Leading you Towards Knowing Yourself and Being an Authentic Leader

Everyday, I have the privilege of working with people who trust and confide in me, as their confidential sounding board, discussing matters that are of their highest priority. 

As a professional coach, there is an art, science and practice required to be able to hold a clear space for the client to fully show up in, and be real. This creates a safe space for deep listening to occur, so that the client can then hear, feel and sense insights with new awareness. 

Many of my clients tell me they are feeling overwhelmed from information overload. Yes, knowledge is important, yet I find that many of us have become information gatherers and not able to process this for effective application. This is where overwhelm, anxiety and comparison can kick in. In fact, everyone processes differently and it is important to get to know what works best for you so that you can effectively live and work in your zone. 

That’s why I love transformational coaching v’s transactional coaching. 

It certainly has changed my personal and professional life for the better, which is why I believe in this work at the core of my being. There is nothing more powerful than ‘real life experiences’.

This is where transformational coaching is so much more powerful in the long run. My clients always walk away knowing exactly what next steps are right for them based on where they stand now. They create momentum in trusting their own inner mentor, connecting with their natural resourcefulness.

I often hear my clients say how surprised they are about the spectrum of insights they gain inside a 60-minute coaching conversation. Due to this, they gain greater clarity with simplicity and ease. They walk away feeling a sense of ‘lightness’, knowing who they are and what their next steps are, because of these new insights. 

After a coaching session last week with the State Manager of an Engineering Organisation, I asked this question.

 “How would you describe your experience in working with me?” 

Her response was …

“What comes to mind straight away is an image. It is like hand holding your feelings because we have so many people hand holding our minds through training courses, university, corporate institutions, corporate lunches etc. We have all this stuff in our head, and the coaching is like awakening the spiritual, emotional and personal part of you. Including the core aspirations of what you want to do with your life. 

I would say that it helps to awaken that deeper part of you, and then to connect in between, in a way that you don’t have to go and live in a tee pee in the middle of the forest. You can still be a corporate jet setter with a lot more depth and awareness, and with a lot less pain physically, emotionally and spiritually.

I would also say that it is like an awakening of the self in the depth of your being – then seeing how the two (mind and body-soul) interplay – being in alignment – in harmony – rather than competing or one trying to shut down the other.”

I then asked her…

“What type of coach do you refer me as to your colleagues?”

“I have referred you mainly as a Transformation Coach – Life Transformation. 

There are times, depending on who I am speaking with, I do say you are an Executive Coach as they tend to understand this term; yet I feel that does not come close to what I experience from working with you. 

Without sounding too ‘out there’, I am going to use the word ‘Awakening’ Who you really are. Authenticity comes to mind. Leading you towards knowing yourself and actually being an authentic leader.”

I absolutely love my life’s work and especially feel humbled with the variety of subjects that arise inside of the client’s agenda. Yes, my client’s bring their own agenda to each coaching conversation so they can focus in and get the maximum results out of their allocated coaching sessions. This helps to gain clarity so that the client can get straight to the core of what’s really important and what they want to achieve inside each coaching conversation.

If you feel I am speaking to you and there is something that truly resonates with you, or you may be curious about how transformational coaching can take you from where you are now to where you want to be in your personal and professional life, please contact me directly for a consultation.http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Opening the Doors of my Inspirational Office Space

Welcome to my inspirational office space. The space I absolutely love working in with my border collie, Larry, always sitting close by. He is truly my muse.

Opening the doors to my office and sharing my vision and dreams that I have been living for many years. I absolutely love creating a life and business I love that serves my vision and values from the inside out.

I find that many business leaders, entrepreneurs, coaches and consultants come to me in the way of wanting to create a life and business that serves their vision and their values from inside out. They have a vision, a calling or something that they want to actualize.

In the busy world out there today, they tell me they are getting lost inside of all the information and knowledge gathering. They are feeling confused, frustrated and overwhelmed and getting off their path. I can certainly relate to this, as there have often been times I have realized that I have been following someone else’s vision or trying to live someone else’s values. Finding myself needing to pivot, with bucket loads of courage, to get myself back on my true path.

I believe in being ‘in your flow’. I believe in following inspired action and the only way to do that is by staying in alignment with who you truly are. Focusing on your inner vision. No one else can tell you what your inner vision is or how to go about doing that. It is paramount to allow time and space for momentum to gain naturally, for your vision to be realized.

As a coach, I am very passionate about partnering you to articulate, to verbalize and honor your calling from inside out. The real you, knows the essence of who you truly are. The strengths, gifts, talents, abilities, background, knowledge; you are ready to express and put out there into the world. 

Opening the doors of my inspriational office space. video 4.45mins

This ultimately is a part of your calling. It’s a calling that is inside and you have a knowing that you are ready to listen and bring forth. You may feel a little uncertain about your readiness. You may be feeling uncertain about the know-how or even lack of confidence in knowing where to begin.

A little bit about my background. 27 years ago I started a personal training business, when I transitioned from the corporate world as an executive assistant. I was also a world master’s champion sportswoman with a passion for mastering the zone. I wanted to really hone into living and working in my zone. I especially wanted to know how to bring my natural abilities, strengths, gifts and talents together inside a purposeful business that expressed my calling, my vision and honoring who I truly am.

This is what truly inspires me and gets me out of bed each day. If you know that you are sitting on something from inside out and you know that there is a vision – an inner calling – something that you know has transformed your life and you want to bring this out into the world, then you are reading this for a reason.

If you can relate to any of this and you are looking for someone who is not going to tell you what to do, but ultimately see you for your higher vision, your calling, your sounding board, your champion who will inspire you to bring out what it is that is inside of you; to take inspired action trusting your intuition, developing momentum and making sure you stay in alignment with your true path every step of the way; please personal message me if you would like to have a conversation about how we can work together to realize your vision.

Looking forward to hearing more about your calling and the natural creative path that you know needs to be expressed naturally. To ultimately create a life and business you love to live each day.

Lead with your Heart: Are you Getting Caught Up in your Head?

Are you following your heart each day or are you noticing yourself getting caught up in your busy head? When you practice following your heart by listening, trusting and taking the inspired actions that your heart is whispering for you to take, and you do take action; that is when you will always live a life of pure contentment and true wealth from the inside out.

My greatest learning lesson in life has been to have the courage to follow my heart and not to override my decisions through rationalising with my head. Every time I listen to what my heart is telling me to do each day, I always find myself living with much more peace, flow and contentment from the inside.

My outside world matches my inner feelings with greater results occurring right before my eyes without having to push harder and trying to strategise everything ahead of time. This is a practice that you can play with as a part of learning to trust your own gut feelings, instincts and intuition.

I started by simply getting to know what I prefer from the inside out, and you can do the same. I said the word ‘play’ because that is exactly what I did. I asked myself throughout my day “What do I prefer, this colour or that colour?” whenever seeing a certain car or dress. Even when I was exercising I would ask the same question “What do I prefer today walking or running”.

Begin to listen to your body and it’s responses; then act on it. You can then begin to trust and ask the bigger questions like “How much do I really want to charge?” or “How do I really want to set up my working day?” The key here is you must trust and take the actions.

Personal message me if you are interested in knowing more about how you can work with me. http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Powerful Benefits inside of Everyday Visioning

Having your own vision gives you more purpose and meaning to life. A vision will support you in times of doubt, especially when you face challenges and you start to question the who, what, and how you want to live your life, based on what’s most important to you. Having a vision will help you to maintain your focus and achieve your personal and professional ambitions.

When I first started my coaching business and had times of challenges and self-doubt, my own coach would always ask me to read my vision. There were times when I really did not want to do this because of the uncertainty I held on to in that moment.

What I found, however, was that reading my vision brought me back into the present and stopped the frustration and the sense of being overwhelmed. Most of all, it reminded me of what was truly important to me now. That helped me see that the challenge I was dealing with at that time was insignificant in the big scheme of my vision. In that instant, I always found a way of managing the challenge with ease.

Powerful Benefits inside of Everyday Visioning

Did you know that you already visualise every day, as you think about the daily activities that may need to be done? What happens is, you go into ‘automatic action mode’ to get through your day. The thought processes you have every moment of your day are sending messages to your brain, which then activates the body into taking an action.

All your daily actions, like eating breakfast, driving the kids to school, driving to work, reacting to traffic, choosing what to wear, going to the gym or for a walk outdoors, will always have a vision through your mind’s eye first, before you take action.

What is important about this process is that you notice what thoughts you are processing and especially the energy you attach to your thoughts. If you have a negative emotion driving your actions, then that is what you will attract. Guess what! If you have a positive enthusiastic energy behind your daily actions, then you will always attract positive experiences. As you step into your day, start noticing where you are placing your attention and practice visualising your day with enthusiasm. This will give you the confidence to create your vision beyond your everyday activities.

Everyday Visioning Tip

When you go to bed at night and your head relaxes on the pillow, consciously take some deep breaths with your eyes closed. Focus on your breathing as you begin to relax your mind, then visualise your next day the way you would like it to go – being confident at meetings, flowing through your day, asserting yourself with good energy, inspiring your team, working in the zone, communication with your family, remaining calm and relaxed etc. Allow yourself to relax into your visualisation as you fall into a peaceful sleep.

If you are ready to play a bigger and stronger game with a powerful vision, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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What’s the single most important action you can take right now towards playing a bigger and stronger game in business, leadership and life?

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High Emotional Intelligence for Next Level Success

Did you know that you will already have foundational systems in your everyday life that are working for you? The difference in growing upon your foundational success is whether you are conscious about the systems you do have that are working for you. Or are you living every moment unconsciously reacting to circumstances always looking at what is not working for you?

Foundational Success is the rock solid personal and professional systems you put in place so you have something solid to build on each and every day. Especially whenever challenges come your way, if you have your foundation set up in your whole life, then you will have a high emotional intelligence. When you have a high emotional intelligence you will stop reacting to life’s challenges and in that moment be calm enough to consciously choose your response.

Yes, you will be able to respond without reacting to the situation in front of you. Reactions to life’s challenges causes major stress and the seesaw feeling. Every action you take is a part of a system you have set up whether it be conscious or unconscious.

Start to become conscious about the systems that are already working for you and then take a look at the actions you are sporadically taking because of reactional thinking. Then decide whether there is a better way of implementing the action and if it needs to be a repetitive system for your success. In a nutshell, it is about knowing and living your standards (the things you will and won’t accept of yourself) combined with clear boundaries (the things you will and won’t accept of others) and having the courage to continually communicate these coming from love and respect for yourself and others.

Some of the many things that set you up for reactional thinking are:

  • Not setting up your day with priority actions and doing the important things first.
  • Not placing suitable time scheduling around your priorities.
  • Not living your own standards – being everything to everybody.
  • Getting into the habit of overpromising and under-delivering.
  • Holding back on clear communication – ‘playing the guessing and assuming game’.
  • Saying ‘Yes’ when you really want to say ‘No’.
  • Not setting clear defined boundaries coming from love and respect for yourself and others.
  • Not making quality time to chill out and be with your family and loved ones.
  • Not making time to do something for yourself each day that brings you joy, fun and lightness.
  • Not having a clear vision and being disorganised.
  • Living and working amongst clutter.

Here is a simple equation to remember for next level success with high emotional intelligence.

High Emotional Intelligence for Next Level Success

To capitalise on your resources, it is paramount to have high emotional intelligence. If not, then you may be sabotaging your next level success no matter how much work you put in on the outside. Begin to take stock by becoming consciously aware of your own reactions because they are an indication that you are not living your standards and you may be crossing your own boundaries and allowing others to cross them.

If your next level success is stagnant and you find yourself not standing on solid foundations with high emotional intelligence, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Powerful Success Lies in Savouring the Moment

Enjoy this analogy…

Just imagine the next time you sit down to enjoy a good cup of tea or coffee and really savouring the moment. You must be completely in the present to enjoy your cup of tea or coffee. Only when you are in the present moment can your hands feel the pleasant warmth of the cup. Only in the awareness, can you savour the aroma, taste the fullness of the flavour and really appreciate the delicacy.

If you are thinking about the past or worrying about the future, you will completely miss the experience in the moment of enjoying your cup of tea or coffee. In an instant, you will look down at your cup of tea or coffee and it will be gone.

Life is very much like that.

If you are not fully present in the moment, you will look around and wonder where it has gone. You will have missed the special feelings, wondrous moments, and the beauty of life. It will feel like life is passing you by.

The past is ‘in the past’ and finished. Learn from the experiences of the past and gracefully let it go. The future has not happened yet. Yes, it is important to plan for it, but do not waste your time in the present worrying about it. Worrying is energy zapping and worthless.

When you stop living your life protecting yourself from what has already happened in the past, when you stop worrying about what might never happen in the future, then you will be living in the present moment.  That is when you will begin to experience joy and contentment in your life.

Have you ever experienced driving to a destination and realised you arrived without awareness of the journey! Notice how often you may be pre-occupied thinking about other matters (past or future) and not concentrating on what you are doing in the present moment.

Can you imagine if you had a bank that credits your account every morning with $86,400? What a bonus that would be! Your account carries over no balance every day. Every evening the bank deletes whatever part you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course!

Every one of us has such a bank account. Its name is TIME. Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance and it allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is no drawing against tomorrow. You must live in the present on today’s deposits. Invest it wisely and get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success! The clock is running.

Make the most of today. Make the most of NOW.

“We are what we think.

All that we are

Arises with our thoughts

With our thoughts

We make the world.”

(Buddha)

Observe yourself this week and create an appropriate ‘trigger’ which will press you to pay attention to the present…this might be a ring, an ornament, deep breathing, looking up, set the alarm on your phone?

Create an Appreciation List. Each day, list in your journal those things you are grateful for having in your life. Focus on the pleasures and delights of your daily activities and the people who are with you.

Enjoy life to the fullest living in the present.

Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

Contact Annette
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  • annette@annettestanton.com