inspires Others

Let’s talk about leadership, and more importantly; what influential leadership is really all about.

I was speaking with a business leader last week at a networking function and when the discussion of leadership came up, this woman put her hand on her heart and said to me “true leadership is from the inside out”. She is absolutely right.

Are you being the ‘leader of your ship’ in your personal and professional life?

When I approach this subject inside a coaching conversation, the perception of what leadership is to each individual is varied and wide. Some of the most common responses are:  being a strong communicator to lead others effectively, clarity in making quick decisions, a clear direction in business, control and authority of team effectiveness.

Yes, absolutely these traits play a big part in being an influential leader, yet there are paramount qualities that most business leaders do not take the time to acquire.

Many leaders have been trained a certain way and have taken the role as a leader without becoming aware of their own evolving path. In other words, trying to work harder with new knowledge and new actions, expecting new results.

I continually witness leaders hitting the glass ceiling because they are taking new action that is not sustainable to the success of their vision and mission.

Now is the time for leaders to challenge the status quo and step into the revolutionary leadership style in order to bust through the glass ceiling for good.

What seems to be overlooked when it comes to becoming an influential leader is knowing who you are, what your inspiring vision is and taking right action in accordance with your powerful why.

Influential leadership is all about you knowing yourself well enough with a strong personal and professional foundation, so much so, that others are affected just by who you are ‘being’. Become mindful of your actions and the words you speak as they play a major part in being an inspiring, persuasive and innovative leader.

Have you ever met someone, and before you have spoken to them, you just know there is something about them that seems impressive and stands out from the crowd? This is called ‘presence’. Those leaders with great presence will be on the leading edge of this revolutionary leadership path.

In the busy, fast pace of business and life today, standing out from the crowded market in an authentic and connected manner is paramount. Leaders are evolving very quickly and if they are not consciously connected with who they are, why you do what you do, and what makes you unique; you will get left behind.

There are 7 top qualities that the most influential leaders throughout the world utilise, giving them the edge as an influential leader who naturally inspires others.

1 Direction

Influential leaders all have the developed trait of self-direction. They have created a game plan for their whole life. They have a clear vision and mission and have set goals based on their values and consistently work towards them until they are achieved. Identify what your self-direction is and create a plan on how to achieve it.

2 Management

Influential leaders ‘make’ it happen. Setting up systems in your personal and professional life supporting you in achieving your goals. Self-management gives you energy and determination in making things happen. Learn ways to manage yourself, especially when challenges arise.

3 Awareness

Influential leaders display a positive self-awareness. They know themselves very well – their strengths and weaknesses. They are more tuned into others around them and intuitively tune-on much quicker than others. Develop ways to become more aware and mindful in the hustle and bustle of everyday activities.

4 Discipline

Influential leaders practice self-discipline. You will never get to where you want to go if you do not have self-discipline. Identify what’s holding you back from being self-disciplined and how to break through the blockages of moving forward. Develop trust by doing what you say you are going to do.

5 Image

Influential leaders see themselves as winners – they act like winners. They have a powerful personal brand expressing their unique strengths, gifts and talents. They consciously evolve with insight being the full representation of their authentic brand in the face of both challenges and opportunities. Develop ways to create your leadership self-image.

6 Confidence

Influential leaders have developed a strong self-confidence – they weren’t necessarily born this way. With practice, they have learnt to develop high levels of self-worth. Positive self-talk is the key to positive self-confidence. Become conscious about what your self-talk is saying to you all day, every day, and how you can develop natural self-confidence.

7 Expectancy

Influential leaders have a positive self-expectancy enabling them to be better prepared for opportunities. Be aware of what results you expect because you will always attract what you expect. Develop ways to manage and prepare yourself through self-expectancy.

The Vital Link to Inspired Success

Have you gone from goal to goal, achieved success in many areas of your life; and wondering why you are still not happy? What’s missing for you?

Often this is because you are so focused on where you are going in life that you have not stopped to smell the roses along the way. It is important to be grateful for what you do have in your life today, the people who are important to you, the clients you already have, your current financial position, your family, the action steps you are taking, your health, the knowledge you have, all the life experiences you have had, and whatever else you can think of to be grateful for.

Yes, that means the everyday small things that bring you joy and energy in your life, including the small actions you are taking towards realising your vision.

In the past, my life always felt as though it was dangling like a carrot on a string out in front of me to chase; I was always going for the next goal, the next award, the next level and still not happy. Yes, I had heard people talk about ‘being grateful for what I had in my life now’ and ‘reflecting on what I had already achieved’. I always let these suggestions slide off me with an, ‘it’s not enough yet’, attitude.

What I was really saying was ‘I wasn’t enough yet’. This also meant that everything I had achieved in my life was not enough.  I took so much for granted. When I realised that, I decided to make a list of everything I had achieved in my life as far back as I could remember.

The list started really slowly as I reflected on my life. The more I started to write, the more I remembered, from little things like getting up early one morning to watch the sun come up, acknowledging a colleague, helping a family member; to the bigger things like being a national sporting representative, starting my own business, publishing my book and speaking overseas.

As I looked back at the list I had a powerful feeling of accomplishment within myself. This helped diminish the limiting beliefs I had of ‘it’s not enough yet’ and ‘I wasn’t enough’; when in actual fact I was ‘more than enough’ and had ‘more than enough’ in my life.

When you are in a state of ‘it’s not enough yet’, you will continually feel that way – and life will also show up that way.

Did you know that when you live your life with the ‘it’s not enough’ theme constantly being played, you are actually affirming to yourself that ‘you are not enough’?

I learnt this lesson myself when I first hired my master coach. I remember telling my coach that I had to learn more about certain topics before I could move forward in my business.

Sure, education is important, but I actually had a lot of knowledge, which I was not using. My coach gave me two challenges. The first challenge was to write the affirmation ‘I am enough’ and place it in my office so that I could see it every day. I resisted this at first because I truly believed I had to look for more answers outside of myself.

The second challenge was to trust and take the next step I knew I wanted to take, based on the knowledge I already had. You see I was always one of those people who loved to learn by reading books and attending seminars, but did I action what I had learnt? Not to its fullest capacity.

When I started trusting, I realised that I undervalued the amount of knowledge I did have and kept looking outside myself for more knowledge. It became a habit because I loved learning things, but what good was my knowledge if I did not put it into practice?

Due to this new way of thinking, I was able to identify my values-based vision and goals from the inside out – not just going for a vision outside of myself. Life and business transformed and evolved naturally because I stopped chasing after the elusive vision. The truth is, your vision will always naturally expand, although if you continue to live like it is something outside of yourself, then that is where it will stay. The chase will be forever with those feelings of ‘it’s not enough yet’.

Once I realised this, I had to consciously practice catching myself whenever I looked outside for more, to then come back inside to honour my values-based vision.

Are you living your values-based vision? Notice whether you are getting swept along with other people’s vision and values, as this is not sustainable to your inspired success.

Notice in what areas you may be looking outside yourself for more knowledge, information, wisdom, opportunities etc. that you already have. You are already enough in many areas of your life. You only need to bring it to your awareness and then acknowledge yourself and the actions you are already taking.

Coaching Tip

One of the practices that may support you (as it did me) is to write five things you are grateful for each day. So if you feel as though your wheels are spinning and life is moving fast, stop to smell the roses by taking on this daily practice. This can be done even in your thoughts just before you turn the light out at night.

When you are grateful for everything in your life, as it is today, you will feel an immediate expansion of your energy and start to attract more of the good things in life that you truly desire. Why not start a gratitude journal on a daily basis and notice how quickly your life will change?

Best Practice – Supportive Habits

Do you ever feel you don’t have any self-control, that your impulses are driving your behaviour? In other words, are you taking actions in a lot of areas in life, but not in the areas that you say are important to you? Remember that we are all made up of our habits. If you want to change your habits, it takes commitment and a conscious practice until the new behaviour becomes a new habit, which supports you. Did you know that it takes 30 consecutive days to change a habit?

For example, you may have set up a goal of wanting to spend more time with your family, but you keep allowing work to get in the way. In this situation, the natural habit is spending extra time doing work.  The first step in changing this habit is to design a new behaviour (action) that will allow you to spend more time with the family. For example, you might allocate Sundays to doing something special with the family, plus you could agree to turn off the phone so that you can fully enjoy the experience. Make sure you communicate this plan to your family so that they can help keep you accountable to your commitment.

I work with many people who want to also have a life outside of work, yet the recurring pattern I see and hear is that they never seem to get on top of things and before they know it, time goes by and they miss out on a lot of what’s important to them. The most common things I hear people say they want to spend more time on are; exercise to improve their health, fitness and increase energy levels, spend quality time with their wife/husband, time to listen and play with their children, quality time with family and time out for themselves.

Notice how easy it is to spend time doing the unimportant things first. You may be concerned about the paperwork that has built up and think that ‘if I just get on top of this one, then I will make time for me and my family’. What do you notice happens? Do you continually feel like you are never on top of things? If so, take a look at the three simple steps on how you can change habits that do not support you in the next section.

The 3 Steps to Changing Habits

Step 1 – Awareness

The first step to change is becoming aware of your habits and what your triggers are. Most of the time we are so busy ‘doing’ life that we do not take time out to become aware of who is it we are, what is it we are doing, how we are doing it and why we are doing it. You will never become aware if you keep on doing whatever you are doing, without becoming consciously aware of your actions. Awareness is the first major step towards change. Once you register your awareness, then you can go to step 2 to accept and release your habits.

Step 2 – Accept and Release

When you become aware of your habits and triggers, it is only then that you can accept and release the habits that do not support you in your life. You accept and release a habit purely by stating that this habit does not support you in your life and you choose to now let it go. It is easy to be attached to a habit because this is the only way you consciously know how to manage your life. The good news is that you taught yourself through habit in the first place and you can choose a new habit at any time. It is normal to feel as though you are stepping into the unknown because that is exactly what takes place in the releasing of habits. This takes us into step 3 of re-creating a new habit to replace the old habit.

Step 3 – Re-Create

This is the fun part, of re-creating your habit. It is important to remember that when changing a habit you must replace it with a new, consciously supportive habit. Consciously choose the new habit you would like to start practising in place of your old habit.

Let’s say your old habit is ‘not listening to people fully’ and you are always ready to speak over them, even before they have finished saying what they wanted to say.

You then may decide for your new habit, that every time someone speaks to you, you will stay totally present, listening to what they have to say – and that you will only answer them after they have stopped speaking. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Try it yourself and notice what happens. The next time you are speaking to someone, you will probably jump right into the conversation and repeat your old habit. You then might walk away, noticing that you did it again and didn’t fully listen. The second time you notice, you want to jump in and you catch yourself. Great, this is the power of becoming consciously present to your actions and reactions. The third time you will become fully conscious and choose your new habit at the beginning of the conversation.

To speed up the process of re-creating yourself, take on the practice of visualising yourself living the new habit in its perfect form now. See yourself being the person you want to be and see yourself having the results you want.

Best Practice – Supportive Habits

Coaching Tip

Become aware of your habits and choose new habits that support your energy and focus each day. The list below may give you some ideas on where to start looking.

  • Communication challenges
  • Career you do not like
  • Not clear on your direction
  • Health problems
  • Money challenges
  • Never enough time to do the things you want to do
  • Always feeling under pressure
  • Not always being honest
  • Lack of energy
  • Family problems
  • Lack of confidence
  • Lack of commitment
  • Being overweight
  • Being argumentative
  • Always worrying about something
  • Giving too much to other people
  • Sense that you have to get ahead
  • Plan to get fit but never do
  • Always wanting to be in control
  • Feelings of being lonely
  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Feelings of not being worthy
  • Weak and submissive behaviour
  • Aggressive and dominating behaviour
  • Not allowing other people to support you
  • Not being organised
  • Not doing what you say I’m going to do
  • Others…
Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

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