Mindful Living: Connecting with your Authentic Self

Most people live life purely in the physical body pushing and driving their actions every day feeling exhausted hoping they will achieve their vision and goals.

Whilst this is happening, they allow their mind to be scattered on everything that either needs to be done, or what they truly would rather be doing, or what hasn’t been done yet. In other words, your thoughts are all over the place causing you to easily lose focus and energy (as well as the illusion that you do not have enough time) with life passing by, not living in the present moment at all. 

Generally, your real self doesn’t get a look in at all because your body and mind are flat out running the show and way too busy to hear what your inner voice is trying to tell you. Not ever giving you a chance to feel what your body is guiding you to do, which is always giving you your right actions to take.

Your Body   – the physical actions in alignment with your values
Your Mind  
 – directs your thinking to support your vision
Your Spirit 
 – the heart of who you are and how you want to live your life

All 3 areas are important for you to live a fulfilling life as your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking
inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

 Most of the time you will hear yourself saying things like, “I’m too busy”, or “I don’t have enough time for that”, or “I wish I could do this”, or “I need a break from all of this”.

There is a total disconnection from your true self that is screaming at you to listen. Then you may go on a holiday hoping to release the pressure valve for a while, and then what do you do when you return from holidays? Yes, that’s right, you find yourself jumping right back on the busy cycle without changing your priorities.

It takes a conscious reminder to tune into what your spirit is screaming at your to make time for, which is normally indicating for you to set up new systems, habits and routines to maintain your natural energy flow for you to live your full potential.

3 easy steps to connect with your body – mind – spirit each day.

  1. Take a deep breathe and focus on your breath – this will help to slow your mind down.
  2. Tune into what your heart (spirit) is telling you are your most inspired actions today in alignment with your vision and values.
  3. Take physical action (body) in accordance with what your spirit is telling you.

By practicing tuning into your most powerful guidance from your spirit every day, it will always guide you to take inspired action towards fulfilling your highest vision and values. Yes, this takes conscious practice on a daily basis with your ‘to do list’ running your life. It takes time for you to connect and trust your real voice because of all the voices in your head overclouding your clarity. Be patient with yourself with plenty of self-care as you practice getting to know your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

If you are ready to connect with your authentic self, taking inspired action in alignment with your vision and values, contact me today to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Live a Stress Less Life

In your busy daily life, it is very important to make time for some form of relaxation. This can help to reduce the effects of stress on your body and your mind. If you take on the practice of daily relaxation, you will feel much more in control of your life. Relaxation involves both the body and the mind. To work on one is to work on the other. Even if you choose to take 10 deep conscious breaths every day as your form of relaxation, then that is better than doing nothing at all.

Relaxation does not mean being lazy. It plays an important role in the rejuvenation of your body and quietening of the mind. Taking time out for yourself may be a challenge for you. You might feel a sense of guilt about it. This is normal, especially if you are not yet practised in doing things just for you. You might even find that the challenge is in ‘being’ with yourself, especially if you are the type of person who continually needs to be ‘doing’ things with others or for others and the thought of being alone is not inviting. It does take practice and the more you do your chosen form of relaxation, the more you will want to spend time with yourself.

The benefits of daily relaxation go beyond the obvious one of reducing stress. You will also gain clarity of mind, your creativity and intuition will unfold, you will deal with challenges with much more inner peace, you will have more energy . . . the list goes on.

Live a Stress Life

 

Simple Relaxation Techniques

After many years of practising different quick and easy forms of relaxation, I would like to share with you some of the ones that have helped me to maintain a stress less life.

Mirror Work

Look into your eyes in the mirror every day for 1-2 minutes. Connect with yourself by staying focused on your eyes. Notice how you might want to judge yourself and your facial features. Let it go and keep coming back to your eyes. Take deep breaths whilst looking into your eyes and connecting with yourself. If you hear any negative head talk during this process, write it down after your 1-2 minutes is up and create positive affirmations from your negative head talk. This is your subconscious coming to the forefront, indicating beliefs that you may need to work on.

Conscious Breathing

Sit in an upright position or lie down. Close your eyes if you wish. Concentrate on your breathing, in through your nose and releasing the breath out through your mouth. Say in your head: “I’m breathing in . . . I’m breathing out . . .” as you stay focused on your breath. This will slow down your mind and reduce feelings of anxiety. Conscious breathing is beneficial if you are lying in bed and feeling restless. This will help you to relax for a better sleep. Try it.

Nostril Breathing

Place the thumb of your right hand over your right nostril. Take a deep breath in through the left nostril. Place the right index finger over the left nostril and release the breath out of the right nostril. Repeat this 5 times using your right hand, and then repeat the same process using your left hand. Notice how quickly any anxious feelings dissipate.

Open Eye Candle Meditation

Light your favourite candle and place it on a table in front of you. Place yourself in a comfortable sitting position with your back upright. Gaze into the flame of the candle. Take slow, long deep breaths as you hold a soft gaze on the flame. Notice the calm and serene feelings that pour through your body. Stay with the gaze from 5 minutes to 20 minutes or more if you desire.

Walking in Nature

When you are enjoying your daily walk out in the beautiful sunshine, practice being 100% present to nature. Let any thoughts drift through the mind and focus on the trees, the roses in the garden, all the nature surrounding you. Every step you take, be conscious and feel your body moving. Look into the sky and feel the expansion of your chest as you take in the next breath. The miracle of nature mirrors the growth of you. Just as through nurturing, a seed grows, so through nurturing yourself, you will flourish. Say your positive affirmations while you are walking and notice how tall you feel.

If you sick and tired of continually running on empty, feeling drained in your energy levels and this is affecting your productivity and efficiency at work with no energy left for yourself at the end of the day, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Strong Foundations: Never Underestimate the Basics

How much time do you waste looking for things and you just can’t seem to find stuff when you need it?

How often do you find yourself losing focus and energy because you keep thinking that you must get around to fixing or changing this or that?

How often do you feel frustrated when all you want to do is make more time for yourself and your family?

Melissa is a business owner who came to me for coaching because she wanted to increase her profits and her client attraction. She expressed her feelings of overwhelm and frustration because she wanted to get more organised inside her business and found herself not being very productive at all – in fact, she felt like she was wasting a lot of her time, energy and money.

One of the first places Melissa started was in cleaning up her environment. This meant clearing all the clutter in her office, home, car etc. I explained to Melissa that ‘anything that is not organised – will always organise her’. She told me that she could relate to this because she felt like all her time was being chewed up with unproductive patterns and she did not want another year to go by without making time to work on her business instead of getting stuck inside the day to day putting out of fires.

At Melissa’s next coaching session she was a new person. Much more relaxed, confident and enthusiastic about her business. She has now found time to do things that she had been putting off for years just by clearing the clutter and making space in her life. Melissa found that by organising her time, she miraculously found more time in her life to choose. A big one for Melissa was to spend more time with her children and has now put systems in place that work for her lifestyle and business style.

Melissa recognised that because she was so used to working and living inside of clutter, she had never experienced the difference before. She is also noticing how much more present she is when at home as she did not realise just how much of her time was caught up with not really be there. She was physically there – but not emotionally because her mind was always on work. Melissa is now living her life fully and loving her new founded lifestyle and business style.

Melissa admitted to me that she was sceptical about the effects of decluttering and most thankful that she took the actions because she had no idea that it would give her all of what she has now gained in her whole life.

If you want success in your life and business, then get started and clear the clutter. Give this gift to yourself; just like Melissa did by spending the time to declutter every area of your life – home, office, car, computer, garage, cupboards etc. and you will be amazed at your results.

Strong Foundations: Never Underestimate the Basics

Ways to get started:

  1. Plan your time to declutter (yes stick it in your diary as an appointment). Make this time a priority and be realistic as it may take a few days or even longer.
  2. Break it down into chunks. Write down your areas to declutter and choose one area at a time. Choose the highest energy and time drains first.
  3. Choose what you are going to do with your clutter. Sell it or have a garage sale. Give it away to a friend or someone in need. Place it in a gift box if it is something you have never used and wrap it for a friend.
  4. Clear out your computer. Use the 3 D Motto – Do it – Delegate it – Dump it. Make sure you do a back up first.
  5. Keep up-to-date. Book in your declutter time ahead each year and place it in your diary.

A Final Thought:

Never underestimate the basics. It is the simple task of decluttering that will support you to achieve what you want in your life and business success.  This is the very thing that will give you more time and more energy to free you up to do the important things that will help you to live your whole life with ease, flow and clarity.

Busy Work Life: Is Your Health and Energy Suffering?

Your health and physical energy is always a great guidance for you to see whether you are doing the important things that feed positive energy into your mind, body and soul. If you are feeling low in energy or feeling your health is suffering, then take a good look at what you are promising to do in your day and create plenty of space for yourself to breath, reflect and change your approach.

I have had many people come to me for coaching who are feeling low in energy and concerned about their health. They noticed how much they pushed themselves in their working life, so much so, that they did not make quality time to be with their family, never made time for themselves and very much concerned about their own health.

The truth is that they really do not want to have this year be the same as last year and their commitment is to work on 3 main areas to make these changes.

Busy Work Life: Is Your Health and Energy Suffering?

  1. Simple exercise and relaxation techniques that work for each individual because we all enjoy different forms of exercise. So be careful not to think you ‘should be’ doing a form of exercise based on what others have said to do or what you did 20 years ago. You have changed and it is important to listen to what your body is telling you to do today.

Most of you may know that my background is as a national sportswoman and being a high achiever, I learned about this the hard way – exercise today is a breeze and I listen to what my body needs. My past career was as a personal trainer and the most common thing I heard from people I worked with was that they felt like they had to ‘work hard’ to get results. This is not the truth. It is all about consistency and doing what you enjoy so that it becomes a natural way of life – not a yo-yo situation – take away all the push, relax and enjoy the process as a way of life. Think of it as your commitment to having a healthy lifestyle for life.

  1. The other area we are working on is how to set your day up for success by ‘under-promising and over delivering’. A great tip on setting your day up is to set it up the night before by acknowledging what you did get done during that day, and then choose 3-5 highest priority actions and set these up in the next day’s diary. Add plenty of white space inside your diary for the unexpected. Place lunch breaks in your diary and get away from the office to clear your mind and rejuvenate your batteries for the afternoon.

Now, this is the most important part – take a look at your diary and notice whether you feel heavy and stressed or light and accomplishable. If you feel heavy when looking at your day’s diary set up, then you will definitely set your day up to fail, even before it has begun. Let’s take away the stress by setting up realistic time frames that work for you. Stop trying to push through and collapsing at the end of the day hanging out for that release of some kind.

Then visualise your day exactly the way you would like it to go based on what you have placed in your diary and see yourself going home with plenty of energy to do those things you want to do with your family, time for yourself, exercise etc.

  1. Set up quality time with your family, children, pets, whoever is important to you on a daily basis and ‘be present’ with them. Also, put this time in your diary and do not let yourself down and the people most important in your life.

Become the designer of your life and business success. Keep it super simple as you set up consistent foundations as your daily practice for sustainable energy and vitality.

If your productivity and performance levels are being hindered due to your lack of energy and vitality, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Powerful Success Lies in Savouring the Moment

Enjoy this analogy…

Just imagine the next time you sit down to enjoy a good cup of tea or coffee and really savouring the moment. You must be completely in the present to enjoy your cup of tea or coffee. Only when you are in the present moment can your hands feel the pleasant warmth of the cup. Only in the awareness, can you savour the aroma, taste the fullness of the flavour and really appreciate the delicacy.

If you are thinking about the past or worrying about the future, you will completely miss the experience in the moment of enjoying your cup of tea or coffee. In an instant, you will look down at your cup of tea or coffee and it will be gone.

Life is very much like that.

If you are not fully present in the moment, you will look around and wonder where it has gone. You will have missed the special feelings, wondrous moments, and the beauty of life. It will feel like life is passing you by.

The past is ‘in the past’ and finished. Learn from the experiences of the past and gracefully let it go. The future has not happened yet. Yes, it is important to plan for it, but do not waste your time in the present worrying about it. Worrying is energy zapping and worthless.

When you stop living your life protecting yourself from what has already happened in the past, when you stop worrying about what might never happen in the future, then you will be living in the present moment.  That is when you will begin to experience joy and contentment in your life.

Have you ever experienced driving to a destination and realised you arrived without awareness of the journey! Notice how often you may be pre-occupied thinking about other matters (past or future) and not concentrating on what you are doing in the present moment.

Can you imagine if you had a bank that credits your account every morning with $86,400? What a bonus that would be! Your account carries over no balance every day. Every evening the bank deletes whatever part you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course!

Every one of us has such a bank account. Its name is TIME. Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance and it allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is no drawing against tomorrow. You must live in the present on today’s deposits. Invest it wisely and get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success! The clock is running.

Make the most of today. Make the most of NOW.

“We are what we think.

All that we are

Arises with our thoughts

With our thoughts

We make the world.”

(Buddha)

Observe yourself this week and create an appropriate ‘trigger’ which will press you to pay attention to the present…this might be a ring, an ornament, deep breathing, looking up, set the alarm on your phone?

Create an Appreciation List. Each day, list in your journal those things you are grateful for having in your life. Focus on the pleasures and delights of your daily activities and the people who are with you.

Enjoy life to the fullest living in the present.

Annette Stanton

“I see a world where leaders are being called to step up and out - to lead from their authentic self with greater connection.

My mission is to activate revolutionary leadership across the globe where leaders are living their highest vision and purposeful mission every day.”

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