Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

When you compare yourself to others, in that very instant you may possibly be negating yourself and what you have already achieved in your life.

I remember my coach saying,

“Don’t compare other people’s outside world, to your inside world”.

You really do not know what is going on in their world, or whether they are truly happy, especially when you compare yourself to another person and what they have materially.

For example, you might notice a colleague who looks and acts confidently with external material success and you catch yourself saying “Where’s my success, I work just as hard” or “I wish I could be as confident as him/her”. Only you know those moments that really hit you in the stomach.

Next time you catch yourself in this position, notice your tone of voice as to if it has a negative charge of hope and wishful thinking. Behind this emotive feeling is generally a put-down of your own capabilities, your own potential to achieve in life.

The thing that you may not be aware of is that the other person is probably comparing themselves to you – about some completely different area of inadequacy within themselves. We all have our own inadequacies.

The day you stop comparing and start to acknowledge
the strengths and good fortune of others will be the day
you unleash your unique attributes.

Just notice how the more you keep comparing, the further away from you that good fortune gets. You will not receive that which you do not acknowledge within yourself. So next time you notice yourself comparing, catch yourself and acknowledge others for their good looks, qualities, possessions, good fortune etc.

For example, the next time you see a confident and successful person, say in a positive tone of voice, “Wow! That’s for me!” Start to get excited about the fact that you have attracted this quality into your life just by seeing it in others, for this is normally an indication that you are ready to unleash what’s already inside of you.

The sooner you choose to acknowledge others, the sooner the things you see in their lives will show up in your own life. Creating a supportive self-image will accelerate your growth and transform your life for the better.

Create a Supportive Self-Image

What is your perception of yourself? This can be a challenging question to ask. How you feel, see and think about yourself is everything. Self-image is not something that just happens to you; it is that all-important concept you have of yourself. Having a negative self-image will create a negative outcome when you try to move towards achieving your goals. The good news is that you can change your self-image, your personality and your behaviours.

If you see yourself as a winner in life and you act like a winner, then all areas of your life will begin to flow. Use strong images with pictures, feelings and words with the roles you want to play in life. What you see for yourself, is what you attract, and what you feel within yourself, is who you are.

Take the time to identify how you see yourself and how you truly feel about yourself. As you become conscious of who you want to become, you can make the change.

Results in Life: Become the CEO of your Mind and your Life

When I first heard the statement ‘your thoughts and your words create your world’, I admit to having major resistance. There was no way I wanted to believe that I was responsible for everything that happened to me!

How could my thoughts and my words be responsible for the way my life went? I decided to test it out. I began to imagine there was another ‘Annette’ hovering above my head in a helicopter as I went through my day, observing the words I spoke and the thoughts that went through my mind. I called this my ‘360 degree helicopter view’.

The first thing I noticed was how challenging it was to keep reminding myself of my mission. It is so easy to go into automatic pilot with our everyday habits, actions and thoughts. When I did become more conscious of the thoughts going through my mind each day, I was astonished how much I was saying to myself that really did not serve me.

So then my mission became to catch myself every time I had a negative thought and replace this with a supportive positive thought. Sometimes I would even write down the negative thoughts so that I could become conscious of the thinking process that was really running my life.

This must have been the most challenging, yet very rewarding start to becoming consciously aware of my thoughts and the words I spoke. I found this equation really helped me :

Your Thoughts = Your Feelings = Your Actions = Your Results.

Results in Life

Your thoughts and language are made up of a string of words (this can be positive or negative). Your thoughts and language will always give you a positive or negative feeling. Your positive or negative feelings will inspire you to take an action or no action. Your action or no action will always give you a positive or negative result in life.

Results in Life:  Become the CEO of your Mind and your Life

Consciously choose your thoughts and feelings every day to be what you want your results to be in life.

Identify what you are repeating to yourself about yourself on a daily basis. As soon as you become conscious of this, you can choose a positive self-statement to replace it with.

Start being your own best friend by changing your thoughts and your language towards yourself and others. Once you get rid of the negative head talk and change to positive supportive statements, you will change your life. Take on the motto of playing ‘positive FM’ instead of ‘negative FM’.

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