Creating your Purposeful Vision

From the inspirational words of Nelson Mandela –

“Action without vision is only passing time, vision without action is merely day dreaming, but vision with action can change the world.”

What is your vision for all areas of your life? Do you have a vision?

A vision embraces the ‘who’ of you. This means the areas that are most important to you in your whole life. Not just on a material level, or on a financial level; it covers you as a ‘whole’ person. It may mean you have to dare to recapture dreams, ignite new ones and have the courage to believe in yourself. Most of all you have to trust that you can achieve whatever you desire in life.

Your vision is made up of how you want to live your life today and your desired future. Most people set it up like it is a future thing alone. If you do this, life will pass you by. Identify what’s important to you today and value those things e.g. relationships, business, family, colleagues, children, health, finances, personal development etc. Whatever they are for you, live them fully today because your life IS today and when tomorrow comes – it will still be today!

Having your own vision gives you more purpose and meaning to life. A vision will support you in times of doubt, especially when you face challenges and you start to question the who, what, and how you want to live your life, based on what’s most important to you.

Having a vision will help you to maintain your focus and achieve your personal and professional ambitions. Your vision must be in alignment with your core values.

When you create a vision in alignment with your values, 

the best strategy to close the gap will always appear.

Create your Purposeful Vision

  1. What you want for yourself in life, physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.

Examples of what you may want for yourself in life are: living a healthy and fit lifestyle, having a successful and profitable business giving a professional and ethical service to people worldwide, practising personal and professional development, being committed to your own growth, spending quality time with your family and connecting with them daily, expressing love to your family and friends.

  1. What you want for others in life, physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.

Examples of what you may want for others in life are: making a difference in the lives of others by way of listening and being present when in their company, for others to live a wealthy and happy lifestyle, to live a life they love with work being their passion.

  1. What you want to be known for by others, family and the world – leaving a legacy.

Examples of what you may want to be known for in life are: writing a book on what you are passionate about, being a part of a community you believe in and giving of your time, bringing up your children with values that empower them for life.

Enjoy creating your purposeful vision. A vision that is inspirational, knowing it is in alignment with your core values. A vision that is transforming your life, and the lives of others you are connecting with.

If you are ready to transform your life and live your inspirational vision, contact me to book in for a 30 minute introductory to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Next Level Success: Are you Blocking Yourself from Moving Forward?

Are you stopping yourself from doing something that you have always wanted to do?

Something that will take you right out of your comfort zone; such as writing a book, starting your own business, next level leadership promotion, stepping up on stage to share your inspiring message, confidence presenting in front of your colleagues and peers etc.

Too concerned about what other people may think of you, not starting because you are scared of not getting it right, or even telling yourself that you don’t know where to start or even that you don’t have enough know how!

I can tell you that you are not alone when it comes to this very subject, as this is one of the most brought up conversations with my clients. Most of all, I can relate to all of the above examples I have given because it was my personal journey to which I continued to take the next step feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

Remember:     Progress – Not Perfection

Perfectionism is a self-sabotage technique

I continue to step into the unknown each day, which is not easy. In fact, it can be very exciting and scary all at the same time. There are days when you feel like you are wondering why you are putting yourself out on this ledge. There are days when I hear my inner mentor and wisdom whispering ‘just keep trusting your path’.

I use to think that other people who are stepping out and taking risks have it all together knowing what they are doing, have natural confidence each day, jump out of bed knowing exactly the right steps to take.  I quickly learnt that we all have our own inner critic with some being louder than others. They feel the fear and do it anyway!

The key is to become your own best friend as quickly as you can so that your inner critic is not knocking you down each time you stretch yourself.

Next Level Success:  Are you Blocking Yourself from Moving Forward?

Until you become masterful at accepting, surrendering and allowing life to unfold tuning into your innate wisdom, then you may feel like you are putting yourself way out on a ledge that is totally foreign. If you follow someone else’s path, then you will become a version of their vision and be following their values in life, not trusting your own.

It takes courage to stay connected from within your mind, your body, your heart and soul. Taking right action tuning into your inner mentor – your wisdom.

Staying out of your busy head telling you that you should do this or you should do that. Your head will be the one telling you that you do not know where to start looking for the right steps to take. There are no right steps to take, only your right next step tuning into your inner mentor’s voice that knows your inspirational vision.

I personally created a mantra that goes like this…

“Every little step I take is a contribution towards
fulfilling my inspirational vision.”

This was a reminder for me to stop scaring myself out of doing what I knew I really wanted to do. To listen to the next step and take action on this with trust, even if I did not know where it was going to take me. I practised letting go of the result and what I expected it to look like.

Very different for me, but I can tell you that I am so much more at peace from inside as I take my right action on the outside. Life and business is working for me in a way that I could never have planned for.

Natural Creativity and Innovation

Let’s create plenty of white space in between your day-to-day priorities for your natural creativity and innovation to be heard and comprehended in a way that you can express externally. If you keep yourself busy with back-to-back actions with no time for the unexpected, you just may miss the real opportunity, the new door that is right in front of you.

I can relate to this one with many an opportunity passing by because I was so fixated on how my life and business was meant to look in order to create happiness, success and wealth etc. Life has opened up in so many ways with doors opening that I could never have planned for even if I tried.

Enjoy taking your next step knowing that this little step is a major contribution towards fulfilling your bigger picture. Consciously acknowledge every step you take because you just never know where it will lead you.

If you are wanting to close the gap from where you are now to achieve next level success, contact me to book in for a 20 minute introductory to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring and Consulting – What’s the Difference?

I often get asked about the difference between coaching, counselling, mentoring and consulting.  While the communication skills used by these professions are similar – such as asking questions, active listening, summarising, etc., they are very different methods, and it depends on what the client needs.

Here are some distinctions:

Coaching
According to the International Coach Federation, coaching is defined as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential.” The coach is the subject matter expert at coaching, not necessarily the subject matter expert of the client’s coaching topic.

Counselling
Counselors are trained to diagnose and help the client with emotional problems, the past or dysfunction while coaches are not. The coach’s domain is future-oriented – what does the client want? And then coaching the client to get there.

Mentoring
A mentor is a wise and trusted guide and advisor. The mentor is the teacher that shares their experience while bringing the “mentee” up the ranks.  A coach is not necessarily the subject matter expert in order to help develop the client.

Consulting
A consultant is an expert who is called on for professional or technical advice or opinions. They are relied on to understand the problem and present solutions. Consulting is unlike coaching because, with pure coaching, the answers come from the client.

What are your thoughts about these distinctions?

When seeking a professional, it is important to know what your requirements are so that you can choose the right professional at the right time.

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring & Consulting

According to the founder of CoachU, Thomas Leonard:

A Coach is…

  • Your partner in achieving professional and personal goals;
  • Your champion during a turnaround;
  • Your trainer in communication and life skills;
  • Your sounding board when making choices;
  • Your motivator when strong actions called for;
  • Your unconditional support when you take a hit;
  • Your mentor in personal development;
  • Your co-design when developing an extraordinary project
  • Your beacon during stormy times;
  • Your wake-up call if you don’t hear your own, and most importantly;
  • Your coach is your partner in living the life you know you’re ready for, personally and professionally.”

The Art & Science of Coaching

I am very passionate about coaching because since having a Master Coach in my corner over the past 17 years, the power of transformational coaching has delivered exactly that in my life – it has transformed my personal and professional life. This is what strongly supported my decision to become a professional coach studying the true art and science of advanced coaching.

If you are wanting to close the gap from where you are now to achieve next level success with a professional accredited coach, contact me to book in for a 20 minute introductory to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Live your Vision: Set yourself up for Success in 2018

With 2018 just around the corner, I have been taking time out to reflect on my accomplishments, challenges and insightful lessons throughout the year. This is always a fabulous time for reflection.

I am wondering how did your year shape up? Did you achieve what you set out to or did you notice yourself still facing the same challenges feeling frustrated about what will change in 2018?

If you want to hit the ground running in 2018 with greater clarity, making sure you live your inspirational vision, achieving your goals, below are 5 tips that can give you a strong foundation.

1. Reflection

Take time out before the year is over to reflect on your accomplishments in 2017 – no matter how big or how small – write down all your achievements. This will create momentum to build on your foundation for 2018. Then look at what systems worked for you in your personal and business life covering all areas important to you i.e. family, business, staff management, relationships, finances, leadership, health and wellness etc.

Notice when you reflect on what did work, what was it that did not work for you also and what were the areas that you let yourself down in i.e. not making time to exercise, business systems not managed, saying ‘Yes’ when you really want to say ‘No’ etc. By recognizing your habits that do not support your vision and goals, will give you the perfect opportunity to make the necessary conscious changes in 2018. No, not like a wish – a solid foundational system that will give you the time, energy and financial opportunities you truly want.

A celebration is most important in this step. When you celebrate and acknowledge your accomplishments, this creates a momentum for you to ‘ride the wave of success’ taking it into 2018. If you continually keep looking at what you did not achieve when you will take that way of thinking also into 2009 and nothing will change. Give yourself a break and start acknowledging yourself no matter what!

2. Clear Blockages

 This is the hidden bit that means so much towards your success. Have you heard the saying that says…’you will continually keep getting what you continually keep doing’. The way you will know your blockages is by looking at the results that you are not getting. For example, if you are struggling with a particular area in your business, then you will have a negative belief that is driving you to create the results you do not want or if you continually find your communication skills are not understood, then you may also have a negative belief driving it – no matter how hard you try.

To clear your blockages is to become aware of them and then to transform them into powerful positive statements based on the result you do want. Remember that you will always keep getting what you focus on and if you are not getting your desired results, there is a part of you inside that does not believe you can achieve it – no matter how determined and persistent you are. Your inside beliefs must match your outside desired results first. 

3. Clearing Clutter

I love this one because I get to throw out the old and make space for the new opportunities coming in for 2018. When you clear your home and office space, it will give you more energy (not to mention space) for you to build from. Clearing clutter is a physical, environmental and most of all, emotional experience, giving you space to deal with challenges. It can be difficult to understand this because it is an experiential reward, which will only occur once you have taken the action.

Are you someone who is used to living in clutter? Your office may always be a mess with papers disorganised, behind in taxation and budgets – or you may have clothes in your closet that you haven’t worn for years because you keep telling yourself that you will lose the extra kilos to fit into them again. When you live in an environment that supports you now, you will find that there will be more flow and freedom in your life and around your time scheduling. You will be surprised at what you can fit into your day when you live and work in a clutter-free zone.

Allow yourself to let go of the old and create a vacuum for the new. Be ruthless and either sell anything you are not using anymore, give it away to someone you know will use it, or give it to charity. Notice the loss of energy and focus and how much time is wasted in that very moment. Imagine what happens when you have a trail of things left undone and how much this stops you moving forward in life.

When you are clutter-free, you also clear your mind and create a free-flow of energy to do the things that are most important. Yes, it can be a little overwhelming if you have allowed things to accumulate over time, but persist, because it is worth it.

Live your Vision: Set yourself up for Success in 2018

4. Clear Vision and Goals

Imagine it is this time next year – yes, December 2018, and you are reflecting on your achieved vision and goals. What would you like to be saying you have accomplished? Write this in a script format being as descriptive as possible, using detail, feelings and expression.

For example: “I am so excited that I have now set all my systems up inside my business which are running very smoothly with a 75% financial growth. I love working with my ideal clients who are so easy to work with. My wife and I are so happy because we made time to go on holidays with our children to Queensland. Most of all I love the fact that I was able to keep my phone turned off and not worry about the running of my business.”

Bring in all the areas of your life that are important to you into you descriptive vision. You need to make it believable for you because your deep belief will be your natural motivator all year through, especially when you match your values.

Once you have your clear vision, then you need to break it down into goals. This is what I call ‘Zoning’. Zoning is a great way to maintain daily focus in the direction of your vision. How it works is you take a look at your vision and pick out all the desired end results i.e. Where do you want to go on Holidays with your family and what systems do you want to set up in the business and how much increase in your business do you want financially etc.

Once you have created your zoning goals, then you get a blank sheet of paper for each and bring the goals into reality today by answering these questions.

  1. Why do you want to achieve this goal?
  2. When would you like to achieve this goal by?
  3. What resources (people I know) do I currently have to help me achieve this goal?
  4. What are the Inspired Actions I want to take towards this goal?
  5. How will I celebrate when I have achieved my goal?

5. Success Mindset and Clarity

Without Mindset and Clarity, you will sabotage your success every time. Have you ever set a new year resolution really determined to make it happen only to find that by March that year the enthusiasm slipped through your fingers? You see, your conscious mind is the one setting your new year resolutions up and the subconscious mind is the one really running the show. So how do you set yourself up to succeed definitely this year?

In my national sporting days back in the 1980’s I heard about a non-evasive technique used at the Sporting Institute in America for performance testing. What they did was monitored the performance of each Olympian by linking them to a computer and got them to relax their body (yes they were in a still position) at the same time they would imagine in their mind that they were running their event at the Olympics. The results were astonishing because they found that the monitor showed that all the necessary muscles according to their individual event activated inside their body, even when they were still, as though they were running the event with the same amount of strength required. This all occurred from their Mind imaging their event as though they were actually participating in their event on the day.

I then practised this same technique as a part of my training for nationals and realized that if this works for my sporting events, then how about the rest of my life. I have been using this technique ever since and this is how I create my own life and business success.

Every day I visualize my Vision as though I have already achieved it, exactly the way the Olympians ran their event before they were at the Olympics. This is the most important key to having your vision and goals become a reality. You need to believe it first before you will see it in the physical form. Most of all you need to FEEL it as though it has already been achieved and take that feeling into your everyday life. You only need 2-5 minutes of your time each day to do this. The most challenging part for most people is to allow themselves to be still and slow down the busy mind that says “I don’t have time…” For you to maintain clarity and a mindset each day that matches, then this IS the key to Success for 2018 and beyond.

6. Daily Inspired Actions

Without action – nothing will be achieved. The actions I am referring to here are called Inspired Actions. These are not based on overwhelming should’s, ought to’s or have to’s. Inspired Action generally comes to you in the quietness of your mind, possibly when you are gardening, jogging, playing sport, meditating, holding your baby or even playing with your children etc.

These are actions that naturally come to you, which you feel, is your next step. This has a feeling of ‘I can’t wait to do it’. It also feels easy and in the flow. When you listen and take action on your inspired thought or idea, you will have no concerns about the outcome because you love whatever you are doing just by following your own intuition and acting on it.

When you follow your Inspired Actions your results will be amazing. We tend to look for ‘how to’ achieve your goals ‘actions’ coming from the left brain logic which is only one way of looking at things. This may be limiting your success. Everyone has Inspired Actions come into your mind every day, but we are so busy with our habits and routines that we either do not hear it or we say ‘I will get to that later’. Later never comes…until the new year resolutions!

Set yourself up this coming year to succeed by giving yourself plenty of time to de-stress, listen and act upon your Daily Inspired Actions.

Wishing you Great Success and Purpose in 2018 and beyond.

 

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Your Body’s Intelligence: Living and Working in your Free-Flow Zone

What does it mean when it comes to working and living in your free-flow zone? Whatever is going on in your personal and professional life right now, there is a great diamond in there that is ready to evolve into brilliance. There is something about being in your zone that will open up new opportunities with less effort and stress. 

This week I was with a client who is an entrepreneur, very much a go-getter personality with 3 types of business. One of the things he brought up during our coaching session was that we enjoyed taking time out, at different times, throughout the day to go and do something physical that he enjoyed doing; like go for a run. This gave him some sort of outlet that had him really connect with his body.  

I congratulated him because what that indicated to me was that he trusted his free-flow zone. For him to truly be focused and to naturally allow his entrepreneurial spirit to fulfil his potential, then he needed those breaks in between. When working with your strategic mindset, it is important to consciously be connected to the body through some form of physical activity. This was his method of doing that.  

Some of the things I like to do to stay connected with my free-flow zone are to walk in nature with my dog, creative visualization, meditation, conscious deep breathing, swimming, channel writing, jogging, gardening etc.  

One of the things he then said to me was that he wanted to not feel guilty about taking time out during the day because of the old 9-5 mentality. I mentioned that I was reading an article recently about how leaders in major organisations today have developed a greater awareness around the importance of having those breaks in between.  

Your Body’s Intelligence: Living and Working in your Free-Flow Zone

It’s interesting how the subject of innovation, creativity, and diversification often comes up and how to develop these qualities. The interesting part about this is that these qualities will develop naturally when you give yourself plenty of space in your mind and body by taking regular breaks. It is not something you can work out in your mind. It lies inside the listening of the space you form when you create mind – body – soul connection. It occurs naturally, when you become the observer of yourself, with the important part being that you stay connected. It is an inner body connection.  

Often we talk about staying connected now via social media, networking, collaborations etc., about being connected and the value of connection. What does connection truly mean? It means that you are truly connected with who you are, your real self, what are your true core values that you live by (walk your talk) and your deep knowledge of why you do what you do. This way of being will activate a new communication style gaining a natural interest in others and getting to know who they truly are with open curiosity.  

It’s not about being connected through language or through commonality alone. Yes that’s one level of it, but I can tell you that if you go underneath all of that, staying connected with your true self, trusting and acting on your free-flow zone – staying connected with your body’s intelligence – no matter where you are, no matter who you are with, no matter what the conversation is about, you will naturally connect with inspiring presence.  

One of the things I challenged my client with this week was to wholeheartedly trust his free-flow zone by putting it in action. To notice the guilt, and take action anyway. The guilt trip is the old business model that did not work for him any longer.  

I mentioned to him that it sounds like he is readjusting to the natural formation of a new business model that looked very different for him – of mind – of body – of soul. Staying connected with the head-heart-gut. Whatever language you prefer. It is important to match your own evolution with awareness; otherwise, you will continue to hit the glass ceiling trying to fit into someone else’s vision. 

So when you stay connected, you will be in your free-flow zone and you will know exactly the right action to take in direct correlation with your inspirational vision. You will also hear the intuitiveness – the gut feelings – the hunches – knowing the right actions you need to take at the right time. Instead of the head taking over, you want your body to be connected and then you will naturally bring your strategic mind in through the body’s intelligence.  

Focus on your Priorities: Ink your Vision

One of the regular questions I ask clients is “Do you have a vision?” I get really excited when they can tell me clearly what their vision is. Then I ask, “Have you written it down?” 99.9% of the time the answer is NO – as their finger moves towards their head, and they tap their temple, saying, “It’s all in here,” with a huge proud smile on their face.  

There is a great motto that goes like this: “Ink what you think!” When you do write down your vision, goals, and action steps, they become clearer. As you write, you are affirming to your conscious and subconscious mind what you truly desire. I find that this is when the answers on how to achieve your vision also become clearer. When you keep everything in your head, it creates a feeling of overwhelming clutter, with the emotional reaction of “How am I going to fit it all in with so little time?” Sound familiar? 

You would be surprised at how many people I coach write down their vision, goals and inspired action steps at the start of their coaching journey and when the time comes for their coaching review, just how astounded they are as to how much they have achieved, even if they have not looked at the list since writing it. Just imagine what happens when you write down your vision, goals and inspired action steps, and look at them regularly to keep yourself on the path of achieving every one of them. 

Focus on your Priorities: Ink your Vision

For instance, I remember coaching Mary who expressed feelings of being overwhelmed because she had just moved interstate, had been promoted to a newly created position, was moving in with her new boyfriend and going through divorce proceedings. Wow! These are huge changes in anyone’s life, wouldn’t you agree? As Mary telephoned in for her next coaching session, which was an opportunity to review her achievements over the past three months, there was a note of disappointment in her voice as she said, “I haven’t had time to look at my goals”.  

As I had already reviewed her goals prior to her coaching session, I quickly reminded her of what she had actually achieved. As she pulled out her list of goals, she was pleasantly surprised to see that the goals she had written down matched up with the major changes happening in her life. 

The message I would like to leave you with is that we sometimes get so overwhelmed in life that we do not even acknowledge ourselves for what we are achieving on a daily basis. The feeling of being overwhelmed or stressed clouds the truth and we don’t get to see our own accomplishments. You can use those feelings as a signal to take a reality check and see what’s really going on.  

When you take the time out of your busy day to look at what you actually have accomplished, you will always be pleasantly surprised at just how much you have been in action with during your day. The problem is your main focus may be on what you still have not accomplished and this will always keep the clouds of disillusion over your eyes with the continual feeling of not getting anywhere in life. This is an illusion and a self-sabotage mechanism that is not the truth. Always remain focused on what you are taking action on each day, no matter what you are doing and acknowledge yourself for what you are accomplishing inside your day. 

Foundational Success: Developing Clarity and Focus

Did you know that you will already have foundational systems in your everyday life that are working for you! The difference in growing upon your foundational success is whether you are conscious of the systems you do have that are working for you. Or are you living every moment unconsciously reacting to circumstances always looking at what is not working for you?

Systems that Work give you Clarity and Focus

Foundational Success is the rock-solid personal and professional systems you put in place so you have something solid to build on each and every day. Especially whenever challenges come your way, if you have your foundation set up in your whole life, then you will have a high emotional intelligence. When you have a high emotional intelligence you will stop reacting to life’s challenges and in that moment be calm enough to consciously choose your response.

Yes, you will be able to respond without reacting to the situation in front of you. Reactions to life’s challenges causes major stress and the see-saw feeling. Every action you take is a part of a system you have set up whether it be conscious or unconscious.

Start to become conscious about the systems that are already working for you and then take a look at the actions you are sporadically taking because of reactional thinking. Then decide whether there is a better way of implementing the action and if it needs to be a repetitive system for your success.

In a nutshell, it is about knowing and living your standards (the things you will and won’t accept of yourself) combined with clear boundaries (the things you will and won’t accept of others) and having the courage to continually communicate these coming from love and respect for yourself and others.

Some of the many things that set you up for reactional thinking are:

  • Not setting up your day with priority actions and doing the important things first.
  • Not placing suitable time scheduling around your priorities.
  • Not living your own standards – being everything to everybody.
  • Getting into the habit of over-promising and under-delivering.
  • Holding back on clear communication – ‘playing the guessing and assuming game’.
  • Saying ‘Yes’ when you really want to say ‘No’.
  • Not setting clear defined boundaries coming from love and respect for yourself and others.
  • Not making quality time to chill out and be with your family and loved ones.
  • Not making time to do something for yourself each day that brings you joy, fun and lightness.
  • Not having a clear vision and being disorganized.
  • Living and working amongst the clutter.

Here is a simple equation to remember for Foundational Success:

Foundational Success: Developing Clarity & Success

High Emotional Intelligence for Next Level Success

Did you know that you will already have foundational systems in your everyday life that are working for you? The difference in growing upon your foundational success is whether you are conscious about the systems you do have that are working for you. Or are you living every moment unconsciously reacting to circumstances always looking at what is not working for you?

Foundational Success is the rock solid personal and professional systems you put in place so you have something solid to build on each and every day. Especially whenever challenges come your way, if you have your foundation set up in your whole life, then you will have a high emotional intelligence. When you have a high emotional intelligence you will stop reacting to life’s challenges and in that moment be calm enough to consciously choose your response.

Yes, you will be able to respond without reacting to the situation in front of you. Reactions to life’s challenges causes major stress and the seesaw feeling. Every action you take is a part of a system you have set up whether it be conscious or unconscious.

Start to become conscious about the systems that are already working for you and then take a look at the actions you are sporadically taking because of reactional thinking. Then decide whether there is a better way of implementing the action and if it needs to be a repetitive system for your success. In a nutshell, it is about knowing and living your standards (the things you will and won’t accept of yourself) combined with clear boundaries (the things you will and won’t accept of others) and having the courage to continually communicate these coming from love and respect for yourself and others.

Some of the many things that set you up for reactional thinking are:

  • Not setting up your day with priority actions and doing the important things first.
  • Not placing suitable time scheduling around your priorities.
  • Not living your own standards – being everything to everybody.
  • Getting into the habit of overpromising and under-delivering.
  • Holding back on clear communication – ‘playing the guessing and assuming game’.
  • Saying ‘Yes’ when you really want to say ‘No’.
  • Not setting clear defined boundaries coming from love and respect for yourself and others.
  • Not making quality time to chill out and be with your family and loved ones.
  • Not making time to do something for yourself each day that brings you joy, fun and lightness.
  • Not having a clear vision and being disorganised.
  • Living and working amongst clutter.

Here is a simple equation to remember for next level success with high emotional intelligence.

High Emotional Intelligence for Next Level Success

To capitalise on your resources, it is paramount to have high emotional intelligence. If not, then you may be sabotaging your next level success no matter how much work you put in on the outside. Begin to take stock by becoming consciously aware of your own reactions because they are an indication that you are not living your standards and you may be crossing your own boundaries and allowing others to cross them.

If your next level success is stagnant and you find yourself not standing on solid foundations with high emotional intelligence, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Busy Work Life: Is Your Health and Energy Suffering?

Your health and physical energy is always a great guidance for you to see whether you are doing the important things that feed positive energy into your mind, body and soul. If you are feeling low in energy or feeling your health is suffering, then take a good look at what you are promising to do in your day and create plenty of space for yourself to breath, reflect and change your approach.

I have had many people come to me for coaching who are feeling low in energy and concerned about their health. They noticed how much they pushed themselves in their working life, so much so, that they did not make quality time to be with their family, never made time for themselves and very much concerned about their own health.

The truth is that they really do not want to have this year be the same as last year and their commitment is to work on 3 main areas to make these changes.

Busy Work Life: Is Your Health and Energy Suffering?

  1. Simple exercise and relaxation techniques that work for each individual because we all enjoy different forms of exercise. So be careful not to think you ‘should be’ doing a form of exercise based on what others have said to do or what you did 20 years ago. You have changed and it is important to listen to what your body is telling you to do today.

Most of you may know that my background is as a national sportswoman and being a high achiever, I learned about this the hard way – exercise today is a breeze and I listen to what my body needs. My past career was as a personal trainer and the most common thing I heard from people I worked with was that they felt like they had to ‘work hard’ to get results. This is not the truth. It is all about consistency and doing what you enjoy so that it becomes a natural way of life – not a yo-yo situation – take away all the push, relax and enjoy the process as a way of life. Think of it as your commitment to having a healthy lifestyle for life.

  1. The other area we are working on is how to set your day up for success by ‘under-promising and over delivering’. A great tip on setting your day up is to set it up the night before by acknowledging what you did get done during that day, and then choose 3-5 highest priority actions and set these up in the next day’s diary. Add plenty of white space inside your diary for the unexpected. Place lunch breaks in your diary and get away from the office to clear your mind and rejuvenate your batteries for the afternoon.

Now, this is the most important part – take a look at your diary and notice whether you feel heavy and stressed or light and accomplishable. If you feel heavy when looking at your day’s diary set up, then you will definitely set your day up to fail, even before it has begun. Let’s take away the stress by setting up realistic time frames that work for you. Stop trying to push through and collapsing at the end of the day hanging out for that release of some kind.

Then visualise your day exactly the way you would like it to go based on what you have placed in your diary and see yourself going home with plenty of energy to do those things you want to do with your family, time for yourself, exercise etc.

  1. Set up quality time with your family, children, pets, whoever is important to you on a daily basis and ‘be present’ with them. Also, put this time in your diary and do not let yourself down and the people most important in your life.

Become the designer of your life and business success. Keep it super simple as you set up consistent foundations as your daily practice for sustainable energy and vitality.

If your productivity and performance levels are being hindered due to your lack of energy and vitality, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Powerful Teamwork with Engaging Communication

Are you having challenges when it comes to creating a team who works well together? When it comes to developing a champion team, there are principles that are not often spoken about which are vital to the success of your team working together, instead of a group of individuals hoping it all comes together at the end of the day.

I remember as a World Masters champion sportswoman, when on the field if we did not communicate we would not know what action our team members were about to take. We needed to hear the communication loud and clear so we knew exactly what support our team members needed. We needed to know exactly what move to make, where we needed to be positioned on the field in order to win the game.

Without clear and assertive communication our whole team would play as individuals without support. Without backup, we would not be able to create momentum. The game became much harder and not enjoyable to play with a whole pile of individuals not playing well together as a team.

I remember certain team members who did not have confidence in asserting themselves because they did not believe in their own abilities. This was when the team knew they needed to communicate early enough before the next play. In other words, the team had to carry that player. This was most frustrating at times because on the field you do not have time to wait as the gap of opportunity would close up very quickly.

Getting to know everyone’s communication style was the key. This meant getting to know each team member and finding out what they needed in the way of support for their full performance and potential to be played out on the field.

This was when I gave extra one-on-one time with team members who needed development and support; otherwise, the whole team would suffer. Yes, this takes time, but you will be surprised how quickly your team will step-up and lead with the qualities of a champion leader when you make time to get to know what they need. This is because they feel heard and understood.

For success in your professional and personal life, the same rule applies.

Powerful Teamwork with Engaging Communication

As your team moves into their plays, they will come up against challenges and the unexpected. They need to know how to read the play early and communicate before the play occurs in order to adapt to these challenges. If the communication is not loud and clear, then you will lose the game.

A champion leader inspires others by having an inquisitive communication style by asking open questions to evoke a deeper understanding of whom that person truly is. They are curious and listen with all their senses about what they are saying and what they are not saying. They see everyone as being the master of their own life who has the answers to all their questions.

The power of engaging communication is when you become the observer.

I like to call this the ‘helicopter view’. This is when you are able to be a witness of your own and of others’ communication style, where you listen without judgment. You will then know exactly what to say in the moment that will inspire and lead your team with respect, clarity, and acknowledgment.

This reminds me of a story about a client named Jordon, who came to me for leadership coaching, wanting to improve his team’s communication and efficiency. The first thing I asked him was, “When was the last time you acknowledged your team members?” With a proud smile on his face, he said, “I took them out to lunch to celebrate winning our last contract.”

“Great incentive for celebrating a milestone,” I answered. Then I asked another question, “When was the last time you acknowledged your team members on an individual basis, unexpectedly?” He looked at me in a puzzled manner and replied, “What do you mean, unexpectedly?”

I explained every one of his team members has strengths, qualities and natural talents they are using on a daily basis. If he began to acknowledge his team members for their natural talents, instead of taking their strengths for granted, then each individual will start to feel more and more confident to the degree that even their so-called ‘weaknesses’ will become strengths. This will shift the energy, attitude, and mindset of all team members to work in harmony with efficient and effective results.

The challenge I gave Jordon was to genuinely acknowledge team members for one of their natural talents during the next week. He did this, and to his surprise, he noticed a dynamic shift in the efficiency of the team working together.

An added bonus was while he had always had an ‘open door’ policy; the team had never used it. After he started to acknowledge them, they felt much more confident and comfortable to communicate any challenges, or concerns, before they got out of hand. Much to Jordon’s surprise he even witnessed the team members starting to acknowledge each other more.

The other challenge I gave Jordon for that week, was to have him acknowledge his wife for something he really appreciated, on three separate occasions. You can imagine how he was feeling the following week when we had our next coaching session! Yes, by acknowledging his wife regularly, he had also improved his relationship with her. This effect also rippled out to their children.

Even when there is nothing wrong in a relationship, there is always room for improvement, which is not highlighted until you do something different, and outside the square.

I have used Jordon’s example with team leadership acknowledgment; however, the same applies to all situations when working with people.

This includes acknowledgment of family members, sporting clubs you may be involved with, working environments, business owners and staff, parents and children at school, etc.

If you are having challenges in developing a powerful team that works well together, do not waste another minute banging your head against a brick wall, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation about your communication and leadership style.  www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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