Real Engagement: Connecting with your Personal Standards

I’m sitting here in my office waiting for a client to call in and I just had a thought about a conversation I had yesterday with a client. One of the things that she noticed was her habit of reacting to circumstances and situations that were occurring with her clients. She realized that this was a habit, not just with her clients, but it was a lifelong habit. So, in other words, she felt like she was being defensive in her mind and thinking things, and making stuff up, that wasn’t true.

Now we all can easily do that, as we all have habits that do not serve us. We’ve all got thoughts going on. We are all trying to prove ourselves in some way and literally we’re exhausting ourselves. One of the things that we were able to have a discussion about was exactly that. Exploring in what way she could catch herself whenever something external occurred, a question even, not to make it about her professional standards.

One of the things that we identified also when it comes to professional standards, and yes there are legal professional standards that clients need to abide by and there’s also personal standards. Personal standards are where you know exactly what has you be your best and how you work best with your customers. This will be unique to you.

How do you find out? You’re customers will start asking you questions. You’ll start getting peeved off about something that your customer might be speaking about, doing something that irks you or rubs you up the wrong way. So this is about really tapping into how best you work and how best you communicate with your clients so that you can identify if they are the ideal clients for you.

I just want to come back to that area of personal standards. Personal standards are what you will and won’t accept of yourself. Boundaries are what you will and won’t accept of others. When you get upset about something or reacting to a situation that you are pointing the finger about, as in the case yesterday with this client who was pointing the finger towards his client, saying things like; this client was not treating me like a professional, he was questioning my professional standards etc.

The first thing is not to take it personally. I know it is easier said than done. We’re all human. We all are. But it is being able to be the observer of, and separating your personality self, whilst being inside the conversation in a neutral tone of voice. Being neutral inside your energy and vibration so that you are in alignment and not reacting. Because ultimately when you are pointing the finger, anything that is happening that you are reacting to externally, is something for you to learn about your own personal standards and your own personal boundaries.

It is then that you will be able to clearly articulate to your customers how best you work, whom you want to work with that brings out your best for the expanding vision and growth of the company.

Getting to know yourself well enough in all those areas is vital to your success and fulfillment.

  • What are your boundaries?
  • What are your personal standards?

Yes, definitely know your professional standards as well.

One of the things we noticed also inside this coaching conversation was the value of really tapping into the humanness of the client. Finding out why they got into business? What makes them tick? What is it that they’re passionate about inside of the why of their chosen business? So that you are connecting with them at a real engaging level. People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.

One of the other things my client realised was how quickly she was stepping straight into her professionalism, sharing and proving herself as to what she could do to support the client. Yes rightly so, but there’s a couple of steps before that and that’s the human connection. So connecting with the person as a human being asking them deeper exploratory questions like…

“What got them into this business in the first place?”

“Why did you choose this particular business?”

“What is your personal and professional vision?”

“What is it about your services/products that transformed their life?”

“When were you first intrigued about this service/product?”

There will be something that links the Why of that business owner to which they might have even forgotten about because they are panicking about cash flow. They may be panicking about how to get the business growing. Or possibly panicking about staff and team, and everything it takes to run a sustainable business.

We do need all of these to be functioning well. But if there’s panic going on every step of the way then you lose touch, you disconnect from who you truly are and why you got into business in the first place. Then you are not able to clearly clarify your needs when you bring the people in, whether it’s the team, the staff, the contractors, and those people that will help you when you are clear on what it is that you need.

Where I’m coming from here is from my client’s point of view and that is you’ve got to know what it is that has you tick. What are your personal standards? What are your boundaries? Why did you step into business in the first place? What are you passionate about with your own business?

This is paramount because your own energy and vibration will transfer onto the clients you want to attract. Then you will be able to easily engage as a human being with those customers, which is what I call ‘client for life’. Whether they employ you immediately or not, they will remember you on how you engaged with them at a human level.

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The Evolution of You – The Business of You

How are you going in these transitional times when it comes to yourself, noticing who am I now and who am I becoming? What is the calling that you are noticing based on who you are now and who you are becoming, in making a difference in the lives of other people, with your service based business, whatever the case might be for you?

What I’m very passionate about is coming from the evolution of myself. Noticing the many different transitional phases, the self-expression of who I truly am and that becomes the evolution of my unique business model. The expansion of my branding model is developed as I connect with the deeper inner vision, the inner voice and the inner calling.

As I express my full self-expression in action with my audiences and my clients, especially noticing a common thread between those people who are also evolving and noticing ‘Where to from here!’ for themselves. This is something that I’ve been very passionate about as far back as I can remember and I must say that it’s been quite a journey.

Creating a Life and Business You Love

So, if you are on a journey of creating a life and a business that you love, as an expression of who you truly are, then just a couple of things I would like to share with you.

First and foremost, to listen in and trust whatever is coming to and through you because this is your channel of what we’re calling your authentic voice, your authentic vision, that then becomes your authentic brand and unique business model.

Listening into that is not a vision that comes from your neck up; it is an inner vision that comes from the neck down that actually speaks to and through you throughout the day, wherever you are, whatever you’re doing. This is where you might be meditating; you might be in the gym, at the beach, walking in the park etc.

Generally it is when you’re in some form of movement, I personally find, is where I get some form of insights. It comes through my body and I’m not thinking about it. This is when you are in alignment and fully connected, listening in. Another tip I want to give you, which is one I absolutely love, is to write those insights down. I notice whatever is coming to and through me.

When you write down your insights and realisations, they become a lot more solidified, instead of having your thoughts going around and around in your head wondering what your next steps are. Every time I write whatever is going around in my head, my obvious next step always appears.

I’m Ready to Express my Life’s Work

I had a client contact me last week who was going through this very challenge. She had done a lot of personal development on herself, had a lot of life experiences, different career paths and was in that transition of knowing her time was now. “I’m ready.” “I want to set my up own business that is an expression of my life’s work.”

This is something that I have done as far back as I can remember, with all the career paths I have experienced, especially in the last 25-30 years, feeling the strong pull to listen in and trust my calling. Especially during times of uncertainty and overwhelm, to courageous trust my inner voice, especially when the voices on the outside can distract you from staying focused on your life’s work.

To take consistent action trusting your inspired next steps, even if you cannot see results on the outside yet. With a deep knowing that you are consistently feeling a sense of momentum because you are taking inspired action committed to your inner vision and inner voice. Knowing that every little step you take is a contribution in the realisation of your inspirational vision.

Articulate your Creative Self-Expression

Stay open and trust the creative channel that is coming to and through you so that you listen into your inner voice. Then notice ways to naturally articulate your creative self-expression in a way where your voice can be heard out in the world by way of a service and/or products that have transformed your life. This is what activates life to your unique authentic brand, because you’ve lived it.

There are many different areas around this subject, but the first couple of tips I want to leave you with today is trusting in going inward, listening into the inner voice, inner vision, inner calling through your channel; and writing down whatever is coming to and through you.

Notice the evolution of your authentic brand and your unique business model taking shape one jigsaw puzzle at a time. It’s putting that out bit-by-bit out into the world so that your authentic voice is being heard and you’re making a difference in the lives of other people with your life’s work.

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Are your Personal and Business Priorities Changing?

I’ve just come from a coaching session and wanted to share with you, just in case you’re in the same position, like this small business owner I was connecting with. What she found was that there was a shift in her priorities, which meant that a requirement of a shift in her business model as well.

Her personal priorities had shifted, which meant that her business priorities needed to shift. This felt very foreign for her as she was very much a high achiever, go-getter leader, with a driver personality style, with work being very much a passion for this business owner. As we had been working for some time on exploring her true core values and developing the right business model for her at the start, this has become very successful for her priorities at that time.

At this stage in her personal and business life, new lifestyle priorities have become very evident for her now wanting more of a balance in her whole life. She wanted to become successful in all areas of her life, not just business.

For her, this looked like spending quality time with her partner, she felt a new sense of wanting to spend more time in the new home she had created, and now family life has also changed for her wanting to be able to relax with those people important in her. She also wanted to make time for self-care without feeling guilty about creating time for herself.

New Evolving Business Model

We went on to discuss what her new evolving business model would look like with these areas included in her life. With further exploration as to how long she spends in her business, as in the amount of hours in the week and the new priorities she wanted to set up as her business style and her lifestyle have now changed. She also noticed she was stepping more into a leadership management role, and wanted to make sure she was being of service in the professional industry that she absolutely loved.

So, the moral of the story here is, no matter whether you are running your own business or running a major organization or working for a company, the importance of listening into your core values, and what this looks like in action, as they shift and change, when you are in transition of your personal and/or professional life.

It is paramount to know what is important to you at any given time, especially as your priorities change and ultimately you take you with you everywhere you go. Are you consciously listening into your deep knowing and trusting yourself to take those new actions consistently?

If you’re not listening into your core values, you will block them in some way that will cause some form of unease in your body. When your body is not in a state of ease and flow, it will cause some form of dis-ease. Most of the time we have disconnected and we are pushing ourselves through the day to get to the other side in order to hopefully arrive somewhere. There is nowhere to get to.

It is important to trust your intuitive knowing by listening into what is right for you, getting to explore and understand who you really are. Identifying what is important to you and the evolution of your values-based business model that works best for you now, so that you can make time for yourself and the important people in your life.

This is what this business owner is now doing – re-evaluating and exploring ways that she can create a business and a life she really loves to live each day.

Yes, it is possible. It’s one step at a time, as there is possibly the shifting of old beliefs systems, old mindset dynamics, and old cultural patterns – whatever the case might be for you. This takes time and patience with conscious practice each day.

So, check in to make sure that your business model is what’s right for you (no one else) so that you can express yourself fully, bringing your whole self and your full potential into your workplace each day.

Notice if there are changes occurring for you right now, to just notice them. Allow and surrender into who you are becoming and remember that purposeful success in an inside job. Enjoy the journey of your evolving business model connecting with who you are now becoming as you express your core values in action.

Enjoy watching my video. I hope this supports you to evolve with your personal and business priorities.

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Looking through the Magnifying Glass

One of the most common things I hear from people I coach in the first three months of their coaching journey is that they are seeing more and more areas in their professional and personal life that they feel they need to clear up – areas they were not even aware of!

This is quite normal when looking at change and wanting to transform those areas that may not be working for you. I call it ‘looking through the magnifying glass’. All of a sudden, you feel as if everything is right in your face and needs to be dealt with as soon as possible for you to move forward.

For example, you may want to spend more time with your family and doing other things important to you, yet your time is locked into your business life.

As you begin to take a closer look into what is not working in your personal and business life, you might realise you have challenges in areas like staff not taking on the roles and responsibilities you hired them for in the first place, identifying all the areas where you are crossing your own boundaries, high expectations of self and others, doing everything yourself and not asking for support, etc. No wonder your time is locked up in your professional life, giving you no space and time for flexibility and freedom.

‘The key to persistence is to focus on your vision, tune into your values and stay on your path at all times. Do not get swayed by other people’s vision and values.’

This is when it is easy for frustration; resignation and a sense of being overwhelmed can overtake your commitment. The key is to always remember that whatever you are looking at in your life is being looked at through a magnifying glass, giving the illusion that it is bigger than it really is. This occurs because when you start to focus and take action on things in your life that you would like to achieve, there will always be areas that you were not previously aware of, that also need to be managed to take you to the next step of achievement.

Coaching Tip – Gaining Clarity and Direction

Whenever I go into those feelings of frustration and being overwhelmed, one of the things that help to clarify my thoughts and focus is to get a blank sheet of paper and write down everything that is filling my head.

Try this – get it all out of your head and break it down into bite-size action pieces. This will take away the magnified illusion and will also free you from the magnified feelings.

‘Overwhelm’ and ‘frustration’ are the most common words I hear at the start of a coaching session, but after breaking down the challenges by writing them down, they quickly turn into ‘clarity’ and ‘direction’.

Staying focussed on your vision, mission and values is paramount when it comes to sustainable success as a champion leader.

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Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

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