Mindful Living: Connecting with your Authentic Self

Most people live life purely in the physical body pushing and driving their actions every day feeling exhausted hoping they will achieve their vision and goals.

Whilst this is happening, they allow their mind to be scattered on everything that either needs to be done, or what they truly would rather be doing, or what hasn’t been done yet. In other words, your thoughts are all over the place causing you to easily lose focus and energy (as well as the illusion that you do not have enough time) with life passing by, not living in the present moment at all. 

Generally, your real self doesn’t get a look in at all because your body and mind are flat out running the show and way too busy to hear what your inner voice is trying to tell you. Not ever giving you a chance to feel what your body is guiding you to do, which is always giving you your right actions to take.

Your Body   – the physical actions in alignment with your values
Your Mind  
 – directs your thinking to support your vision
Your Spirit 
 – the heart of who you are and how you want to live your life

All 3 areas are important for you to live a fulfilling life as your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking
inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

 Most of the time you will hear yourself saying things like, “I’m too busy”, or “I don’t have enough time for that”, or “I wish I could do this”, or “I need a break from all of this”.

There is a total disconnection from your true self that is screaming at you to listen. Then you may go on a holiday hoping to release the pressure valve for a while, and then what do you do when you return from holidays? Yes, that’s right, you find yourself jumping right back on the busy cycle without changing your priorities.

It takes a conscious reminder to tune into what your spirit is screaming at your to make time for, which is normally indicating for you to set up new systems, habits and routines to maintain your natural energy flow for you to live your full potential.

3 easy steps to connect with your body – mind – spirit each day.

  1. Take a deep breathe and focus on your breath – this will help to slow your mind down.
  2. Tune into what your heart (spirit) is telling you are your most inspired actions today in alignment with your vision and values.
  3. Take physical action (body) in accordance with what your spirit is telling you.

By practicing tuning into your most powerful guidance from your spirit every day, it will always guide you to take inspired action towards fulfilling your highest vision and values. Yes, this takes conscious practice on a daily basis with your ‘to do list’ running your life. It takes time for you to connect and trust your real voice because of all the voices in your head overclouding your clarity. Be patient with yourself with plenty of self-care as you practice getting to know your authentic self.

It takes courage to trust yourself, consistently taking inspired action in alignment with your authentic self.

If you are ready to connect with your authentic self, taking inspired action in alignment with your vision and values, contact me today to discuss your requirements http://annettestanton.com/contact/

Improve your Focus with The Power of Intention

This subject is very close to my heart. I remember having a vision many years ago about how I would like my life to look and actually wrote it down. At the time it seemed like a dream that was ‘out there’ and that very familiar feeling of… ‘That would be the life’ with a deep sigh of someday…one day…maybe!

After many years of trusting my vision, writing it down regularly and taking consistent action steps – I am actually living that life now with a physical, financial, emotional and spiritual balance. I’m not talking about the million dollars – nor the material things (yes that is a big part of creating a reserve for yourself), I’m talking about what’s really

Important to you now and living a life based on your true values.

Normally, these are the conversations that sound something like this….

“When I have….., then I will do that….” or

“I wish I had enough time to do….” or

“I must get around to doing that….”

Fill in the gaps based on what is important to you.

By taking time-out for yourself to write down what it is you truly want to bring into your life, this will support you in maintaining a clear vision and keep you focused on where you are now and where you plan to go.

Another very important thing I learnt about this was to also acknowledge myself along the way, as I noticed how I kept extending the ‘goal posts’ every time I was about to achieve my goal. This made me feel like I was not getting anywhere, when actually I was. Notice whether this may be a pattern you have seen in your life and take some time now to acknowledge yourself!

Improve your Focus with The Power of Intention

The ‘power of intention’ is designed to look at what you want as a specific outcome.

Take a look at the examples below…

Example    – Prior to going into your next meeting – (choose your intention)….

That all staff members be clear about the actions required to successfully complete the project.

Example    – When picking up the children from school (choose your intention)…

I will listen and be totally present with my children sharing their excitement.

Example    – After a busy day at the office  – (choose your intention)…

I will take time-out for me and go to the gym.

I don’t know about you, but what I found when I did not think about what my intention was 99.9% of the time I generally found myself in the middle of an outcome which was not heading in the direction I truly wanted to go and it just doesn’t sit right.

Our natural reaction tends to be that we move away from what we don’t want. Why not make a commitment to yourself and start moving towards what you do want.

Transform your Life and Business to New Heights

Are you interested, or even curious, about how The Coach Approach can transform your personal and professional life? Become the game changer today!

Ask about my One on One Coaching Programs,  Group Coaching Programs and Workshops for individuals, teams and organisations.

With over 35 years of coaching and mentoring experience working with executives, business owners, coaches and entrepreneurs, I will coach you to gain clarity of direction and partner you in taking action towards living your inspirational vision with confidence, presence and freedom.

Contact Annette today for an introductory coaching session email: http://annettestanton.com/contact/

The Power of Vision for Life & Business Success

Visioning has been a natural part of my life as far back as I can remember. We all use visioning throughout our day whether we are conscious or not. I know which I prefer, after spending many years of reacting to life, and that is to be fully present to my inspirational vision.

As a previous world master’s champion sportswoman, using the power of vision through creative visualization for peak performance was an important part of our training regime. I quickly realized that I could use the same visioning process to improve my life and business in fulfilling my potential.

Over the past 35 years, using the power of vision has become a natural way of life, which has been the most powerful tool I have ever used to transform every area of my life.

The life vision process has supported me in becoming an author and a writer, an international speaker, being happily married, living in my dream home, created an international coaching business, developing my natural creativity, loving family and friends, living with inner peace, fulfillment, presence, purpose and inspiration every day; to name only a few.

Survey Shows that Visualising Success Works!

The visioning process is becoming widely known and utilised in the world of business, finances, relationships, sales, life transitioning, sporting, peak performance, success etc. throughout the world.

Last week I came across an article by Eilene Zimmerman published by Forbes (Entrepreneurs) Magazine with the headline reading – Survey Shows that Visualising Success Works.

A new study by TD Bank showed that business owners use visualisation (pictures and idea boards) to meet their entrepreneurial goals. This survey found that people who imagine their financial and business goals are more confident, they would achieve them than people who don’t.

When your inspirational vision is big enough the strategy to reach it will appear

By visualising your personal and professional goals, we can focus on them more, they feel more real and they feel more possible. We also become better at actually moving toward them. When creating a vision board in direct alignment with your vision, goals and values, which usually has images, photos, objects and words, we are immersing ourselves in our goals, in a multi-sensory, experiential way – through words, ideas, vision and feeling.

This whole approach (holistic experience) allows us to connect emotionally with our goals and our process in reaching them. When we invest the time to visualise, in detail, we become more emotionally connected to our goals. 

Masterful Lessons when Focussing on the Big Picture

One of the greatest challenges I have had when it comes to focussing on the big picture is the importance of living in the present moment – yes, enjoying the journey – whilst gently keeping your eyes on your vision.

Today, my personal and professional vision boards include my inner vision and outer vision. This means my core values, the essence of who I am, what is important to my everyday way of life and business now and my evolving inspirational vision.

Over the 35 years of utilising the power of vision, creative visualisation, daily visioning and vision planning, I have learnt many life lessons. Yes, I have lived much of my vision and some parts, not so much. This has taught me to let go of expectations and not to be attached to the exact way my life is meant to look.

I have learnt that my vision will continue to evolve and if I hold on too tightly, then I may miss an opportunity right in front of me that is trying to guide me towards a higher vision that ultimately will give me greater meaning, purpose and fulfilment. Another learning lesson has been to stop trying to control everything and everybody, to practice the art of surrendering, allowing and presence.

That’s why it is important to have the whole essence of who you are on your vision board – not just what you think and say you want in life. There is a power within you that goes way beyond your thinking mind based on your needs, wants and desires.

Many people I work with have declared that they have achieved a lot in life and wondering why they are still not fulfilled. They are looking for meaning and purpose in their life. Many people are chasing the outside goals; they may achieve this and then set another goal, and another, still not feeling happy or successful.

I can certainly relate to this myself, which is why my visioning and vision boards look and feel very different today with both inner vision and outer vision.

Transform your Life and Business to New Heights

Are you interested, or even curious, about how The Coach Approach can transform your business and personal life? Become the game changer today!

Ask about my One on One Coaching Programs,  Group Coaching Programs and Workshops for individuals, teams and organisations.

With over 35 years of coaching and mentoring experience working with executives, business owners, coaches and entrepreneurs, I will coach you to gain clarity of direction and partner you in taking action towards living your inspirational vision with confidence, presence and freedom.

Contact Annette today for an introductory coaching session email: http://annettestanton.com/contact/

 

Your Body’s Intelligence: Living and Working in your Free-Flow Zone

What does it mean when it comes to working and living in your free-flow zone? Whatever is going on in your personal and professional life right now, there is a great diamond in there that is ready to evolve into brilliance. There is something about being in your zone that will open up new opportunities with less effort and stress. 

This week I was with a client who is an entrepreneur, very much a go-getter personality with 3 types of business. One of the things he brought up during our coaching session was that we enjoyed taking time out, at different times, throughout the day to go and do something physical that he enjoyed doing; like go for a run. This gave him some sort of outlet that had him really connect with his body.  

I congratulated him because what that indicated to me was that he trusted his free-flow zone. For him to truly be focused and to naturally allow his entrepreneurial spirit to fulfil his potential, then he needed those breaks in between. When working with your strategic mindset, it is important to consciously be connected to the body through some form of physical activity. This was his method of doing that.  

Some of the things I like to do to stay connected with my free-flow zone are to walk in nature with my dog, creative visualization, meditation, conscious deep breathing, swimming, channel writing, jogging, gardening etc.  

One of the things he then said to me was that he wanted to not feel guilty about taking time out during the day because of the old 9-5 mentality. I mentioned that I was reading an article recently about how leaders in major organisations today have developed a greater awareness around the importance of having those breaks in between.  

Your Body’s Intelligence: Living and Working in your Free-Flow Zone

It’s interesting how the subject of innovation, creativity, and diversification often comes up and how to develop these qualities. The interesting part about this is that these qualities will develop naturally when you give yourself plenty of space in your mind and body by taking regular breaks. It is not something you can work out in your mind. It lies inside the listening of the space you form when you create mind – body – soul connection. It occurs naturally, when you become the observer of yourself, with the important part being that you stay connected. It is an inner body connection.  

Often we talk about staying connected now via social media, networking, collaborations etc., about being connected and the value of connection. What does connection truly mean? It means that you are truly connected with who you are, your real self, what are your true core values that you live by (walk your talk) and your deep knowledge of why you do what you do. This way of being will activate a new communication style gaining a natural interest in others and getting to know who they truly are with open curiosity.  

It’s not about being connected through language or through commonality alone. Yes that’s one level of it, but I can tell you that if you go underneath all of that, staying connected with your true self, trusting and acting on your free-flow zone – staying connected with your body’s intelligence – no matter where you are, no matter who you are with, no matter what the conversation is about, you will naturally connect with inspiring presence.  

One of the things I challenged my client with this week was to wholeheartedly trust his free-flow zone by putting it in action. To notice the guilt, and take action anyway. The guilt trip is the old business model that did not work for him any longer.  

I mentioned to him that it sounds like he is readjusting to the natural formation of a new business model that looked very different for him – of mind – of body – of soul. Staying connected with the head-heart-gut. Whatever language you prefer. It is important to match your own evolution with awareness; otherwise, you will continue to hit the glass ceiling trying to fit into someone else’s vision. 

So when you stay connected, you will be in your free-flow zone and you will know exactly the right action to take in direct correlation with your inspirational vision. You will also hear the intuitiveness – the gut feelings – the hunches – knowing the right actions you need to take at the right time. Instead of the head taking over, you want your body to be connected and then you will naturally bring your strategic mind in through the body’s intelligence.  

Focus on your Priorities: Ink your Vision

One of the regular questions I ask clients is “Do you have a vision?” I get really excited when they can tell me clearly what their vision is. Then I ask, “Have you written it down?” 99.9% of the time the answer is NO – as their finger moves towards their head, and they tap their temple, saying, “It’s all in here,” with a huge proud smile on their face.  

There is a great motto that goes like this: “Ink what you think!” When you do write down your vision, goals, and action steps, they become clearer. As you write, you are affirming to your conscious and subconscious mind what you truly desire. I find that this is when the answers on how to achieve your vision also become clearer. When you keep everything in your head, it creates a feeling of overwhelming clutter, with the emotional reaction of “How am I going to fit it all in with so little time?” Sound familiar? 

You would be surprised at how many people I coach write down their vision, goals and inspired action steps at the start of their coaching journey and when the time comes for their coaching review, just how astounded they are as to how much they have achieved, even if they have not looked at the list since writing it. Just imagine what happens when you write down your vision, goals and inspired action steps, and look at them regularly to keep yourself on the path of achieving every one of them. 

Focus on your Priorities: Ink your Vision

For instance, I remember coaching Mary who expressed feelings of being overwhelmed because she had just moved interstate, had been promoted to a newly created position, was moving in with her new boyfriend and going through divorce proceedings. Wow! These are huge changes in anyone’s life, wouldn’t you agree? As Mary telephoned in for her next coaching session, which was an opportunity to review her achievements over the past three months, there was a note of disappointment in her voice as she said, “I haven’t had time to look at my goals”.  

As I had already reviewed her goals prior to her coaching session, I quickly reminded her of what she had actually achieved. As she pulled out her list of goals, she was pleasantly surprised to see that the goals she had written down matched up with the major changes happening in her life. 

The message I would like to leave you with is that we sometimes get so overwhelmed in life that we do not even acknowledge ourselves for what we are achieving on a daily basis. The feeling of being overwhelmed or stressed clouds the truth and we don’t get to see our own accomplishments. You can use those feelings as a signal to take a reality check and see what’s really going on.  

When you take the time out of your busy day to look at what you actually have accomplished, you will always be pleasantly surprised at just how much you have been in action with during your day. The problem is your main focus may be on what you still have not accomplished and this will always keep the clouds of disillusion over your eyes with the continual feeling of not getting anywhere in life. This is an illusion and a self-sabotage mechanism that is not the truth. Always remain focused on what you are taking action on each day, no matter what you are doing and acknowledge yourself for what you are accomplishing inside your day. 

Creating Emotional Intelligence and Mental Strength

Success in today’s market goes beyond intellectual intelligence and mental strength. In fact, emotional intelligence is the revolutionary leadership style built on futurist thinking that challenges the status quo of leadership, teamwork, management and partnership.

Studies have proven that people with high emotional intelligence have greater mental health, job performance and leadership skills.

Emotional intelligence has been around since the year dot. It has just been given a new label that can be heard and understood in the business world today.

Leadership language has changed over the last 10 years. We use to look at it in terms of data.  Now we look at it in terms of the story we tell. How to create a connection with the people we’re leading. We do that by being consciously aware of the choices we make every single day.

Emotional Intelligence is essential for excellence.

Emotional intelligence is the capability of individuals to recognize and understand your own emotions as well as others. Discern between different feelings, use emotional intelligence to guide thinking and behaviour, and manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one’s goals.

One of the greatest challenges when it comes to high emotional intelligence is recognizing the emotions of others and to be aware when your own internal reaction is happening. To remain still in mind and body, making sure you remain fully engaged and connected. Many struggle with this by reacting and disconnecting.

Creating Emotional Intelligence and Mental Strength

Why is emotional intelligence important?

An organization, which is emotionally intelligent, has staff that is motivated, productive, efficient, aligned with business and committed. This creates a team who are more effective, confident, likeable, happy and rewarded.

Emotional intelligence is applicable to every human interaction in business: from staff motivation to customer service, from brainstorming to company presentations. But the subject is far deeper and wider which affects the overall quality of your life.

Creating high emotional intelligence will develop greater awareness to understand and deal with:

  • how we assess people
  • how relationships develop
  • how our beliefs generate our experience
  • how to deal with resistance to change, power struggles, judgment, competition
  • how to access your vision, inspiring leadership, influential success, and much more.

A business, in which the staff is emotionally intelligent, is one, which enables them to work together to maximum effectiveness. This can only increase the organisation’s success.

What skills/knowledge will create high emotional intelligence?

  • Learn ways to better manage your emotional state creating self-motivation.
  • The ability to recognize and understand your own emotions, as well as others.
  • Develop interpersonal skills with greater self-awareness.
  • Learn skills to regulate your thoughts with natural empathy.
  • Identify what your focus blocks are and practice creating mental strength.
  • Gain conscious awareness of the thoughts, behaviours and who you are being.
  • Develop your unique ways to cope with stress and create more balance.
  • Learn to trust and act on your gut instincts and intuition.
  • Create stillness of mind for deeper listening to respond from a place of powerful presence.
  • Commit to full engagement by being present and connected.

The benefits of emotional intelligence:

  • Communicate more succinctly with everyone around you.
  • Better creativity and innovation.
  • Deepened level of employee commitment and engagement.
  • Improve your personal workplace performance.
  • Retention of valued employees.
  • Improved productivity and profitability.
  • Improved mental strength enhancing resiliency.
  • Improved communication and relating ability.
  • Harmonious culture and change management.
  • Fulfilling and connected relationships.
  • Authentic living.

If you know it is time to create high emotional intelligence and mental strength and become the person you know you truly want to be, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Live a Stress Less Life

In your busy daily life, it is very important to make time for some form of relaxation. This can help to reduce the effects of stress on your body and your mind. If you take on the practice of daily relaxation, you will feel much more in control of your life. Relaxation involves both the body and the mind. To work on one is to work on the other. Even if you choose to take 10 deep conscious breaths every day as your form of relaxation, then that is better than doing nothing at all.

Relaxation does not mean being lazy. It plays an important role in the rejuvenation of your body and quietening of the mind. Taking time out for yourself may be a challenge for you. You might feel a sense of guilt about it. This is normal, especially if you are not yet practised in doing things just for you. You might even find that the challenge is in ‘being’ with yourself, especially if you are the type of person who continually needs to be ‘doing’ things with others or for others and the thought of being alone is not inviting. It does take practice and the more you do your chosen form of relaxation, the more you will want to spend time with yourself.

The benefits of daily relaxation go beyond the obvious one of reducing stress. You will also gain clarity of mind, your creativity and intuition will unfold, you will deal with challenges with much more inner peace, you will have more energy . . . the list goes on.

Live a Stress Life

 

Simple Relaxation Techniques

After many years of practising different quick and easy forms of relaxation, I would like to share with you some of the ones that have helped me to maintain a stress less life.

Mirror Work

Look into your eyes in the mirror every day for 1-2 minutes. Connect with yourself by staying focused on your eyes. Notice how you might want to judge yourself and your facial features. Let it go and keep coming back to your eyes. Take deep breaths whilst looking into your eyes and connecting with yourself. If you hear any negative head talk during this process, write it down after your 1-2 minutes is up and create positive affirmations from your negative head talk. This is your subconscious coming to the forefront, indicating beliefs that you may need to work on.

Conscious Breathing

Sit in an upright position or lie down. Close your eyes if you wish. Concentrate on your breathing, in through your nose and releasing the breath out through your mouth. Say in your head: “I’m breathing in . . . I’m breathing out . . .” as you stay focused on your breath. This will slow down your mind and reduce feelings of anxiety. Conscious breathing is beneficial if you are lying in bed and feeling restless. This will help you to relax for a better sleep. Try it.

Nostril Breathing

Place the thumb of your right hand over your right nostril. Take a deep breath in through the left nostril. Place the right index finger over the left nostril and release the breath out of the right nostril. Repeat this 5 times using your right hand, and then repeat the same process using your left hand. Notice how quickly any anxious feelings dissipate.

Open Eye Candle Meditation

Light your favourite candle and place it on a table in front of you. Place yourself in a comfortable sitting position with your back upright. Gaze into the flame of the candle. Take slow, long deep breaths as you hold a soft gaze on the flame. Notice the calm and serene feelings that pour through your body. Stay with the gaze from 5 minutes to 20 minutes or more if you desire.

Walking in Nature

When you are enjoying your daily walk out in the beautiful sunshine, practice being 100% present to nature. Let any thoughts drift through the mind and focus on the trees, the roses in the garden, all the nature surrounding you. Every step you take, be conscious and feel your body moving. Look into the sky and feel the expansion of your chest as you take in the next breath. The miracle of nature mirrors the growth of you. Just as through nurturing, a seed grows, so through nurturing yourself, you will flourish. Say your positive affirmations while you are walking and notice how tall you feel.

If you sick and tired of continually running on empty, feeling drained in your energy levels and this is affecting your productivity and efficiency at work with no energy left for yourself at the end of the day, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Achieve your Goals: Inspired Action Planning gains Clarity

How often have you felt a gap between where you are now in life and what you truly want to be, do and have? I do not know how many times I would set a goal and get so excited about achieving it – that feeling of, “Yes, it’s definitely going to be real this time around, I’ve made up my mind!” Then slowly I noticed the excitement fading into uncertainty and frustration. Can you relate to this?

One of the crucial keys to achieving your goals is to have an action plan detailing how you are going to close the gap and make your goal a reality.

I have always been goal orientated, right from my sporting career days, with the goal being to compete in the next championships or achieve the best player for the season. At the start of each pre-season, I would make up a plan of how I was going to achieve this, what type of training was required from pre-season, through to maintaining my seasonal fitness and post-season.

Years later, I realised that I had only ever put a plan together to achieve my sporting goals. What about my personal, business career, relationships and every other area of my life? Maybe that is why those areas were the most challenging parts of my life. They were also the most rewarding learning lessons that I love coaching people in today.

I soon realised that if I could use this process in my sporting career, I could apply the same practice to my whole life. I was so excited about this new insight I had gained for myself. As soon as I made a step-by-step plan of how I was going to achieve goals in all areas, I felt I had more control of my life, and could move forward with greater balance.

I remember years ago I wrote out my goals on a sheet of paper and stuck it in the filing cabinet, never looking at it until the next time I cleaned the cabinet out. To my surprise, I found that most goals were still achieved. It was then that I realised that if I had a step-by-step plan of action towards achieving these goals, I would consciously and purposefully achieve them.

A common question I hear from clients is ”Where do I begin to achieve my goals?” Are you the sort of person who has goals, who may even read your goals regularly, but wonder why you are not achieving them? Well, do you have a plan? Without a plan, a goal will feel like a distant hopeful wish. You will stay on track much more easily with a step-by-step plan, however, small the steps. I believe in taking little steps and building momentum from there.

Achieve your Goals: Inspired Action Planning gains Clarity

 

There are 6 Steps to Inspired Action Planning

  • What is your Goal?
  • Why do you want to achieve this Goal?
  • When do you want to achieve this Goal by?
  • Who are your Resources – the people who can support you in achieving your Goal?
  • How? These are the action steps you currently know you want to take to achieve your Goal.
  • How will you celebrate when you have achieved your Goal?

Enjoy planning your inspirational stepping-stones to achieving your goals.

If you know it is time to step up and play a bigger and stronger game that truly inspires you, your team, your family etc., contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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The Game Changer: Change your Life with Powerful Statements

Yes, you can change your life. I know this is a very profound statement and I say it because I have done it myself. Until I was about 30 years old, I was so shy that I hardly ever spoke, and I lived a lot of my life in my head. My only self-expression was through my physical body, as an excellent sportswoman.

I started to wonder why I could express myself naturally as a sportswoman, but not in my personal and professional life. This was a challenge to me because at that time I spent a lot of my life worrying about my past (which I could not do anything about) or thinking about the future (which had not even occurred yet).

As I observed myself in my sporting arena, what stood out the most was that I had to respond to the plays spontaneously in the moment, otherwise the opportunity was lost. That was my breakthrough! I was 100% present in the moment on and off the field as the captain coach, leading the team and holding on to the higher purpose of the game. Obviously, I had trained my level of fitness and skills to respond quickly.

My greatest challenge in my personal and professional life was living in the present moment. Once I started to practise being present, I began to hear my predominantly negative self-statements, which were obviously based on my fears of all the ‘what ifs’ (which, by the way, never happened). What a waste of energy and time in my life that was!

I decided it was time to get serious about this positive self-statement stuff! I admit I was still a little apprehensive about affirmations because I had attempted to do them a few years before, without success. Now I realise that I had always done them in a very reactive state when I either felt negative or frustrated – and that I’d soon given up, wondering why affirmations never worked for me.

Once I began to do my affirmations more effectively, I had to keep saying them, as the conscious mind will only take on the thoughts and words you consistently tell yourself. This will eventually become a part of who you are naturally, as a new – and rewarding – habit.

I will take you through the steps I took that helped me make the changes. To get the maximum from my experience, why not go through the steps with me now? I have used the true-life example of developing my self-confidence in my personal and professional life.

The Game Changer: Change your Life with Powerful Statements

Step 1

I wrote down the negative head talk and became conscious of what I was automatically saying to myself, about others and myself.

e.g. “I am not confident” . . .  “I wish I looked and acted confidently like her or him”  . . . “I am not very good at . . .”

Step 2

Then I changed the wording of those negative self-statements into positive present tense affirmations and wrote them on palm cards to keep in the office, car, fridge etc. as a reminder.

e.g.

I am confident

I act confidently

I am great at . . . 

Step 3

I chose to say the affirmations as many times as possible during my day no matter what. I said them with feeling, emotion and belief, as though I had already achieved them.

Tip:

Choose a maximum of three affirmations to say each time. If you do not feel comfortable with the affirmation, you may need to change the wording to suit you. Keep saying your chosen affirmations until you feel you own them and your life begins to show up that way.

Step 4

I asked myself, “Who do I need to become to achieve this?” Then I made a list of what confident people do, how they act, what they wear, how they walk. I started taking on all those actions, like walking tall down the street looking people in the eyes, smiling and acting confidently (yes, fake it until you make it – definitely works), speaking to people even when I felt nervous.

 

With daily commitment in practising to be confident, I built a new habit, which changed my life, and I naturally became confident. The new me went from being a shy person to becoming a public speaker, moving interstate and developing my first business, stepping out of my comfort zone and participating in adventurous events such as jumping out of a plane skydiving, just to mention a few.

I cannot tell you how long or short a time it took because there was no line to cross over that marked the difference between ‘shy’ and ‘confident’. I remember one day just noticing how confident I now was and it felt so natural and humbling.

We are all made up of our habits. I decided to make being confident a new habit, purely by taking on new behaviours and acting out ‘confidence’ until it was a part of who I naturally am today. If I can do it, I know you can too. Think about what habit you would like to change and start taking on the new actions until they are a part of who you are. Does a little part of my shyness still pop up in my life every so often? Yes! Of course, it does and in that moment I remind myself that I am not committed to being that way.

Who are you committed to being in your life? Become the game changer today!

If you know it is time to change your game in life and become the person you know you truly want to be, contact me today for an introductory coaching conversation. www.annettestanton.com/contact/

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Strong Foundations: Never Underestimate the Basics

How much time do you waste looking for things and you just can’t seem to find stuff when you need it?

How often do you find yourself losing focus and energy because you keep thinking that you must get around to fixing or changing this or that?

How often do you feel frustrated when all you want to do is make more time for yourself and your family?

Melissa is a business owner who came to me for coaching because she wanted to increase her profits and her client attraction. She expressed her feelings of overwhelm and frustration because she wanted to get more organised inside her business and found herself not being very productive at all – in fact, she felt like she was wasting a lot of her time, energy and money.

One of the first places Melissa started was in cleaning up her environment. This meant clearing all the clutter in her office, home, car etc. I explained to Melissa that ‘anything that is not organised – will always organise her’. She told me that she could relate to this because she felt like all her time was being chewed up with unproductive patterns and she did not want another year to go by without making time to work on her business instead of getting stuck inside the day to day putting out of fires.

At Melissa’s next coaching session she was a new person. Much more relaxed, confident and enthusiastic about her business. She has now found time to do things that she had been putting off for years just by clearing the clutter and making space in her life. Melissa found that by organising her time, she miraculously found more time in her life to choose. A big one for Melissa was to spend more time with her children and has now put systems in place that work for her lifestyle and business style.

Melissa recognised that because she was so used to working and living inside of clutter, she had never experienced the difference before. She is also noticing how much more present she is when at home as she did not realise just how much of her time was caught up with not really be there. She was physically there – but not emotionally because her mind was always on work. Melissa is now living her life fully and loving her new founded lifestyle and business style.

Melissa admitted to me that she was sceptical about the effects of decluttering and most thankful that she took the actions because she had no idea that it would give her all of what she has now gained in her whole life.

If you want success in your life and business, then get started and clear the clutter. Give this gift to yourself; just like Melissa did by spending the time to declutter every area of your life – home, office, car, computer, garage, cupboards etc. and you will be amazed at your results.

Strong Foundations: Never Underestimate the Basics

Ways to get started:

  1. Plan your time to declutter (yes stick it in your diary as an appointment). Make this time a priority and be realistic as it may take a few days or even longer.
  2. Break it down into chunks. Write down your areas to declutter and choose one area at a time. Choose the highest energy and time drains first.
  3. Choose what you are going to do with your clutter. Sell it or have a garage sale. Give it away to a friend or someone in need. Place it in a gift box if it is something you have never used and wrap it for a friend.
  4. Clear out your computer. Use the 3 D Motto – Do it – Delegate it – Dump it. Make sure you do a back up first.
  5. Keep up-to-date. Book in your declutter time ahead each year and place it in your diary.

A Final Thought:

Never underestimate the basics. It is the simple task of decluttering that will support you to achieve what you want in your life and business success.  This is the very thing that will give you more time and more energy to free you up to do the important things that will help you to live your whole life with ease, flow and clarity.