7 Compelling Reasons why working with a Coach is Highly Beneficial

Coaching is fast becoming a recognised profession worldwide, having emerged from a range of fields and disciplines, such as sports, business, leadership and management, psychology and counselling, creative arts, financial planning and management, human growth and potential movements, interpersonal and communication skills training.

The basic philosophy of coaching is that you can have what you most want in life and achieve your potential without the struggle and ‘hard work’ of doing it all alone. Coaching also works on the principal of synergy; that the energy (ideas, focus, clarity) arising from the coach-client partnership is greater than the individual energy brought by the two individuals alone.

What is Professional Coaching?

Professional coaching is an ongoing partnership that helps clients to produce fulfilling and effective results in their professional and personal life. Through the process of coaching, clients improve their performance, deepen their learning and enhance their quality of life.

Why Does Coaching Work?

Coaching works best because of 3 unique feature :

  1. Synergy:The client and coach become a team, focussing on specific goals and needs to accomplish more than you would alone.
  2. Structure:With a coach, the client takes more action, thinks bigger and gets the job done, thanks to the accountability that the coach provides.
  3. Expertise:The coach knows how to help the client to make better decisions, set the best goals, and integrate your professional and personal life for maximum productivity.

 7 compelling reasons why working with a coach is beneficial

  • A coach provides a sounding board for new ideas and better decisions.
  • A coach gives honest feedback and unconditional support.
  • A coach will help set clear goals and help you achieve them.
  • A coach integrates your professional and personal life and makes sure that the goals are balanced for sustainable success.
  • A coach helps you gain greater clarity of vision than you can’t alone.
  • A coach focuses on the big picture – not just part of it. Coaching is holistic.
  • A coach helps make sure you are taking smart actions and being as effective as possible.

Who works with a Coach?

Leaders, Small Business Owners, Professionals, Corporate Employees, Entrepreneurs and Individuals in transition use a coach to fix, solve, create or plan something, professionally and/or personally.

What is worked on?

  • Clarifying Vision, Mission and Values of the Business
  • Business Strategic Planning
  • Management and Leadership Skills
  • Making Key Decisions and Designing Strategies
  • Systems and Organisational Strategies
  • Catching up and Getting ahead of the Business
  • Turning Around a Difficult Situation
  • Start up and Business Growth
  • Personal Planning and Work/Life Balance
  • Business and Personal Budgeting
  • Being More Effective with your Time and Resources
  • Prioritising Actions and Projects
  • Simplifying Life

 What do People use Coaching for?

The scope of what can be covered in a coaching relationship extends to almost anything in the realm of personal growth, achievement and success, including: finances; health; business; relationships; career or work; community, and; creative, emotional and spiritual expression.

For example, coaches work with clients to help them develop their management or leadership skills; to start a new business or take it to the next level; to accelerate their careers, including through enhancing their promotional possibilities; to clarify their personal vision, to pursue the vocations they’ve always dreamed of, to maintain work/life balance and to retain focus on important quality-of-life goals, or; to improve personal or professional relationships so they are more effective and fulfilling.

In circumstances where people don’t know precisely where they would like to set a goal, a coach can also assist to clarify priorities and directions and to plan with them, strategies for change and achievement.

What does a Professional Coach do?

Coaches offer a structure of regular, focussed sessions – usually ranging from once per week to once per fortnight – which lead to their client’s goals being more conscious and focused, and to increased momentum for action. Coaches are trained to listen, to observe, and to elicit from their clients, solutions and strategies to support client progress and results achievement.

A coach does not regard themselves as the expert. They believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful and it is their job to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has. The coach does not take responsibility for client action and results. Rather, a coach encourages their client to be fully responsible for their own decisions and actions, to acknowledge the importance of their personal aspirations and to encourage them to be accountable for their actions and the results they achieve.

How do I Know Who is the Best Coach for Me?

  1. Be clear on your reasons for hiring a coach. If you’re clear in what you want, prospective coaches can support your search by indicating if and how they can help you.
  1. Look for a coach you can collaboratively work and create with, not simply someone who gives you advice or who appears to be the most experienced.
  2. If you want further information, ask the coach for references from current or past clients, who are similar to yourself.

If you are looking for a professional coach to partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/or mobile 0413 949 554.

Looking for Better Ways to Manage your Time!

One of the challenges I often hear inside of coaching conversations is ‘how do I fit it all in?’ They are looking for better ways to manage their time.

Time management challenges often arise when you:

  • Over commit yourself to take actions in an underestimated time frame and with an unrealistic ‘to do list’.
  • Say ‘yes’ to everyone and everything, not wanting to let people down.
  • Do not take time out for yourself, feelings of guilt if you do have 5 minutes to spare.

There is no such thing as time management because no one can manage time. What you can manage is the choice of actions you take during your day. This is the distinction between time management and self-management.

When you manage what is most important to you, based on your values first, this will always give you space, time and energy to achieve the other important things to you.

The three most common areas we let go of when the ‘busy cycle’ appears are

  1. Exercise
  2. Quality time with loved ones
  3. Time-out for self

Imagine if you looked after all these first as a priority. Think how great you would feel with more energy and focus to take care of new habits you would like to create. I notice that whenever the higher percentage of my focus is on my business projects, my exercise routine gets pushed to one side. As soon as I become conscious about this and start to pick up the exercise routine, my business projects become more creative, with a natural flow about them.

With this awareness of what it brings me, I make sure that I maintain an exercise routine that suits me, my schedule, quality time with loved ones and make time for my self-care. I am a much better person to be around when I do this and life seems to flow with ease.

The 3 Steps to Self Management: Breaking it down

  • Personal Foundations
  • Business Foundations
  • Time Out for Self

Planning your time is often a combination of tasks scheduled in your diary and a to-do list for you to get around to when you have spare time. The more you can schedule the most important things, as well as your daily tasks, into your diary, with a time and date set against each one, the more likely it is that you’ll achieve them.

A big tip is to leave plenty of white space scheduled in your diary, to manage the unexpected, or things you may have forgotten about in your day. This is normally a challenge for most people, as you are trying to fit so much into your day and invariably wonder how you can ever leave ‘white space’ in between scheduling.

“My challenge to you is to ‘give it a go’ for at least 30 days
and notice what happens. Do the important things first aligning
your actions with your vision and values.”

Every Friday afternoon I sit down with my weekly schedule list and place every activity into my diary against an allocated time. This also includes the inspired action steps for my committed goals. Create your own self-management plan by filling out the weekly schedule below, using the 3 breakdown steps.

Personal Foundations covers all areas that are important to you for developing a healthy and happy foundation, e.g. quality time in relationships, exercise, shopping, family time etc.

Business Foundations covers all roles and responsibilities, required to be completed on a weekly and monthly basis, e.g. weekly meetings, accounts, client contact calls etc.

Time Out for Self covers what is important to you based on personal development and time-out for yourself to recharge your batteries, e.g. reading personal and professional development books, meditation, journal writing etc.

Coaching Challenge

Write down where you are currently spending your time. Then make a list of the things you always say you would like to be doing that you don’t get around to. It could be something that you have always wanted to Be, Do or Have, e.g. learn to dance, more time with family, socialise with friends, begin a sustainable exercise program you enjoy.

Fill out your weekly schedule, including all the areas in your life where you spend your time and what you would like to spend more time doing. Then place these in your diary with an allocated time and date. All you need to do is follow your diary knowing that every action you take is in direct alignment with your vision and values.

Remember to leave plenty of white space for creativity and spontaneity.

If you are looking for a professional coach as your sounding board to clarify your direction and partner you in realizing your vision and goals faster than what you would on your own, contact me to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring and Consulting – What’s the Difference?

I often get asked about the difference between coaching, counselling, mentoring and consulting.  While the communication skills used by these professions are similar – such as asking questions, active listening, summarising, etc., they are very different methods, and it depends on what the client needs.

Here are some distinctions:

Coaching
According to the International Coach Federation, coaching is defined as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential.” The coach is the subject matter expert at coaching, not necessarily the subject matter expert of the client’s coaching topic.

Counselling
Counselors are trained to diagnose and help the client with emotional problems, the past or dysfunction while coaches are not. The coach’s domain is future-oriented – what does the client want? And then coaching the client to get there.

Mentoring
A mentor is a wise and trusted guide and advisor. The mentor is the teacher that shares their experience while bringing the “mentee” up the ranks.  A coach is not necessarily the subject matter expert in order to help develop the client.

Consulting
A consultant is an expert who is called on for professional or technical advice or opinions. They are relied on to understand the problem and present solutions. Consulting is unlike coaching because, with pure coaching, the answers come from the client.

What are your thoughts about these distinctions?

When seeking a professional, it is important to know what your requirements are so that you can choose the right professional at the right time.

Coaching, Counselling, Mentoring & Consulting

According to the founder of CoachU, Thomas Leonard:

A Coach is…

  • Your partner in achieving professional and personal goals;
  • Your champion during a turnaround;
  • Your trainer in communication and life skills;
  • Your sounding board when making choices;
  • Your motivator when strong actions called for;
  • Your unconditional support when you take a hit;
  • Your mentor in personal development;
  • Your co-design when developing an extraordinary project
  • Your beacon during stormy times;
  • Your wake-up call if you don’t hear your own, and most importantly;
  • Your coach is your partner in living the life you know you’re ready for, personally and professionally.”

The Art & Science of Coaching

I am very passionate about coaching because since having a Master Coach in my corner over the past 17 years, the power of transformational coaching has delivered exactly that in my life – it has transformed my personal and professional life. This is what strongly supported my decision to become a professional coach studying the true art and science of advanced coaching.

If you are wanting to close the gap from where you are now to achieve next level success with a professional accredited coach, contact me to book in for a 20 minute introductory to coaching conversation to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Live a Stress Less Life

In your busy daily life, it is very important to make time for some form of relaxation. This can help to reduce the effects of stress on your body and your mind. If you take on the practice of daily relaxation, you will feel much more in control of your life. Relaxation involves both the body and the mind. To work on one is to work on the other. Even if you choose to take 10 deep conscious breaths every day as your form of relaxation, then that is better than doing nothing at all.

Relaxation does not mean being lazy. It plays an important role in the rejuvenation of your body and quietening of the mind. Taking time out for yourself may be a challenge for you. You might feel a sense of guilt about it. This is normal, especially if you are not yet practised in doing things just for you. You might even find that the challenge is in ‘being’ with yourself, especially if you are the type of person who continually needs to be ‘doing’ things with others or for others and the thought of being alone is not inviting. It does take practice and the more you do your chosen form of relaxation, the more you will want to spend time with yourself.

The benefits of daily relaxation go beyond the obvious one of reducing stress. You will also gain clarity of mind, your creativity and intuition will unfold, you will deal with challenges with much more inner peace, you will have more energy . . . the list goes on.

Live a Stress Life

 

Simple Relaxation Techniques

After many years of practising different quick and easy forms of relaxation, I would like to share with you some of the ones that have helped me to maintain a stress less life.

Mirror Work

Look into your eyes in the mirror every day for 1-2 minutes. Connect with yourself by staying focused on your eyes. Notice how you might want to judge yourself and your facial features. Let it go and keep coming back to your eyes. Take deep breaths whilst looking into your eyes and connecting with yourself. If you hear any negative head talk during this process, write it down after your 1-2 minutes is up and create positive affirmations from your negative head talk. This is your subconscious coming to the forefront, indicating beliefs that you may need to work on.

Conscious Breathing

Sit in an upright position or lie down. Close your eyes if you wish. Concentrate on your breathing, in through your nose and releasing the breath out through your mouth. Say in your head: “I’m breathing in . . . I’m breathing out . . .” as you stay focused on your breath. This will slow down your mind and reduce feelings of anxiety. Conscious breathing is beneficial if you are lying in bed and feeling restless. This will help you to relax for a better sleep. Try it.

Nostril Breathing

Place the thumb of your right hand over your right nostril. Take a deep breath in through the left nostril. Place the right index finger over the left nostril and release the breath out of the right nostril. Repeat this 5 times using your right hand, and then repeat the same process using your left hand. Notice how quickly any anxious feelings dissipate.

Open Eye Candle Meditation

Light your favourite candle and place it on a table in front of you. Place yourself in a comfortable sitting position with your back upright. Gaze into the flame of the candle. Take slow, long deep breaths as you hold a soft gaze on the flame. Notice the calm and serene feelings that pour through your body. Stay with the gaze from 5 minutes to 20 minutes or more if you desire.

Walking in Nature

When you are enjoying your daily walk out in the beautiful sunshine, practice being 100% present to nature. Let any thoughts drift through the mind and focus on the trees, the roses in the garden, all the nature surrounding you. Every step you take, be conscious and feel your body moving. Look into the sky and feel the expansion of your chest as you take in the next breath. The miracle of nature mirrors the growth of you. Just as through nurturing, a seed grows, so through nurturing yourself, you will flourish. Say your positive affirmations while you are walking and notice how tall you feel.

If you sick and tired of continually running on empty, feeling drained in your energy levels and this is affecting your productivity and efficiency at work with no energy left for yourself at the end of the day, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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What’s the single most important action you can take right now towards creating a reserve of energy levels each day?

Achieve your Goals: Inspired Action Planning gains Clarity

How often have you felt a gap between where you are now in life and what you truly want to be, do and have? I do not know how many times I would set a goal and get so excited about achieving it – that feeling of, “Yes, it’s definitely going to be real this time around, I’ve made up my mind!” Then slowly I noticed the excitement fading into uncertainty and frustration. Can you relate to this?

One of the crucial keys to achieving your goals is to have an action plan detailing how you are going to close the gap and make your goal a reality.

I have always been goal orientated, right from my sporting career days, with the goal being to compete in the next championships or achieve the best player for the season. At the start of each pre-season, I would make up a plan of how I was going to achieve this, what type of training was required from pre-season, through to maintaining my seasonal fitness and post-season.

Years later, I realised that I had only ever put a plan together to achieve my sporting goals. What about my personal, business career, relationships and every other area of my life? Maybe that is why those areas were the most challenging parts of my life. They were also the most rewarding learning lessons that I love coaching people in today.

I soon realised that if I could use this process in my sporting career, I could apply the same practice to my whole life. I was so excited about this new insight I had gained for myself. As soon as I made a step-by-step plan of how I was going to achieve goals in all areas, I felt I had more control of my life, and could move forward with greater balance.

I remember years ago I wrote out my goals on a sheet of paper and stuck it in the filing cabinet, never looking at it until the next time I cleaned the cabinet out. To my surprise, I found that most goals were still achieved. It was then that I realised that if I had a step-by-step plan of action towards achieving these goals, I would consciously and purposefully achieve them.

A common question I hear from clients is ”Where do I begin to achieve my goals?” Are you the sort of person who has goals, who may even read your goals regularly, but wonder why you are not achieving them? Well, do you have a plan? Without a plan, a goal will feel like a distant hopeful wish. You will stay on track much more easily with a step-by-step plan, however, small the steps. I believe in taking little steps and building momentum from there.

Achieve your Goals: Inspired Action Planning gains Clarity

 

There are 6 Steps to Inspired Action Planning

  • What is your Goal?
  • Why do you want to achieve this Goal?
  • When do you want to achieve this Goal by?
  • Who are your Resources – the people who can support you in achieving your Goal?
  • How? These are the action steps you currently know you want to take to achieve your Goal.
  • How will you celebrate when you have achieved your Goal?

Enjoy planning your inspirational stepping-stones to achieving your goals.

If you know it is time to step up and play a bigger and stronger game that truly inspires you, your team, your family etc., contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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What’s the single most important action you can take right now towards achieving your goals?

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The Game Changer: Change your Life with Powerful Statements

Yes, you can change your life. I know this is a very profound statement and I say it because I have done it myself. Until I was about 30 years old, I was so shy that I hardly ever spoke, and I lived a lot of my life in my head. My only self-expression was through my physical body, as an excellent sportswoman.

I started to wonder why I could express myself naturally as a sportswoman, but not in my personal and professional life. This was a challenge to me because at that time I spent a lot of my life worrying about my past (which I could not do anything about) or thinking about the future (which had not even occurred yet).

As I observed myself in my sporting arena, what stood out the most was that I had to respond to the plays spontaneously in the moment, otherwise the opportunity was lost. That was my breakthrough! I was 100% present in the moment on and off the field as the captain coach, leading the team and holding on to the higher purpose of the game. Obviously, I had trained my level of fitness and skills to respond quickly.

My greatest challenge in my personal and professional life was living in the present moment. Once I started to practise being present, I began to hear my predominantly negative self-statements, which were obviously based on my fears of all the ‘what ifs’ (which, by the way, never happened). What a waste of energy and time in my life that was!

I decided it was time to get serious about this positive self-statement stuff! I admit I was still a little apprehensive about affirmations because I had attempted to do them a few years before, without success. Now I realise that I had always done them in a very reactive state when I either felt negative or frustrated – and that I’d soon given up, wondering why affirmations never worked for me.

Once I began to do my affirmations more effectively, I had to keep saying them, as the conscious mind will only take on the thoughts and words you consistently tell yourself. This will eventually become a part of who you are naturally, as a new – and rewarding – habit.

I will take you through the steps I took that helped me make the changes. To get the maximum from my experience, why not go through the steps with me now? I have used the true-life example of developing my self-confidence in my personal and professional life.

The Game Changer: Change your Life with Powerful Statements

Step 1

I wrote down the negative head talk and became conscious of what I was automatically saying to myself, about others and myself.

e.g. “I am not confident” . . .  “I wish I looked and acted confidently like her or him”  . . . “I am not very good at . . .”

Step 2

Then I changed the wording of those negative self-statements into positive present tense affirmations and wrote them on palm cards to keep in the office, car, fridge etc. as a reminder.

e.g.

I am confident

I act confidently

I am great at . . . 

Step 3

I chose to say the affirmations as many times as possible during my day no matter what. I said them with feeling, emotion and belief, as though I had already achieved them.

Tip:

Choose a maximum of three affirmations to say each time. If you do not feel comfortable with the affirmation, you may need to change the wording to suit you. Keep saying your chosen affirmations until you feel you own them and your life begins to show up that way.

Step 4

I asked myself, “Who do I need to become to achieve this?” Then I made a list of what confident people do, how they act, what they wear, how they walk. I started taking on all those actions, like walking tall down the street looking people in the eyes, smiling and acting confidently (yes, fake it until you make it – definitely works), speaking to people even when I felt nervous.

 

With daily commitment in practising to be confident, I built a new habit, which changed my life, and I naturally became confident. The new me went from being a shy person to becoming a public speaker, moving interstate and developing my first business, stepping out of my comfort zone and participating in adventurous events such as jumping out of a plane skydiving, just to mention a few.

I cannot tell you how long or short a time it took because there was no line to cross over that marked the difference between ‘shy’ and ‘confident’. I remember one day just noticing how confident I now was and it felt so natural and humbling.

We are all made up of our habits. I decided to make being confident a new habit, purely by taking on new behaviours and acting out ‘confidence’ until it was a part of who I naturally am today. If I can do it, I know you can too. Think about what habit you would like to change and start taking on the new actions until they are a part of who you are. Does a little part of my shyness still pop up in my life every so often? Yes! Of course, it does and in that moment I remind myself that I am not committed to being that way.

Who are you committed to being in your life? Become the game changer today!

If you know it is time to change your game in life and become the person you know you truly want to be, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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How Iain’s 3am Wake Up Call gained Clarity of a New Business Model

Coaching Behind Closed Doors – Success Journey

Iain enjoyed his work but knew he wanted to take it to the next level of success. After having a tree change he really wanted to contribute and do more with the community in the South West of Western Australia business region.

Looking for ways to move his business forward, Iain felt something was missing and in playing the game in his head – he had a very focused product and message.

He recognised he was stuck within his expertise and knowledge, which certainly served him in the corporate industry, yet the market demand had changed. He quickly realised that he needed to change his business model.

As an expert with many degrees, Iain has an abundance of knowledge, experiences, wisdom and life lessons, and wanted to make sure that he did not put himself in a box. He wanted to have the freedom to package his products and services with flexibility and uniqueness, whilst developing his new business model.

Inside our coaching conversations, we explored Iain’s lifeline and could see clearly what made his services unique and why.

He started listening to what others were telling him they needed. He noticed there was a common thread, which linked to his expertise and matched his values of contributing to the southwest business community.

He was then able to package his knowledge and uniqueness making it available to meet the demand.

Iain often woke up at 3am, tossing and turning trying to get back to sleep. Yet on this particular evening, his 3am wake up call was very different giving him clarity on his purposeful vision and mission.

Watch the video interview with Iain Massey, CEO, Upland Consulting as he shares about his 3am wake up call and his journey from business uncertainty to clear and decisive business purpose and making a difference.

 

 

Iain’s 3am Wake-Up Call

Iain had a clear sense that he had come to the end of the line and had to start something new and/or do business differently.  This 3am wake up call was different to others he had in the past because he felt a strong force to get up and take action immediately listening to and trusting his gut. He was able to capture clearly after doing further research online which confirmed his hunch and what the business community were telling him they needed.

As Iain’s coach, I challenged him to think very deeply about who he was, what he has to offer, what he believed in and what he wanted to do in business. This is what supported Iain’s 3am wake up call to be so insightful and for him to get up and take immediate action.

This was the turning point as he then repositioned his business model, which is how he positioned all his strengths, knowledge and experiences as the Business Growth Specialist.

Iain gained clarity in defining his uniqueness from the ‘insight out’ making sure he was not put in a box as he had so much knowledge, wisdom, experiences and strengths to offer the business world.

Today, Iain is known as the Business Growth Specialist throughout the business community in Perth and in the south west region who offers regular speaking presentations, facilitation of mastermind groups called ‘Peer Magic’, one on one consulting. Helping businesses from the micro to those who have, or need, boards of directors. He is passionate about helping business owners achieve their dreams. Also known as the Board Bloke for his work with boards and advisory boards. He offers programs for small businesses, family businesses and not-for-profits.

What makes Annette’s coaching style unique and why Iain decided to hire me as his coach?

  1. Right from our initial conversation, trust and rapport was built with no awkwardness.
  2. He identified that he wanted to be working with someone who knew the gender issues because his working world was too masculine in the past.
  3. He knew from the start he wanted my strong intuitiveness because he knew he had gone as far as he could with rationality.
  4. Due to my strong intuitiveness, I cottoned on to things quickly – spoken or unspoken!
  5. He knew he wanted someone who had processes, training and skills for that rapid journey.

This is why Iain signed up for the premium weekly coaching package because he wanted change fast and that meant he had to depend on me to come along the journey quickly as well. He received exactly what he signed up for and much more. 

What tips would you give to someone who wants next level success?

You can’t do it yourself. To shift the mindset that you need to be able to do it on your own. Don’t fall into that assumption.

Hiring a coach, it’s a very ‘high trust’ relationship – make sure it is someone that you can freely open up with. To be able to discuss your hopes, fears, inhibitions and blockages, have made the difference because I could open up freely with me.

Of the things that were worrying me and the things I wanted to change 8 or 9 months ago, virtually none of those are bugging me now. I still have issues in my business, but so much has shifted and so much stuff has got out of my own way, especially in my mindset; I’m facing different and much more fun issues in my business nowadays.

Iain has been able to identify what makes him unique and to define his purpose – he is now having more fun living his legacy knowing that he is ‘making a difference’.

If you are ready to take yourself and your career/business path to the next level of success, then please give me a call to discuss your requirements on 0413 949 554 or (08) 9437 4820 or visit www.annettestanton.com.

Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

Contact Annette
  • +61 8 9437 4820
  • annette@annettestanton.com