Knowing Yourself – Being an Authentic Leader in your Whole Life

Everyday, I have the privilege of working with people who trust and confide in me, as their confidential sounding board, discussing matters that are of their highest priority. 

As a professional coach, there is an art, science and practice required to be able to hold a clear space for the client to fully show up in, and be real. This creates a safe space for deep listening to occur, so that the client can then hear, feel and sense insights with new awareness. 

Many of my clients tell me they are feeling overwhelmed from information overload. Yes, knowledge is important, yet I find that many of us have become information gatherers and not able to process this for effective application. This is where overwhelm, anxiety and comparison can kick in. In fact, everyone processes differently and it is important to get to know what works best for you so that you can effectively live and work in your zone. 

That’s why I love transformational coaching v’s transactional coaching. 

It certainly has changed my personal and professional life for the better, which is why I believe in this work at the core of my being. There is nothing more powerful than ‘real life experiences’.

This is where transformational coaching is so much more powerful in the long run. My clients always walk away knowing exactly what next steps are right for them based on where they stand now. They create momentum in trusting their own inner mentor, connecting with their natural resourcefulness.

I often hear my clients say how surprised they are about the spectrum of insights they gain inside a 60-minute coaching conversation. Due to this, they gain greater clarity with simplicity and ease. They walk away feeling a sense of ‘lightness’, knowing who they are and what their next steps are, because of these new insights. 

After a coaching session last week with the State Manager of an Engineering Organisation, I asked this question.

 “How would you describe your experience in working with me?” 

Her response was …

“What comes to mind straight away is an image. It is like hand holding your feelings because we have so many people hand holding our minds through training courses, university, corporate institutions, corporate lunches etc. We have all this stuff in our head, and the coaching is like awakening the spiritual, emotional and personal part of you. Including the core aspirations of what you want to do with your life. 

I would say that it helps to awaken that deeper part of you, and then to connect in between, in a way that you don’t have to go and live in a tee pee in the middle of the forest. You can still be a corporate jet setter with a lot more depth and awareness, and with a lot less pain physically, emotionally and spiritually.

I would also say that it is like an awakening of the self in the depth of your being – then seeing how the two (mind and body-soul) interplay – being in alignment – in harmony – rather than competing or one trying to shut down the other.”

I then asked her…

“What type of coach do you refer me as to your colleagues?”

“I have referred you mainly as a Transformation Coach – Life Transformation. 

There are times, depending on who I am speaking with, I do say you are an Executive Coach as they tend to understand this term; yet I feel that does not come close to what I experience from working with you. 

Without sounding too ‘out there’, I am going to use the word ‘Awakening’ Who you really are. Authenticity comes to mind. Leading you towards knowing yourself and actually being an authentic leader.”

I absolutely love my life’s work and especially feel humbled with the variety of subjects that arise inside of the client’s agenda. Yes, my client’s bring their own agenda to each coaching conversation so they can focus in and get the maximum results out of their allocated coaching sessions. This helps to gain clarity so that the client can get straight to the core of what’s really important and what they want to achieve inside each coaching conversation.

If you feel I am speaking to you and there is something that truly resonates with you, or you may be curious about how transformational coaching can take you from where you are now to where you want to be in your personal and professional life, please contact me directly for a consultation.http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Opening the Doors of my Inspirational Office Space

Welcome to my inspirational office space. The space I absolutely love working in with my border collie, Larry, always sitting close by. He is truly my muse.

Opening the doors to my office and sharing my vision and dreams that I have been living for many years. I absolutely love creating a life and business I love that serves my vision and values from the inside out.

I find that many business leaders, entrepreneurs, coaches and consultants come to me in the way of wanting to create a life and business that serves their vision and their values from inside out. They have a vision, a calling or something that they want to actualize.

In the busy world out there today, they tell me they are getting lost inside of all the information and knowledge gathering. They are feeling confused, frustrated and overwhelmed and getting off their path. I can certainly relate to this, as there have often been times I have realized that I have been following someone else’s vision or trying to live someone else’s values. Finding myself needing to pivot, with bucket loads of courage, to get myself back on my true path.

I believe in being ‘in your flow’. I believe in following inspired action and the only way to do that is by staying in alignment with who you truly are. Focusing on your inner vision. No one else can tell you what your inner vision is or how to go about doing that. It is paramount to allow time and space for momentum to gain naturally, for your vision to be realized.

As a coach, I am very passionate about partnering you to articulate, to verbalize and honor your calling from inside out. The real you, knows the essence of who you truly are. The strengths, gifts, talents, abilities, background, knowledge; you are ready to express and put out there into the world. 

Opening the doors of my inspriational office space. video 4.45mins

This ultimately is a part of your calling. It’s a calling that is inside and you have a knowing that you are ready to listen and bring forth. You may feel a little uncertain about your readiness. You may be feeling uncertain about the know-how or even lack of confidence in knowing where to begin.

A little bit about my background. 27 years ago I started a personal training business, when I transitioned from the corporate world as an executive assistant. I was also a world master’s champion sportswoman with a passion for mastering the zone. I wanted to really hone into living and working in my zone. I especially wanted to know how to bring my natural abilities, strengths, gifts and talents together inside a purposeful business that expressed my calling, my vision and honoring who I truly am.

This is what truly inspires me and gets me out of bed each day. If you know that you are sitting on something from inside out and you know that there is a vision – an inner calling – something that you know has transformed your life and you want to bring this out into the world, then you are reading this for a reason.

If you can relate to any of this and you are looking for someone who is not going to tell you what to do, but ultimately see you for your higher vision, your calling, your sounding board, your champion who will inspire you to bring out what it is that is inside of you; to take inspired action trusting your intuition, developing momentum and making sure you stay in alignment with your true path every step of the way; please personal message me if you would like to have a conversation about how we can work together to realize your vision.

Looking forward to hearing more about your calling and the natural creative path that you know needs to be expressed naturally. To ultimately create a life and business you love to live each day.

Lead with your Heart: Are you Getting Caught Up in your Head?

Are you following your heart each day or are you noticing yourself getting caught up in your busy head? When you practice following your heart by listening, trusting and taking the inspired actions that your heart is whispering for you to take, and you do take action; that is when you will always live a life of pure contentment and true wealth from the inside out.

My greatest learning lesson in life has been to have the courage to follow my heart and not to override my decisions through rationalising with my head. Every time I listen to what my heart is telling me to do each day, I always find myself living with much more peace, flow and contentment from the inside.

My outside world matches my inner feelings with greater results occurring right before my eyes without having to push harder and trying to strategise everything ahead of time. This is a practice that you can play with as a part of learning to trust your own gut feelings, instincts and intuition.

I started by simply getting to know what I prefer from the inside out, and you can do the same. I said the word ‘play’ because that is exactly what I did. I asked myself throughout my day “What do I prefer, this colour or that colour?” whenever seeing a certain car or dress. Even when I was exercising I would ask the same question “What do I prefer today walking or running”.

Begin to listen to your body and it’s responses; then act on it. You can then begin to trust and ask the bigger questions like “How much do I really want to charge?” or “How do I really want to set up my working day?” The key here is you must trust and take the actions.

Personal message me if you are interested in knowing more about how you can work with me. http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Creating Clarity through the Power of Simple Meditation

I’ve just been sitting here meditating and I often gain insights as I meditate.

Thought I’d share my insight today…

One of the things that I notice is that we are all working really hard to get ahead in life. As I reflect back on my sporting days when being in the zone, I realised It was never about working hard or getting ahead whilst being in the zone. There was always a feeling of spaciousness in mind and body. There was always a sense of flow. There was always a sense of knowing which step to take next and which direction to go.

This is something that each and every one of us has within, but what happens is we are in our head strategizing trying to work it all out. That’s when it becomes harder work because we are actually pushing up against and trying to work out the steps ahead without really being here first.

The only way you are ever going to know your next step is when you are in the present moment. So, that’s what I would like to share a little more about. Being present to your flow, in the moment trusting the inner voice, the inner vision that gives you that next step. Trusting that gut feel, that instinctual knowing that says ‘go this way’, ‘take this direction’.

Most of the time we have so many responsibilities, which we all do have, it is important to start to create some space for yourself so that you can practice listening into that gut feel, that intuitive knowing. Creating some space so that you can practice that is paramount for your momentum.

This is where true innovation comes from. We all have a creative nature inside each and every one of us; we are all born that way. That is not necessarily just about in the arts. It is knowing the creative strengths, gifts and talents that you have within already that somehow might have been buried, blocked or pushed aside because you are on that survival path of trying to get ahead. Tapping into your own natural flow, which is the creative path to a fulfilling life.

Making some space and time for yourself by going inwards will quieten the busy mind. One of the ways I do that is through meditation. I like to keep it really simple by focusing in on the breath. You can even do this consciously throughout the day by taking 10 deep breaths every hour.

This will actually slow down the busy mind and slow down the rush feeling inside, so that over time you will create space, not only in your life, in your mind, in your body, in between the actions that you are taking throughout the day that you are responsible for.

One of the most natural tools we are born into this life with is the breath. Taking conscious deep breaths throughout your day will slow things down and bring you back into the present moment. Being fully present is a conversation I often have with many of my clients and I’ve personally been through this myself with my own coach.

This has become my daily practice, which is the most powerful way I have ever found that has supported me in staying present in this moment, to stay in my body so that my head doesn’t race ahead. I notice if ever I feel a sense of frustration, anxiousness or overwhelm that is my indicator that my head has taken over in that moment. I notice I am able to catch it much quicker these days. This practice has been a major contributor in creating a healthy balance for my mental well-being, physical well-being and emotional well-being.

Enjoy watching my video. I hope this supports you in trusting your intuitive flow.

 

If you have any questions on this subject, please feel free to personal message me http://annettestanton.com/contact/

 

Design your Life and Business Success for 2019

Happy New Year. Welcome to 2019. I am really looking forward to sharing a truly inspiring year together filled with purpose and presence.

It’s that time of the year where my husband, Mark, and I sit by the pool with our favourite bottle of champagne and cheese platter, taking time out to reflect on our year. We find this helps us to gain clarity of our direction for this coming year. Especially clarifying our evolving next steps in alignment with our vision, goals and values.

Throughout the year, we write on post-it notes our acknowledgements for the day, expressing gratitude for new experiences we have had, humbled by the people we meet and share time with, quality time with our family, grateful for current and new work contracts, financial growth, new business opportunities, time-out for self, health and fitness, events we have attended, and anything else we feel most grateful for.

We have a very large vase sitting in the corner of our kitchen to remind us of the importance of reflection each day. It certainly does not take long for the jar to fill up. Take a look at it this year.

One by one we reminisce on events, places, people, challenges, opportunities, we have experienced. We share our realisations and insights of where we are today, new insights we have gained and what new learnings we want to expand on this year.

With a big ‘cheers’ and the sound of the clinging of the champagne glasses, we celebrate those special moments all over again.

As we remember events we totally forgot about attending, reminisce about the places we visited on our holiday in Singapore, thankful for the contracts that came out of the blue, humbled by the quality of time we spent with our family and friends, surprised about the number of movies we saw (definitely movie buffs) and much more.

I mentioned to Mark that I see a pattern in our acknowledgements and how the actions we take truly indicates what is most important to us. For example, we noticed our love for events and movies, dinner dates together, time with family and friends, loving our work life, enjoying time in our garden, love my writing time at cafes close to the beach, our walks along the beach, making time to exercise, breath meditation, walking our dog in nature etc.

We notice our life theme running throughout every reflection. It was very obvious to us, as to what is most important in our lives, in looking at specifically where we are spending our time.

Our values stood out very clearly and we were very excited to confirm our commitment in the way we lived our everyday way of life and business correlating with our core values.

The theme running through our values is:

  • Loving Marriage
  • Connection with Family and Friends
  • Energising Health, Fitness and Well-Being
  • Fulfilling Business Life
  • Harmonious Home Life
  • Balancing Time for Self

The benefits we both notice and shared with each other is that we never realize just how much we already live a full life. We often find ourselves so busy getting caught up in where we are heading and not stopping to fully take in the fullness of the simple steps we take each day. We also noticed what we take for granted at times, looking at what we don’t have or still have not achieved.

What’s most important to us both is to consciously design a life and business we love to live each day. What we recognise is the areas that we are living our core values and where we may need to place our focus on this year.

The next step we take is to identify the specific areas we want to focus on.

Mark mentioned that he wants to create more time for himself outside of business. Because he works in the events industry, this means his hours vary. This also means that his working week varies and a routine can only be scheduled placed around the event bookings.

My coaching business model is very different as I choose to set my week up with a routine that accommodates my personal and business energy cycles. In other words, I know what time of day works best for me to make appointments with clients, business management time, marketing time, my personal appointments for self-time etc.

I share with Mark that I would like to invite family and friends over for dinner on a regular basis. We often speak about it, yet time gets gobbled up with other areas that are important to us.

We then wrote out our personal and business goals for the next 12 months.

I always find our goals are the obvious next steps we need to focus on. In other words, the areas that we know we have dropped the ball and now is the time to pick it up and create new habits that support our growth, happiness and fulfilment.

I hope this gives you the inspiration to make time to reflect on where you are spending your time, energy and money. These are all indicators to gain consciousness as to whether you are living your values each day or living into a hopeful future.

If you would like to gain greater clarity, focus and confidence in achieving your personal and business goals in 2019 and beyond, contact me today to discuss your requirements.

7 Compelling Reasons why working with a Coach is Highly Beneficial

Coaching is fast becoming a recognised profession worldwide, having emerged from a range of fields and disciplines, such as sports, business, leadership and management, psychology and counselling, creative arts, financial planning and management, human growth and potential movements, interpersonal and communication skills training.

The basic philosophy of coaching is that you can have what you most want in life and achieve your potential without the struggle and ‘hard work’ of doing it all alone. Coaching also works on the principal of synergy; that the energy (ideas, focus, clarity) arising from the coach-client partnership is greater than the individual energy brought by the two individuals alone.

What is Professional Coaching?

Professional coaching is an ongoing partnership that helps clients to produce fulfilling and effective results in their professional and personal life. Through the process of coaching, clients improve their performance, deepen their learning and enhance their quality of life.

Why Does Coaching Work?

Coaching works best because of 3 unique feature :

  1. Synergy:The client and coach become a team, focussing on specific goals and needs to accomplish more than you would alone.
  2. Structure:With a coach, the client takes more action, thinks bigger and gets the job done, thanks to the accountability that the coach provides.
  3. Expertise:The coach knows how to help the client to make better decisions, set the best goals, and integrate your professional and personal life for maximum productivity.

 7 compelling reasons why working with a coach is beneficial

  • A coach provides a sounding board for new ideas and better decisions.
  • A coach gives honest feedback and unconditional support.
  • A coach will help set clear goals and help you achieve them.
  • A coach integrates your professional and personal life and makes sure that the goals are balanced for sustainable success.
  • A coach helps you gain greater clarity of vision than you can’t alone.
  • A coach focuses on the big picture – not just part of it. Coaching is holistic.
  • A coach helps make sure you are taking smart actions and being as effective as possible.

Who works with a Coach?

Leaders, Small Business Owners, Professionals, Corporate Employees, Entrepreneurs and Individuals in transition use a coach to fix, solve, create or plan something, professionally and/or personally.

What is worked on?

  • Clarifying Vision, Mission and Values of the Business
  • Business Strategic Planning
  • Management and Leadership Skills
  • Making Key Decisions and Designing Strategies
  • Systems and Organisational Strategies
  • Catching up and Getting ahead of the Business
  • Turning Around a Difficult Situation
  • Start up and Business Growth
  • Personal Planning and Work/Life Balance
  • Business and Personal Budgeting
  • Being More Effective with your Time and Resources
  • Prioritising Actions and Projects
  • Simplifying Life

 What do People use Coaching for?

The scope of what can be covered in a coaching relationship extends to almost anything in the realm of personal growth, achievement and success, including: finances; health; business; relationships; career or work; community, and; creative, emotional and spiritual expression.

For example, coaches work with clients to help them develop their management or leadership skills; to start a new business or take it to the next level; to accelerate their careers, including through enhancing their promotional possibilities; to clarify their personal vision, to pursue the vocations they’ve always dreamed of, to maintain work/life balance and to retain focus on important quality-of-life goals, or; to improve personal or professional relationships so they are more effective and fulfilling.

In circumstances where people don’t know precisely where they would like to set a goal, a coach can also assist to clarify priorities and directions and to plan with them, strategies for change and achievement.

What does a Professional Coach do?

Coaches offer a structure of regular, focussed sessions – usually ranging from once per week to once per fortnight – which lead to their client’s goals being more conscious and focused, and to increased momentum for action. Coaches are trained to listen, to observe, and to elicit from their clients, solutions and strategies to support client progress and results achievement.

A coach does not regard themselves as the expert. They believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful and it is their job to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has. The coach does not take responsibility for client action and results. Rather, a coach encourages their client to be fully responsible for their own decisions and actions, to acknowledge the importance of their personal aspirations and to encourage them to be accountable for their actions and the results they achieve.

How do I Know Who is the Best Coach for Me?

  1. Be clear on your reasons for hiring a coach. If you’re clear in what you want, prospective coaches can support your search by indicating if and how they can help you.
  1. Look for a coach you can collaboratively work and create with, not simply someone who gives you advice or who appears to be the most experienced.
  2. If you want further information, ask the coach for references from current or past clients, who are similar to yourself.

If you are looking for a professional coach to partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/or mobile 0413 949 554.

Looking for Better Ways to Manage your Time!

One of the challenges I often hear inside of coaching conversations is ‘how do I fit it all in?’ They are looking for better ways to manage their time.

Time management challenges often arise when you:

  • Over commit yourself to take actions in an underestimated time frame and with an unrealistic ‘to do list’.
  • Say ‘yes’ to everyone and everything, not wanting to let people down.
  • Do not take time out for yourself, feelings of guilt if you do have 5 minutes to spare.

There is no such thing as time management because no one can manage time. What you can manage is the choice of actions you take during your day. This is the distinction between time management and self-management.

When you manage what is most important to you, based on your values first, this will always give you space, time and energy to achieve the other important things to you.

The three most common areas we let go of when the ‘busy cycle’ appears are

  1. Exercise
  2. Quality time with loved ones
  3. Time-out for self

Imagine if you looked after all these first as a priority. Think how great you would feel with more energy and focus to take care of new habits you would like to create. I notice that whenever the higher percentage of my focus is on my business projects, my exercise routine gets pushed to one side. As soon as I become conscious about this and start to pick up the exercise routine, my business projects become more creative, with a natural flow about them.

With this awareness of what it brings me, I make sure that I maintain an exercise routine that suits me, my schedule, quality time with loved ones and make time for my self-care. I am a much better person to be around when I do this and life seems to flow with ease.

The 3 Steps to Self Management: Breaking it down

  • Personal Foundations
  • Business Foundations
  • Time Out for Self

Planning your time is often a combination of tasks scheduled in your diary and a to-do list for you to get around to when you have spare time. The more you can schedule the most important things, as well as your daily tasks, into your diary, with a time and date set against each one, the more likely it is that you’ll achieve them.

A big tip is to leave plenty of white space scheduled in your diary, to manage the unexpected, or things you may have forgotten about in your day. This is normally a challenge for most people, as you are trying to fit so much into your day and invariably wonder how you can ever leave ‘white space’ in between scheduling.

“My challenge to you is to ‘give it a go’ for at least 30 days
and notice what happens. Do the important things first aligning
your actions with your vision and values.”

Every Friday afternoon I sit down with my weekly schedule list and place every activity into my diary against an allocated time. This also includes the inspired action steps for my committed goals. Create your own self-management plan by filling out the weekly schedule below, using the 3 breakdown steps.

Personal Foundations covers all areas that are important to you for developing a healthy and happy foundation, e.g. quality time in relationships, exercise, shopping, family time etc.

Business Foundations covers all roles and responsibilities, required to be completed on a weekly and monthly basis, e.g. weekly meetings, accounts, client contact calls etc.

Time Out for Self covers what is important to you based on personal development and time-out for yourself to recharge your batteries, e.g. reading personal and professional development books, meditation, journal writing etc.

Coaching Challenge

Write down where you are currently spending your time. Then make a list of the things you always say you would like to be doing that you don’t get around to. It could be something that you have always wanted to Be, Do or Have, e.g. learn to dance, more time with family, socialise with friends, begin a sustainable exercise program you enjoy.

Fill out your weekly schedule, including all the areas in your life where you spend your time and what you would like to spend more time doing. Then place these in your diary with an allocated time and date. All you need to do is follow your diary knowing that every action you take is in direct alignment with your vision and values.

Remember to leave plenty of white space for creativity and spontaneity.

If you are looking for a professional coach as your sounding board to clarify your direction and partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring and Consulting – What’s the Difference?

I often get asked about the difference between coaching, counselling, mentoring and consulting.  While the communication skills used by these professions are similar – such as asking questions, active listening, summarising, etc., they are very different methods, and it depends on what the client needs.

Here are some distinctions:

Coaching
According to the International Coach Federation, coaching is defined as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential.” The coach is the subject matter expert at coaching, not necessarily the subject matter expert of the client’s coaching topic.

Counselling
Counselors are trained to diagnose and help the client with emotional problems, the past or dysfunction while coaches are not. The coach’s domain is future-oriented – what does the client want? And then coaching the client to get there.

Mentoring
A mentor is a wise and trusted guide and advisor. The mentor is the teacher that shares their experience while bringing the “mentee” up the ranks.  A coach is not necessarily the subject matter expert in order to help develop the client.

Consulting
A consultant is an expert who is called on for professional or technical advice or opinions. They are relied on to understand the problem and present solutions. Consulting is unlike coaching because, with pure coaching, the answers come from the client.

What are your thoughts about these distinctions?

When seeking a professional, it is important to know what your requirements are so that you can choose the right professional at the right time.

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring & Consulting

According to the founder of CoachU, Thomas Leonard:

A Coach is…

  • Your partner in achieving professional and personal goals;
  • Your champion during a turnaround;
  • Your trainer in communication and life skills;
  • Your sounding board when making choices;
  • Your motivator when strong actions called for;
  • Your unconditional support when you take a hit;
  • Your mentor in personal development;
  • Your co-design when developing an extraordinary project
  • Your beacon during stormy times;
  • Your wake-up call if you don’t hear your own, and most importantly;
  • Your coach is your partner in living the life you know you’re ready for, personally and professionally.”

The Art & Science of Coaching

I am very passionate about coaching because since having a Master Coach in my corner over the past 17 years, the power of transformational coaching has delivered exactly that in my life – it has transformed my personal and professional life. This is what strongly supported my decision to become a professional coach studying the true art and science of advanced coaching.

If you are wanting to close the gap from where you are now to achieve next level success with a professional accredited coach, contact me to book in for a 20 minute introductory to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

How I Developed Self-Confidence – My Affirmation Story

Yes, you can change your life. I know this is a very profound statement and I say it because I have done it myself. Until I was about 30 years old, I was so shy that I hardly ever spoke, and I lived a lot of my life in my head. My only self-expression was through my physical body, as an excellent sportswoman.

I started to wonder why I could express myself naturally as a sportswoman, but not in my personal and professional life. This was a challenge to me because at that time I spent a lot of my life worrying about my past (which I could not do anything about) or thinking about the future (which had not even occurred yet).

As I observed myself in my sporting arena, what stood out the most was that I had to respond to the plays spontaneously in the moment, otherwise the opportunity was lost. That was my breakthrough! I was 100% present in the moment on and off the field as the captain coach, leading the team and holding on to the higher purpose of the game. Obviously, I had trained my level of fitness and skills to respond quickly.

My greatest challenge in my personal and professional life was living in the present moment. Once I started to practise being present, I began to hear my predominantly negative self-statements, which were obviously based on my fears of all the ‘what ifs’ (which, by the way, never happened). What a waste of energy and time in my life that was!

I decided it was time to get serious about this positive self-statement stuff! I admit I was still a little apprehensive about affirmations because I had attempted to do them a few years before, without success. Now I realise that I had always done them in a very reactive state when I either felt negative or frustrated and that I’d soon given up, wondering why affirmations never worked for me.

Once I began to do my affirmations more effectively, I decided to keep saying them, as I knew the conscious mind would only take on the thoughts and words I consistently told myself. This eventually became a natural part of who I am and how I live my life, as a new and rewarding habit.

How I developed self confidence

I will take you through the steps I took that helped me make the changes. To get the maximum from my experience, why not go through the steps with me now? I have used the true-life example of developing my self-confidence in my personal and professional life.

Step 1   I wrote down the negative head talk and became conscious of what I was automatically saying to myself, about myself and others.

E.g.        “I am not confident” . . . “I wish I looked and acted confidently like her or him” . . . “I am not very good at . . .”

Step 2   Then I changed the wording of those negative self-statements into positive present tense affirmations and wrote them on palm cards to keep in the office, car, fridge etc. as a reminder.

E.g.        I am confident

I act confidently

I am great at . . .

Step 3   I chose to say the affirmations as many times as possible during my day no matter what. I said them with feeling, emotion and belief, as though I had already achieved them.

Tip: Choose a maximum of three affirmations to say each time. If you do not feel comfortable with the affirmation, you may need to change the wording to suit you. Keep saying your chosen affirmations until you feel you own them and your life begins to show up that way.

Step 4   I asked myself, “Who do I need to become to achieve this?” Then I made a list of what confident people do, how they act, what they wear, how they walk. I started taking on all those actions, like walking tall down the street looking people in the eyes, smiling and acting confidently (yes, fake it until you make it – definitely works), speaking to people even when I felt nervous.

How I Developed Self-Confidence – My Affirmation Story

With daily commitment in practising to be confident, I built a new habit, which changed my life, and I naturally became confident. The new me went from being a shy person to becoming a public speaker, moving interstate and developing my first business, stepping out of my comfort zone and participating in adventurous events such as jumping out of a plane; skydiving, white water rafting, half marathons, travelling the world, just to mention a few.

I cannot tell you how long or short a time it took because there was no line to cross over that marked the difference between ‘shy’ and ‘confident’. I remember one day just noticing how confident I now was and it felt so natural and humbling.

We are all made up of our habits. I decided to make being confident a new habit, purely by taking on new behaviours and acting out ‘confidence’ until it became a part of who I naturally am today.

If I can do it, I know you can too. Think about what habit you would like to change and start taking on the new actions until they are a part of who you are. Does a little part of my shyness still pop up in my life every so often? Yes! Of course, it does and in that moment I remind myself that I am not committed to being that way.

Who are you committed to being in your life?

Improve your Focus with The Power of Intention

This subject is very close to my heart. I remember having a vision many years ago about how I would like my life to look and actually wrote it down. At the time it seemed like a dream that was ‘out there’ and that very familiar feeling of… ‘That would be the life’ with a deep sigh of someday…one day…maybe!

After many years of trusting my vision, writing it down regularly and taking consistent action steps – I am actually living that life now with a physical, financial, emotional and spiritual balance. I’m not talking about the million dollars – nor the material things (yes that is a big part of creating a reserve for yourself), I’m talking about what’s really

Important to you now and living a life based on your true values.

Normally, these are the conversations that sound something like this….

“When I have….., then I will do that….” or

“I wish I had enough time to do….” or

“I must get around to doing that….”

Fill in the gaps based on what is important to you.

By taking time-out for yourself to write down what it is you truly want to bring into your life, this will support you in maintaining a clear vision and keep you focused on where you are now and where you plan to go.

Another very important thing I learnt about this was to also acknowledge myself along the way, as I noticed how I kept extending the ‘goal posts’ every time I was about to achieve my goal. This made me feel like I was not getting anywhere, when actually I was. Notice whether this may be a pattern you have seen in your life and take some time now to acknowledge yourself!

Improve your Focus with The Power of Intention

The ‘power of intention’ is designed to look at what you want as a specific outcome.

Take a look at the examples below…

Example    – Prior to going into your next meeting – (choose your intention)….

That all staff members be clear about the actions required to successfully complete the project.

Example    – When picking up the children from school (choose your intention)…

I will listen and be totally present with my children sharing their excitement.

Example    – After a busy day at the office  – (choose your intention)…

I will take time-out for me and go to the gym.

I don’t know about you, but what I found when I did not think about what my intention was 99.9% of the time I generally found myself in the middle of an outcome which was not heading in the direction I truly wanted to go and it just doesn’t sit right.

Our natural reaction tends to be that we move away from what we don’t want. Why not make a commitment to yourself and start moving towards what you do want.

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