Best Practice – Supportive Habits

Do you ever feel you don’t have any self-control, that your impulses are driving your behaviour? In other words, are you taking actions in a lot of areas in life, but not in the areas that you say are important to you? Remember that we are all made up of our habits. If you want to change your habits, it takes commitment and a conscious practice until the new behaviour becomes a new habit, which supports you. Did you know that it takes 30 consecutive days to change a habit?

For example, you may have set up a goal of wanting to spend more time with your family, but you keep allowing work to get in the way. In this situation, the natural habit is spending extra time doing work.  The first step in changing this habit is to design a new behaviour (action) that will allow you to spend more time with the family. For example, you might allocate Sundays to doing something special with the family, plus you could agree to turn off the phone so that you can fully enjoy the experience. Make sure you communicate this plan to your family so that they can help keep you accountable to your commitment.

I work with many people who want to also have a life outside of work, yet the recurring pattern I see and hear is that they never seem to get on top of things and before they know it, time goes by and they miss out on a lot of what’s important to them. The most common things I hear people say they want to spend more time on are; exercise to improve their health, fitness and increase energy levels, spend quality time with their wife/husband, time to listen and play with their children, quality time with family and time out for themselves.

Notice how easy it is to spend time doing the unimportant things first. You may be concerned about the paperwork that has built up and think that ‘if I just get on top of this one, then I will make time for me and my family’. What do you notice happens? Do you continually feel like you are never on top of things? If so, take a look at the three simple steps on how you can change habits that do not support you in the next section.

The 3 Steps to Changing Habits

Step 1 – Awareness

The first step to change is becoming aware of your habits and what your triggers are. Most of the time we are so busy ‘doing’ life that we do not take time out to become aware of who is it we are, what is it we are doing, how we are doing it and why we are doing it. You will never become aware if you keep on doing whatever you are doing, without becoming consciously aware of your actions. Awareness is the first major step towards change. Once you register your awareness, then you can go to step 2 to accept and release your habits.

Step 2 – Accept and Release

When you become aware of your habits and triggers, it is only then that you can accept and release the habits that do not support you in your life. You accept and release a habit purely by stating that this habit does not support you in your life and you choose to now let it go. It is easy to be attached to a habit because this is the only way you consciously know how to manage your life. The good news is that you taught yourself through habit in the first place and you can choose a new habit at any time. It is normal to feel as though you are stepping into the unknown because that is exactly what takes place in the releasing of habits. This takes us into step 3 of re-creating a new habit to replace the old habit.

Step 3 – Re-Create

This is the fun part, of re-creating your habit. It is important to remember that when changing a habit you must replace it with a new, consciously supportive habit. Consciously choose the new habit you would like to start practising in place of your old habit.

Let’s say your old habit is ‘not listening to people fully’ and you are always ready to speak over them, even before they have finished saying what they wanted to say.

You then may decide for your new habit, that every time someone speaks to you, you will stay totally present, listening to what they have to say – and that you will only answer them after they have stopped speaking. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Try it yourself and notice what happens. The next time you are speaking to someone, you will probably jump right into the conversation and repeat your old habit. You then might walk away, noticing that you did it again and didn’t fully listen. The second time you notice, you want to jump in and you catch yourself. Great, this is the power of becoming consciously present to your actions and reactions. The third time you will become fully conscious and choose your new habit at the beginning of the conversation.

To speed up the process of re-creating yourself, take on the practice of visualising yourself living the new habit in its perfect form now. See yourself being the person you want to be and see yourself having the results you want.

Best Practice – Supportive Habits

Coaching Tip

Become aware of your habits and choose new habits that support your energy and focus each day. The list below may give you some ideas on where to start looking.

  • Communication challenges
  • Career you do not like
  • Not clear on your direction
  • Health problems
  • Money challenges
  • Never enough time to do the things you want to do
  • Always feeling under pressure
  • Not always being honest
  • Lack of energy
  • Family problems
  • Lack of confidence
  • Lack of commitment
  • Being overweight
  • Being argumentative
  • Always worrying about something
  • Giving too much to other people
  • Sense that you have to get ahead
  • Plan to get fit but never do
  • Always wanting to be in control
  • Feelings of being lonely
  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Feelings of not being worthy
  • Weak and submissive behaviour
  • Aggressive and dominating behaviour
  • Not allowing other people to support you
  • Not being organised
  • Not doing what you say I’m going to do
  • Others…
Strengthen your Strengths

“Your natural strengths are the gift you have to offer the world.”

Most people do not acknowledge their own strengths, abilities and natural talents. Your strengths are the qualities or skills that you are generally good at, are drawn to and enjoy doing. When you clearly identify and acknowledge your own strengths, you will re-ignite a glow inside of you that will automatically strengthen your strengths.

You will miss out on a lot of life’s exciting opportunities that you know you would love to experience if you do not bring your strengths to the forefront. For example, you could miss out on applying for a new management position, asking someone you admire out for dinner or starting your own business. Your strengths will become weaknesses and lie dormant if you are not conscious of what they are – and especially if you do not utilise them in your life.

This reminds me of one of my clients, Sally, who was naturally very creative. She would paint, draw and design cards in her spare time. I said to her in one of our group coaching sessions that it was easy to see that her natural strength was being creative. Sally said that she could not see how that could be a strength because that was what she had always done in her spare time.

“How could it be strength when that was just how she was?”

I then asked her if she knew anyone else in her group of friends who did the same things in their spare time, to which she answered No. I explained that it is easy to not see our own strengths because they have become a part of who we naturally are. When Sally started to own her strength of creativity she started to share her artwork with others and even began to frame some of her work to hang in her new home.

Many people are busy putting themselves down and focusing on what they are not good at instead of focusing on what they are good at doing. When you focus on your strengths and utilise them to their fullest capacity you will be surprised at what you can do.

Let’s not forget your so-called ‘weaknesses’, as it’s important to be aware of these and to acknowledge them also. I do not consider weaknesses as a weakness. The thing about a weakness that most people do not realise is that it is only a part of you that you have not practised enough for it to become strength.

Notice how your strengths are strengths because you enjoy utilising them and they then come easily to you. Your weaknesses may be areas that you do not enjoy as much, so don’t be too hard on yourself if you choose not to have them become a strength. If a particular weakness is something that you would like to become strength, all you need to do is to learn and practice it until it becomes a part of your strengths.

Look for Strengths in your Whole Life

I was coaching Julie, who shared with me that when she was writing out her strengths, she noticed that they mainly related to her working career and experiences. This challenged Julie because while work was a major part of her life, she wanted to balance this more and look at strengths in other areas of her life.

So we explored this by looking at the balance wheel. Julie went to the gym regularly, so one of her strengths was looking after her well-being and fitness. Another obvious strength to me was that Julie was very well organised in having a routine that she was committed to maintaining. Another area we looked into was family and friends and the way Julie kept in contact with them on a regular basis even if they lived in another state or country. The strength, in this case, was staying connected with loved ones by keeping in touch over the phone, no matter where she lived in the world.

As Julie started to explore her strengths, I observed a glow in her eyes and a huge, engaging smile on her face. I acknowledged her for having a great smile. This was also a strength Julie had – and she was not even aware of it.

So you see your strengths are not just about your qualifications and work experiences. In fact, you need to have a look at all areas of your life. You may be a great father/mother, or easily connect with people, you may be a person who excels at routine and being organised, or you could be a great ideas person. Dare to expand yourself in becoming aware of your own strengths. Take a look at the list below giving some examples of strengths.

List of Strengths

  • Well organised person
  • Great smile
  • Committed person
  • Connect with people easily
  • Great communication skills
  • Open and honest
  • High standards
  • Great father/mother
  • Healthy and fit
  • Enthusiastic
  • Honest work ethics
  • Positive nature
  • High energised person
  • Loving wife/husband
  • Great systems in life/business/career
  • Put people before results
  • Very creative
  • Love life
  • Acknowledge self and others
  • Visionary
  • Balanced life
  • Genuine interest in others
  • Team player
  • Leader
  • Great manager

Coaching Tip

You have natural strengths, talents and abilities that you use every day. When you own who you are and what you do well, this will give you greater clarity of vision and confidence because you will know exactly why you do what you do.

Make a list of your top 10 strengths. Be really generous with yourself and write whatever comes to mind. Be mindful about where in our life you are expressing your strengths.

I encourage you to give yourself a boost of certainty and confidence by taking on the challenge of making a list of your top 30 strengths and let me know how you go.

By strengthening your strengths with conscious awareness and mindful action, you will gain clarity with natural confidence knowing Who you truly are and Why you do what you do.

There is no competition when you know Who you really are, What unique strengths you have developed and in What way you naturally express your strengths. This way of living will ultimately give you your purposeful Why each day.

Close the Gap to Living your Vision

Closing the gap between where you are now in life and where you want to be can be challenging. I remember feeling frustrated at times about the size of the gap and wanting changes to happen ‘yesterday’! We tend to forget about the importance of developing a foundation for our new and expansive vision to build on. I often had the feeling of either spinning my wheels and going nowhere fast or feeling I was on a roller coaster, one minute up and the next minute down.

I knew logically how important it was for a building to be secure, with a strong foundation below the surface, so the building can withstand the forces of nature. Yet, even though I knew this, I had never experienced what having a solid foundation felt or looked like until I started taking the consistent steps I needed to take. I just kept moving onto the next project, the next vision, the next goal etc.

Then I hit rock bottom…everything changed all of a sudden…

Going through an emotional divorce, my health suffered and my business flat-lined.  Facing the challenge of starting all over again, I began to do the things that were important to me first and giving myself plenty of space for clarity to explore ‘where to from here’. This was different from my usual pattern, to push on regardless – I knew how to do that so well!

Hitting rock bottom or going through a challenging time can be really tough. The last thing you want is to be in this position. I certainly didn’t! But I knew that the old way of doing things was not working for me at this stage in my personal and professional life.

I decided to tune into my heart and not let logic and rationale run my life. This was so foreign and pretty scary at the time, but I persisted and allowed myself to feel this different way of being. In a short period of time, I transformed my personal and professional life for the better, which I would never have achieved if I kept doing it the same old way.

As time went by and I consistently took actions that made my heart sing, I noticed how I started to get out of my head and listen to the guidance of my heart. Yes, I began to become my own best friend and to feel rock solid about which I was and what I wanted in my life, in a way I never had before.

The most miraculous experience for me was the realisation that while I had a strong foundation in my sporting life, I had never truly had a foundation in my personal or professional life. I was so excited because I finally felt I had something to build on, something which would never leave me because I was standing on solid ground.

Wow! What a fantastic experience this now is in my life, as I can manage challenges that come my way with much more flow and ease. No more roller coasters in my life – I know what I prefer! This applies to all areas of life. Develop a foundation, and you will experience a calm inner strength to face the daily challenges because you have something solid to stand on that will not waiver.

Build strong foundations

Building Strong Foundations

I remember when I started my first business as a personal trainer and coach in 1994, how excited I was because I had a vision of helping people bring out their best physically, emotionally and spiritually. I ran my business on sheer passion, based on this compelling vision. As the years went by, the excitement of my passion and vision started to dim – and I felt exhausted.

The turning point for me was when I became aware that while I was very good at helping people with their own personal health, fitness and ways to balance their life, the last thing I focussed on was doing it for myself.

There were two missing links for me. Firstly, I did not do the key things needed for my health, fitness and balance. Secondly, I did not have my business systems set strongly in place as my foundation for the business. Remember the story of the plumber who is very good at fixing everyone else’s leaky taps, but never makes time to fix his own leaky taps at home? Sound familiar to you? It is important to have a foundation in every area of your life for you to have a fulfilling and sustainable life. If you have a leaky tap in one area, it will affect the other areas.

I started to write down where I was spending my time and those areas I wanted to make time for. As I became more aware of where I wasted time and the areas I truly felt inspired, this was how the 5 pillars to life success came about for me to which I live by each day. I needed a simple formula that would support me in expressing my whole self.

The 5 Pillars to Life Success

  • Personal
  • Career/Business
  • Wellness
  • Self-Leadership
  • Financial

Take a look at the 5 pillars in your life and see how your foundation is set up. Are you standing on solid ground or are there areas you would like to focus on building up?

Start building your strong foundations and make sure you close the gap from where you are today to living your vision with clarity. I have created a Free-Flow Zone Assessment that will support you in cleaning up your life and build strong foundations.

Click on the resource link and scroll down to the Free-Flow Zone Assessment and give yourself a score out of 100. Let me know how you go.

Resources

Maximise Productivity with Your Success Cycle

Are you living in the ‘full on’ or ‘not at all’ cycle?

How often do you find yourself wasting heaps of your precious time, procrastinating over something you know will propel you forward?

Are you waiting for the extra time to appear, before you start to take action in a big way?

Yes, you may have heard it all before as to the best ways to stop procrastination in order to increase productivity. With the simplest way being to decide what you want to do and take action.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it! Yet, you may be asking yourself why don’t I ‘just do it’ – like the Nike slogan says?

Good question!

If it is as easy as it sounds, then we would all be doing it well, wouldn’t we!

I want to tell you that you are not alone with this very subject often being brought up for discussion inside my coaching conversations behind closed doors.

The real challenge is not fully in the decision-making or the action taking, it is mostly in the timing to maximise effort for greater effectiveness.

To take yourself to the next level of success with sustainable energy and strong foundations, it is important to know what Your Success Cycle is.

Let’s take away the ‘full on’ or ‘not at all’ syndrome from your life. We all have cycles in life. The problems is that we always tend to make ourselves wrong whenever we are not in a certain cycle like being ‘full on’ about something. What I learnt when I played sport at a national level was that I had to listen to my body energy cycle when training for an event. The cycle was low, moderate and high depending on pre-season, mid-season or post-season. This is a great analogy that we all can take on for sustainability in our own life and business choices.

Have you noticed at times there is something that needs to be done and you really do not feel like doing it, that when you get started slowly into it – how all of a sudden you find yourself really into it and actually enjoying what you are doing? This is because you are in the moment (out of your head) staying focussed on what you are doing.

You will not enjoy doing things when you are thinking about everything else that has to be done as this causes pressure and overwhelm on yourself. This is also one of the main reasons why we do not start something we know needs to be done or we really want to do because we are too busy complaining inside about everything else instead of focussing on one thing at a time.

Whenever you move your body you are shifting your own energy levels and also your own way of thinking in the moment. Using the analogy of sport and any form of exercise – generally, there is a warm-up phase that is required which not only prepares your body for exercise, it also prepares your mind. This happens through movement.

When I was a personal trainer, I would always ask my client this one crucial question “On a scale of 1-10 how does your body feel in energy levels right now?” They would normally answer something like…”Well I have had a hard day at work and I am feeling about a 5 out of 10″… my response was always – “Great! Let’s work a 5 out of 10 in your warm up – choose which cardio equipment you want to work on?” This is a very different approach to the old school way of pushing and driving yourself, which is what I use to do in my earlier training days and this would totally exhaust me by the end of the season.

So looking back, and changing my way of doing things, as I got older and wiser, I always found this was more of a sustainable approach. It certainly took away the mindset with people thinking that doing exercise meant hard work. It is only hard work when you push yourself into it from the start having a high expectation on how you should be (yes should be) doing things instead of listening to what your body is telling you first in order to allow your mindset to catch up and enjoy the process.

My client would always be concerned when I would say to them to work a 5 out of 10 because they would respond by saying that they are paying me to push them. Hmm! Interesting isn’t it – because they have been pushing themselves in their own minds and physically for years and where did it get them.

You need the mind to be working in unison with your body; otherwise, you will not get the desired results with ease. You will forever feel like you are pushing and putting out the heaps of energy with little result to show for it.

As soon as the client started working a 5 out of 10 on their selected cardio equipment, after 5 minutes I would ask them. “Now how do you feel out of 10?” “About a 7 out of 10” they would answer. “Great, keep going and let me know when you feel like an 8 out of 10.” As soon as they responded with an 8 out of 10, this was the time I knew their body and their mind was totally present and working in unison ready for maximum performance in their zone.

Maximise Productivity with Your Success Cycle

I’ll never forget the day when I had an insightful moment recognising that this same cycle also applies to all areas of life. I began practising consciously connecting all aspects of this mind and body connection into my professional and personal life.

Everything changed for the better. I noticed how I instantly became much more present when I was at home with my husband connecting with him after work instead of staying inside my busy head thinking of everything else that had to be done. I noticed myself connecting more to my gut feelings when making business decisions instead of listening to my head saying ‘you really should do this or that’. I noticed more of a flow inside my appointments set up for the day without the stress of racing from one appointment to another.

Life became an instant balance for me with peace of mind knowing that I had plenty of time to do the important things in my life.

This is what is known as body-mind-soul connection. Are you connected wit your body-mind-soul or are you pushing through your day feeling exhausted with no time to scratch yourself?

Consciousness is the key to real success in your professional and personal life. With conscious awareness, you will know the exact timing of what action is required to maximise your efforts. By practising this each day, you will gain greater insight into Your Success Cycle knowing this is what works best for you.

High achievers are often in a rush to get the results without setting up strong foundations.

I cannot tell you how often I hear clients say to me, “I just want to get back to basics.”

Never underestimate the basics. Strong foundations are made up of the basics.

It is always the basic everyday steps, which creates extraordinary results with momentum.

Persist and be patient with yourself. Keep on doing the important things being committed to Your Success Cycle with body-mind-soul connection.

5 Tips to Creating Strong Foundations:

1. Set up your Day to Win the Night Before

Diarise your priority actions inside realistic time frames. Make sure you have plenty of white spaces for yourself to expand on any new opportunities coming in.

2. Observe Yourself and Your Feelings (Ask this 1 Vital Question)

When you look at your next day’s schedule (the night before) – Ask yourself…

“Do I feel free, excited and accomplished when looking at my day set up for tomorrow?”

Yes it is possible to set your day up like this…I know because I will not step into my day without feeling this way first.

If you do not feel free, excited and accomplished about the day you are setting up, then I strongly suggest you cancel, change, re-arrange, add…whatever you need to do to adjust this. Stay inside Your Success Cycle.

3. Make Time for Yourself every day

One of the main reasons people feel overwhelmed about their day is because they do not make time to do the important things for themselves. Make this a PRIORITY.

4. Visualise your Ideal Day

When putting your head on the pillow at night, as you close your eyes, visualise your ideal day seeing yourself flowing through your day attracting ideal clients, inspiring your team, communicating with confidence, plenty of time for exercise, spending time with your family etc. Then gently nod off to sleep.

5. Notice your First Thoughts in the Morning

Are your first thoughts in the morning positive or negative? Notice whatever they are as this will be the theme for the day unless you take control of your thoughts and change them. Begin to be grateful from your heart for everything you have today in your life. Begin your day with the most powerful words in the universe “Thank You” and keep saying Thank You until you notice your energy shift into a natural flow of enthusiasm and excitement about your day.

Powerful Success Lies in Savouring the Moment

Enjoy this analogy…

Just imagine the next time you sit down to enjoy a good cup of tea or coffee and really savouring the moment. You must be completely in the present to enjoy your cup of tea or coffee. Only when you are in the present moment can your hands feel the pleasant warmth of the cup. Only in the awareness, can you savour the aroma, taste the fullness of the flavour and really appreciate the delicacy.

If you are thinking about the past or worrying about the future, you will completely miss the experience in the moment of enjoying your cup of tea or coffee. In an instant, you will look down at your cup of tea or coffee and it will be gone.

Life is very much like that.

If you are not fully present in the moment, you will look around and wonder where it has gone. You will have missed the special feelings, wondrous moments, and the beauty of life. It will feel like life is passing you by.

The past is ‘in the past’ and finished. Learn from the experiences of the past and gracefully let it go. The future has not happened yet. Yes, it is important to plan for it, but do not waste your time in the present worrying about it. Worrying is energy zapping and worthless.

When you stop living your life protecting yourself from what has already happened in the past, when you stop worrying about what might never happen in the future, then you will be living in the present moment.  That is when you will begin to experience joy and contentment in your life.

Have you ever experienced driving to a destination and realised you arrived without awareness of the journey! Notice how often you may be pre-occupied thinking about other matters (past or future) and not concentrating on what you are doing in the present moment.

Can you imagine if you had a bank that credits your account every morning with $86,400? What a bonus that would be! Your account carries over no balance every day. Every evening the bank deletes whatever part you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course!

Every one of us has such a bank account. Its name is TIME. Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance and it allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is no drawing against tomorrow. You must live in the present on today’s deposits. Invest it wisely and get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success! The clock is running.

Make the most of today. Make the most of NOW.

“We are what we think.

All that we are

Arises with our thoughts

With our thoughts

We make the world.”

(Buddha)

Observe yourself this week and create an appropriate ‘trigger’ which will press you to pay attention to the present…this might be a ring, an ornament, deep breathing, looking up, set the alarm on your phone?

Create an Appreciation List. Each day, list in your journal those things you are grateful for having in your life. Focus on the pleasures and delights of your daily activities and the people who are with you.

Enjoy life to the fullest living in the present.

How Iain’s 3am Wake Up Call gained Clarity of a New Business Model

Coaching Behind Closed Doors – Success Journey

Iain enjoyed his work but knew he wanted to take it to the next level of success. After having a tree change he really wanted to contribute and do more with the community in the South West of Western Australia business region.

Looking for ways to move his business forward, Iain felt something was missing and in playing the game in his head – he had a very focused product and message.

He recognised he was stuck within his expertise and knowledge, which certainly served him in the corporate industry, yet the market demand had changed. He quickly realised that he needed to change his business model.

As an expert with many degrees, Iain has an abundance of knowledge, experiences, wisdom and life lessons, and wanted to make sure that he did not put himself in a box. He wanted to have the freedom to package his products and services with flexibility and uniqueness, whilst developing his new business model.

Inside our coaching conversations, we explored Iain’s lifeline and could see clearly what made his services unique and why.

He started listening to what others were telling him they needed. He noticed there was a common thread, which linked to his expertise and matched his values of contributing to the southwest business community.

He was then able to package his knowledge and uniqueness making it available to meet the demand.

Iain often woke up at 3am, tossing and turning trying to get back to sleep. Yet on this particular evening, his 3am wake up call was very different giving him clarity on his purposeful vision and mission.

Watch the video interview with Iain Massey, CEO, Upland Consulting as he shares about his 3am wake up call and his journey from business uncertainty to clear and decisive business purpose and making a difference.

 

 

Iain’s 3am Wake-Up Call

Iain had a clear sense that he had come to the end of the line and had to start something new and/or do business differently.  This 3am wake up call was different to others he had in the past because he felt a strong force to get up and take action immediately listening to and trusting his gut. He was able to capture clearly after doing further research online which confirmed his hunch and what the business community were telling him they needed.

As Iain’s coach, I challenged him to think very deeply about who he was, what he has to offer, what he believed in and what he wanted to do in business. This is what supported Iain’s 3am wake up call to be so insightful and for him to get up and take immediate action.

This was the turning point as he then repositioned his business model, which is how he positioned all his strengths, knowledge and experiences as the Business Growth Specialist.

Iain gained clarity in defining his uniqueness from the ‘insight out’ making sure he was not put in a box as he had so much knowledge, wisdom, experiences and strengths to offer the business world.

Today, Iain is known as the Business Growth Specialist throughout the business community in Perth and in the south west region who offers regular speaking presentations, facilitation of mastermind groups called ‘Peer Magic’, one on one consulting. Helping businesses from the micro to those who have, or need, boards of directors. He is passionate about helping business owners achieve their dreams. Also known as the Board Bloke for his work with boards and advisory boards. He offers programs for small businesses, family businesses and not-for-profits.

What makes Annette’s coaching style unique and why Iain decided to hire me as his coach?

  1. Right from our initial conversation, trust and rapport was built with no awkwardness.
  2. He identified that he wanted to be working with someone who knew the gender issues because his working world was too masculine in the past.
  3. He knew from the start he wanted my strong intuitiveness because he knew he had gone as far as he could with rationality.
  4. Due to my strong intuitiveness, I cottoned on to things quickly – spoken or unspoken!
  5. He knew he wanted someone who had processes, training and skills for that rapid journey.

This is why Iain signed up for the premium weekly coaching package because he wanted change fast and that meant he had to depend on me to come along the journey quickly as well. He received exactly what he signed up for and much more. 

What tips would you give to someone who wants next level success?

You can’t do it yourself. To shift the mindset that you need to be able to do it on your own. Don’t fall into that assumption.

Hiring a coach, it’s a very ‘high trust’ relationship – make sure it is someone that you can freely open up with. To be able to discuss your hopes, fears, inhibitions and blockages, have made the difference because I could open up freely with me.

Of the things that were worrying me and the things I wanted to change 8 or 9 months ago, virtually none of those are bugging me now. I still have issues in my business, but so much has shifted and so much stuff has got out of my own way, especially in my mindset; I’m facing different and much more fun issues in my business nowadays.

Iain has been able to identify what makes him unique and to define his purpose – he is now having more fun living his legacy knowing that he is ‘making a difference’.

If you are ready to take yourself and your career/business path to the next level of success, then please give me a call to discuss your requirements on 0413 949 554 or (08) 9437 4820 or visit www.annettestanton.com.

Looking through the Magnifying Glass

One of the most common things I hear from people I coach in the first three months of their coaching journey is that they are seeing more and more areas in their professional and personal life that they feel they need to clear up – areas they were not even aware of!

This is quite normal when looking at change and wanting to transform those areas that may not be working for you. I call it ‘looking through the magnifying glass’. All of a sudden, you feel as if everything is right in your face and needs to be dealt with as soon as possible for you to move forward.

For example, you may want to spend more time with your family and doing other things important to you, yet your time is locked into your business life.

As you begin to take a closer look into what is not working in your personal and business life, you might realise you have challenges in areas like staff not taking on the roles and responsibilities you hired them for in the first place, identifying all the areas where you are crossing your own boundaries, high expectations of self and others, doing everything yourself and not asking for support, etc. No wonder your time is locked up in your professional life, giving you no space and time for flexibility and freedom.

‘The key to persistence is to focus on your vision, tune into your values and stay on your path at all times. Do not get swayed by other people’s vision and values.’

This is when it is easy for frustration; resignation and a sense of being overwhelmed can overtake your commitment. The key is to always remember that whatever you are looking at in your life is being looked at through a magnifying glass, giving the illusion that it is bigger than it really is. This occurs because when you start to focus and take action on things in your life that you would like to achieve, there will always be areas that you were not previously aware of, that also need to be managed to take you to the next step of achievement.

Coaching Tip – Gaining Clarity and Direction

Whenever I go into those feelings of frustration and being overwhelmed, one of the things that help to clarify my thoughts and focus is to get a blank sheet of paper and write down everything that is filling my head.

Try this – get it all out of your head and break it down into bite-size action pieces. This will take away the magnified illusion and will also free you from the magnified feelings.

‘Overwhelm’ and ‘frustration’ are the most common words I hear at the start of a coaching session, but after breaking down the challenges by writing them down, they quickly turn into ‘clarity’ and ‘direction’.

Staying focussed on your vision, mission and values is paramount when it comes to sustainable success as a champion leader.

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Annette Stanton

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